Why chase after an ideal or a lost love? Each love is unique and cannot be cloned, no matter what!

You can never love any two or more people in the same manner and with the same intensity. Love is an emotion of a myriad hues, never experienced in exactly the same way by different people. And never again even by the same two people in an unchanged form. This is because love is dependent on so many variable factors that it cannot possibly be replicated.

The love that two people share stems from their individual needs, mutual chemistry, and also from their own capacity to give and receive the emotion. It is dependent on individual personal characteristics, and each persons experiences and unique circumstances also have a deep bearing on the outcome. This accounts for the rather changeable nature of love.

Not all loves, nor indeed all relationships, can feed the same need in you. Physical need is just one aspect; we also have emotional needs, spiritual and intellectual needs, and some needs that we ourselves may not understand. Hence you get attracted to other people and at any given time, could theoretically have loving relationships with multiple people. Needs vary, and so a relationship based on need, would vary too.

The only people who can love everyone in exactly the same manner, repeating the same experiences, are almost certainly psychopaths, or at least sociopaths, using their bookish understanding of the emotion to exploit others. In short, these are people just acting out the emotion.

We waste a lifetime in the impossible pursuit of an ideal love or the recreation of a love we once had and lost but cloning is not part of the Love DNA! You cannot ever experience the love of a Romeo and Juliet however hard you try, because that love was the product of their circumstances and the interplay of their individual characteristics and chemistry at a certain time in history, placed in a unique geographical setting. How can you possibly love like them, when you are not them? Heck, even if Romeo and Juliet were themselves to step out of Shakespeares pages, with changed variables, they cannot possibly love the same way again! This time round they might end up happily married, growing old together or splitting paths along the way!

You can certainly love several times in your lifetime, sometimes simultaneously too, but never ever in the exact same manner, clocking the same experiences and emotion. That is impossible because we change and evolve as we go along in life, and our needs and dependencies change too. Time and experience teach us better control of our emotions, patience, forgiveness and self-sufficiency. Conversely, bad experiences at love and relationships may lead to bitterness and cynicism in some.

So, if people change so much and so do their needs, how then can our experience of love remain the same? Love changes too. And that is what makes it so precious, so unique to each. Why look for a clone when you can create your own unique love?

DISCLAIMER : Views expressed above are the author's own.

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Can love be replicated? - The Times of India Blog