By Rabbi Dr. Tvzi Hersh Weinreb
When I was young, I was an avid reader of novels. As Ive grown older, I have found myself more interested in good biographies, especially those of great men that try to focus on what made them great. Particularly, I try to discover the roles played by father and mother in the formation of these personalities.
Bible and Talmud contain much material about the lives of prophets, kings and sages, but only occasionally give us a glimpse of the role that parental influences played in making them great.
I recently came across a passage in a book by a man I admire, Rabbi Yitzchak Yaakov Reines (1839-1915). He led an innovative yeshiva in Lida, Lithuania, and was a founder of the Mizrachi Religious Zionist movement. A prolific writer, one of his works is entitled Nod Shel Demaot, which translates as A Flask of Tears.
Rav Reines writes about the important role mothers play in the development of their children, sons and daughters alike. He emphasizes the role of the mother in the development of the Torah scholar.
The sources of his thesis include a verse from this weeks Torah portion, Yitro, in which we read that the L-rd called to Moses from the mountain and said, Thus shall you say to the house of Jacob and declare to the children of Israel you shall be to Me a kingdom of priests and a holy nation.
The Midrash explains that the house of Jacob refers to women and the children of Israel to men. Both men and women must be involved if we are to become a kingdom of priests and a holy nation.
Why the women? asks the Midrash, which answers, Because they are the ones who can inspire their children to walk in the ways of Torah.
Rav Reines adduces another biblical verse to make his point. He refers to the words in the very first chapter of the Proverbs, in which King Solomon offers this good counsel: My son, heed the discipline (mussar) of your father, and do not forsake the instruction (Torah) of your mother.
Then comes the tour de force of Rav Reines essay: the biographical analysis of a great Talmudic sage, Rabbi Yehoshua ben Chananya. The student of Ethics of the Fathers (Pirkei Avot) will recognize his name from a passage in Chapter Two where we read of the five disciples of Rabban Yochanan ben Zakkai. They are enumerated, and the praises of each of them are recounted. Of Rabbi Yehoshua ben Chananya, we learn, Ashrei yoladeto (happy is she who gave birth to him).
Of all the outstanding disciples, only Rabbi Yehoshuas mother is brought into the picture. What special role did she play in his life that earned her honorable mention?
Rav Reines responds by relating an important story of which most of us are sadly ignorant. Bereshit Rabba 64:10 tells of a time, not long after the destruction of the Second Temple, when the Roman rulers decided to allow the Jewish people to rebuild the Temple. Preliminary preparations were already under way for that glorious opportunity when the Kutim, usually identified with the Samaritan sect, confounded those plans. They maligned the Jews to the Romans and accused them of disloyalty. The permission to rebuild was revoked.
Having come so close to realizing this impossible dream, the Jews gathered in the valley of Beit Rimon with violent rebellion in their hearts. They clamored to march forth and rebuild the Temple in defiance of the Romans decree.
However, the more responsible leaders knew that such a provocation would meet with disastrous consequences. They sought for a respected figure, sufficiently wise and sufficiently persuasive, to calm the tempers of the masses and to quell the mutiny. They chose Rabbi Yehoshua ben Chananya for the task.
The Midrash quotes Rabbi Yehoshuas address in full detail. He used a fable as the basis of his argument:
A lion had just devoured its prey, but a bone of his victim was stuck in his throat. The lion offered a reward to anyone who would volunteer to insert his hand into his mouth to remove the bone. The stork volunteered, and thrust its long neck into the lions mouth and extracted the bone.
When the stork demanded his reward, the lion retorted, Your reward is that you can forevermore boast that you had thrust your head into a lions mouth and lived to tell the tale. Your survival is sufficient reward. So, too, argued Rabbi Yehoshua, our survival is our reward. We must surrender the hope of rebuilding our Temple in the interests of our national continuity. There are times when grandiose dreams must be foresworn so that survival can be assured.
Rav Reines argues that this combination of cleverness and insight was the result of Rabbi Yehoshuas mothers upbringing. He was chosen for this vital role because the other leaders knew of his talents, and perhaps even knew that his ability to calm explosive tempers and sooth raging emotions is something he learned from his mother, of whom none other than Rabban Yochanan ben Zakkai had exclaimed, Happy is she who gave birth to him.
This wonderful insight of Rav Reines is important for us to remember, particularly those of us who are raising children. Psychologists have long stressed the vital roles that mothers play in child development. In our religion, we put much stress on the fathers role in teaching Torah to his children but we often underestimate and indeed sometimes forget the role of the mother.
We would do well to remember that Rav Reines is simply expanding upon G-ds own edict to Moses at the very inception of our history: Speak to the house of Jacob! Speak to the women as well as to the men.
Mothers, at least as much as fathers, are essential if we are to create a kingdom of priests and a holy nation.
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