Every new year, I vow to clean up a lot of things in my life. My diet. My house. Even the apps on my phone and the files on my computer.
I also make plans to clean up my spiritual life. Ill resolve to finally get into a prayer or contemplation routine. Or that Ill get to a church service every weekend (or thereabouts). And Ill start a gratitude practice.
Then life intervenes and things get messy. I fall behind and dont do what Ive set out to. I beat up on myself, and the negative self-talk begins. Finally, I just give up, saying to myself, Well, Ive never managed to keep it up so why start? Im just going to fail.
Its a bit of a self-defeating cycle. And, I wonder, if its what spirituality and engaging with the Divine is all about. Do I really have to become Kevin 2.0 in order to be spiritual? Is spirituality merely a never-ending self-improvement project?
So, lately, Im thinking about whether focusing on somehow making myself better is kind of an issue. Its also, Im coming to understand, not the point. Rather than cleaning up maybe I try to live out of that messiness instead. Its whats real, after all.
I was thinking about all of this when the Christmas issue of Nadia Bolz-Webers email newsletter showed up in my inbox. Shes a Lutheran minister and public theologian in the United States. Bolz-Weber writes a lot about grace, and this holiday missive was no exception.
Bolz-Weber writes theres a reason shes obsessed with grace. She says our world is fixated on making judgements and hoarding wealth and being best and OPTIMIZATION, and thats shes triedtrying harder, but that doesnt make her free. It just exhausts her.
I really resonated with this, particularly when she went on to write, Maybe you too vow each morning to try harder so you can finally feel like you are enoughToday I will start meditating and become a vegan and start training for a marathon and go back to college and go to the container store to so I can organize my life and be in control.
Grace, says Bolz-Weber, is the exact opposite being in control. You cant earn it, but you receive it just because you need it. Grace might be inconvenient, but its what is necessary. You dont find grace, it finds you.
Not to quote Oprah, but I had a bit of an ah-hah moment at that.Why not meet the Divine where I am? After all, God is everywhere, just waiting to be noticed. Thats grace. It shows up in all the messiness of life. In fact, grace exists because of the messiness of life.
Yes, spiritual practices are good. A regular routine is good. Worshipping in community is great. You are more likely to notice the Divine when you make time to really look. But, God is in every moment, jumping up and down and waving ecstatically, waiting for us to see. Or whispering that we might hear.
So, this year, Im resolving to embrace my messy spirituality. Its just as grace-filled and valid as the one I think I should have. Maybe more so. Because its real and grounded in whats going on, right now, in every moment. Its where God arrives to meet me.
And, like the best kind of company, theres no cleaning required to invite the Divine in.
(If youd like to read and subscribe to Bolz-Webers e-newsletter, its called Just Throwing it Out There and you can find it atnadiabolzweber.substack.com)
Kevin Aschenbrenner is a Victoria-based writer, poet and communications professional. He holds an M.A. in Culture and Spirituality from the Sophia Center at Holy Names University in Oakland, Calif. He blogs atwww.dearpopefrancis.ca.
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* This article was published in the print edition of the TImes Colonist on Saturday, January 4th 2020
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Divine grace found in messiness of imperfect life - Times Colonist
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