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The people who do the most incredible, selfless things are usually the ones we have to drag into the spotlight, kicking and screaming.

I get it. DeKalb police officer Jeff Winters didnt give a homeless man food, water, pillows, a duffel bag and bug spray with the hopes of flashbulbs popping. After all, he didnt get interviewed the many other times hes done something similar in his nearly 23-year career.

Most folks dont ring Salvation Army bells, donate to GoFundMe pages, volunteer for nonprofits, all those philanthropic actions, for personal benefit. That is, unless you count the warmth it puts in their heart when they put another persons well-being ahead of their own.

Many of them do those things for the very same reason I like to write about their doing them: with the hope selflessness is contagious, and that it could inspire others to follow suit.

Its not that we dont want to better society. We just get so busy, dont we? If we drive by a motorist with a flat tire, we might think of stopping, but weve also got to get to work on time. On the way home? The kids have baseball in half an hour. No time to stop.

Maybe weve gotten too jaded to toss our change into a kettle, or into the bucket of a homeless person addressing drivers with a cardboard sign. Too many people just looking for a handout, right?

Winters put that into perspective for me, however.

We dont know why people are down on their luck. Sometimes, bad things happen to good people. Sometimes, they come in waves. Many people dont choose their demons. Its the other way around.

What if a sandwich or, perhaps more powerfully, the compassion behind it, could be the turning point for someone who desperately needs a hand? What if feeling that someone cares could change the life trajectory for someone whos downtrodden?

The work done by beloved DeKalb High School teacher Ata Shakir dovetailed with Winters act of kindness. Shakir died far too soon, at age 41, Friday night. As a guy who doesnt live in DeKalb County yet, I was humbled to get a brief glimpse of Shakirs work, and the countless members of the community he touched, by speaking with his family and his peers.

Something his wife, Brenda, said stuck with me. A lot of what she said did, actually, but in particular, it was that she hurt so badly for the community because Shakir was going to keep making it better.

I figure the least we can do is our very best to pick up where he left off.

Getting to know Winters and Shakir as best I could reminded me of something: I might not be able to make the world a better place.

But we sure can.

Christopher Heimerman is the news editor at the Daily Chronicle. He can be reached at cheimerman@shawmedia.com.

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The Three Golden Rules of Tax – MinuteHack (registration) (blog)

Taxation is political. We all have our own ideas about how the system functions and how it should change. Lets see how the Three Golden Rules of tax apply to one of Britains newest taxes, the soft drinks industry levy or sugar tax.

The First Golden Rule: Lots of small taxes together add up to make big tax bills

National insurance contributions are kept separate from income tax. There is no earthly reason for this except the government doesnt want to admit that, once you factor in NICs, the basic rate of income tax is effectively 32% for people in work, not the headline rate of 20%.

We also have taxes on insurance premiums, airline seats, televisions, legacies and capital gains. There are taxes on selling shares and selling houses. We pay a tax for our cars and lots of tax when we fill them with petrol.

If we smoke, were taxed. If we drink, were taxed. We pay tax on our houses and offices. Not all taxes raise much money.

Aggregates levy brings in 355 million; landfill tax 919 million and cider duty just 296 million. But a billion here and a billion there and soon you are talking about real money, as the US senator Everett Dirksen probably didnt say.

The point of all these taxes is to spread the pain so we notice it less. And, generally, that works. People have no idea how much tax they are actually suffering.

In accordance with the First Golden Rule, the sugar tax is a small impost added to the cost of soft drinks that are already subject to VAT. Its being introduced from April 2018 and will probably add 8p to the price of a can of Coca Cola.

Although the sugar tax is supposed to fight obesity by making sugary drinks more expensive, it is not clear that the most effective way of doing so is with another tax and all the bureaucracy that goes with it.

The sugar tax will be paid by consumers, maybe even on diet products

The Second Golden Rule: No matter what name is on the bill, all taxes are ultimately suffered by human beings

Only people can pay taxes. Employers national insurance contributions are really a tax on our salaries, not a tax on our employers. And while VAT may be handed to the taxman by the businesses we buy stuff from, we end up paying all of it.

Even corporation tax, which sounds like a tax on companies, is really suffered by shareholders, customers and staff.

The sugar tax is no exception. Consistent with the Second Golden Rule, it is levied on the manufacturers of sweetened drinks but they can be expected to pass the cost on to consumers by increasing the prices of their products.

Indeed, they might increase the price of diet drinks in order to keep the cost of their sugary and nonsugary products the same.

The Third Golden Rule: Taxes are kept as invisible as possible

Since we all hate paying taxes, the government has perfected the art of ensuring that we rarely have to hand over the money ourselves.

Most taxes are paid by businesses on our behalf. The PAYE system hides how much national insurance and income tax we pay, while VAT and excise duty are buried in highstreet prices.

Environmental taxes on our energy bills are in deep cover and dont even admit to being taxes. To be honest, almost all taxes are stealth taxes. We noted above that the sugar tax will be paid by drinks manufacturers but consumers will suffer the tax through higher prices.

However, shoppers wont know how much soft drinks industry levy they are paying when they buy a sugary beverage. In fact, they are unlikely to be aware that they are paying it at all. Following the Third Golden Rule, it is kept under wraps.

The new Making Tax Digital initiative will remove us even further from the process by which we pay tax. HMRC wants to collect whats due on our savings through the PAYE machinery operated by employers.

If the plan works, tax returns will be abolished within five years. Once that happens, the vast majority of the UK population will never have to think about tax again. It will represent the apotheosis of the Golden Rules of tax.

The Three Golden Rules explain why the tax system is organized the way it is. They are the reason we have so many taxes, why stealth taxes are so popular with governments, and why we rarely have to pay money directly to HMRC.

Taxes go direct to HMRC, so we don't have to think about them

The soft drinks industry levy complies with all three rules. This suggests to me that it is designed to raise extra revenue, even though the government claims it wants the levy to reduce sugar consumption.

If that were the case, it would be better if the tax were highly visible so that shoppers could immediately see how much extra their sugar hit was costing them. We are warned about the 5p charge for plastic bags, introduced in October 2015, every time we buy a bag at the checkout.

As a result, we have used billions fewer than we did before the 5p charge was introduced. If the government wants the soft drinks industry levy to change behaviour, it should defy the Golden Rules and make the tax as obvious as possible.

Lack of transparency is one reason that government attempts to use taxes to change behaviour are often ineffective. Another problem with tax incentives is that people take advantage of them in a way that governments didnt intend.

Tax avoidance of this kind gives rise to lots of extra tax rules specifically to prevent it. And the unexpected consequences of antiavoidance rules often provide new ways of avoiding taxes.

This leads to even more intricacies as the authorities try to close down loopholes they accidentally created closing other loopholes. In addition, tax reform often makes the law more elaborate as exceptions have to be made for those who would otherwise lose out from change.

This is an edited extract from What Everyone Needs to Know about Tax: An Introduction to the UK Tax System by James Hannam, PhD (Wiley, March 2017).

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Golden Rule Charter School

Welcome to Golden Rule Schools website!

We are a charter school that has seen phenomenal growth in the past years. We started our school in the Oak Cliff area of Dallas in 2001. Since then we have expanded to four campuses. We have a campuses in DeSoto, Cockrell Hill and in Pleasant Grove with the main campus located on 2602 W. Illinois Ave. in Dallas.

Golden Rule has enjoyed great acceptance from the community as evidenced with a waiting list that is generated every school year.

Parents have embraced the educational goals and the safe environment that our campuses provide. Golden Rule provides a small school atmosphere that is conducive to learning and fostering relationships with our parents and students alike.

We will never forget why this school was started in the first place: To make a difference in the lives of our students.

We will never forget the foundation it was started on: Faith, integrity and trust in a higher power.

Golden Rule is proud of its staff, faculty, students and parents. We will continue to seek new and innovative methods to better ourselves and our student population. As community support continues to grow and embrace the Golden Rule Way we will continue to look into expanding into other sectors of this great metroplex in which we live and even throughout this great State of ours.

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Bishop: A Golden Answer to Every Problem – Florida Today

Cindy Bishop, weVENTURE, Edge Published 3:11 p.m. ET June 19, 2017 | Updated 9 hours ago

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Albert Einstein said, We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.

I have been in practice as a lawyer for more than 32 years, in five states. People rarely come to see a lawyer when everything is fine in their lives. As a result, over the years, I have seen a lot of problems. Ive seen families split apart, friendships broken, and businesses and lives ruined. Clients are usually angry and wish their lives had turned out differently.

One day, I had a revelation. Using Albert Einsteins advice, if people would only solve their problems using different thinking And to take that advice a step further, if people thought differently from the beginning, their problems wouldnt even occur.

There is one magic way of thinking that would solve problems before they even begin. It is for all of us to follow The Golden Rule.

The Golden Rule has been around for thousands of years, spoken of in nearly every religion and ethical tradition. From the ancient Greeks to Confucius, in the Jewish, Christian and Muslim religions, and in secular writings, The Golden Rule is a cornerstone principle.

I am a lawyer; I am accustomed to following laws. What if I, what if we all, followed the words of a rule, the ancient Golden Rule?

A spouse would not treat his or her spouse badly because they would not want to be treated that way. Everyone would be honest and efficient in their business dealings no business person would ever want to be cheated financially, so why would they treat others that way? Employers would mentor their employees the way they wish that they had been mentored. And families and neighbors would learn to get along, because they also would not want to be treated as outcasts or with bad intentions.

And in the world outside my law offices windows, all over our country, and in every other country on the planet everyone would treat each other as they wished to be treated. The leaders of nations would ensure their own people, and the people of other nations, would be treated with the same degree of care that they would wish others would bestow upon them.

A quick response to this call to action might be, Why should I do what others are not doing?

Because we need to be the change we want to see in the world. So, lets do it. Lets live by The Golden Rule.

Cindy Bishop is a lawyer and Florida Supreme Court Certified Mediator working in Brevard County.

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Kiwanis Club honors students for following the Golden Rule | Local … – Chippewa Herald

McDonell Central Catholic High School student Samuel Zwickel and Chippewa Falls High School student Tim Wollman were recently honored as May Golden Rule Students by the Chippewa Falls Kiwanis Club.

In honor of their recognition, Kiwanis Club of Chippewa Falls donated $25 to the charity of the students choice.

Zwickel, son of Thomas and Susan, selected the Boy Scouts of America Chippewa Valley Council. Wollman, son of Michael Wollman and Aimee Wollman Nesseth, chose the World Wildlife Foundation.

Throughout the year, the Chippewa Falls Kiwanis Club chooses seniors from Chippewa Falls Senior High School and McDonell Area Catholic Schools, nominated by the respective schools teaches and staff, using specific criteria including, among others:

respect for all nationalities, race, ages and gender

would be willing to stand up for the rights of others

active in doing community service

taking responsibility for ones own actions

The Chippewa Falls chapter meets on Wednesdays at noon at Avalon Hotel and Conference Center. For more information about the Kiwanis Club of Chippewa Falls, visit http://www.chippewafallskiwanis.org.

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At this water park, inclusion is the golden rule – Mother Nature Network

Kids, water parks and summer just go together. The laughter and the splashing and the fun are a hot-weather staple. But water parks aren't necessarily accessible for people with disabilities.

A new water park, Morgan's Inspiration Island in San Antonio, is designed for people of all ages and abilities. The park sits next to Morgan's Wonderland, a 25-acre fully accessible theme park that opened in 2010.

Like Morgans Wonderland, Morgans Inspiration Island is not a special-needs park; its a park of inclusion, Gordon Hartman, philanthropist and developer behind the park, said in a statement. Both were designed with special-needs individuals in mind and built for everyones enjoyment.

Every part of the water park is wheelchair-accessible. (Photo: Morgan's Inspiration Island)

There are five water play areas in the park featuring geysers, water cannons, pools, jets, rain trees and buckets that tip over. There's also a River Boat Adventure ride that takes visitors through a jungle setting as animals and birds call out in the background. In one of the play areas, the water can be warmed up so that guests who have a sensitivity to cold can comfortably play and splash around.

Everything is accessible by wheelchair, and the park also offers special waterproof wheelchairs propelled by compressed air. The park suggests using the specially designed "PneuChair" so visitors don't damage the expensive battery-powered wheelchairs they rely on.

To develop the park, planners worked with doctors, therapists, caregivers and people with special needs. (Photo: Morgan's Inspiration Island)

Both parks were inspired by Hartman's daughter, Morgan, who has special needs.

We decided to call it Morgans Inspiration Island because Morgan truly has been the catalyst for every project weve pursued to help the special-needs community, Hartman said.

Admission to the park is free for anyone with disabilities, although the park suggests online reservations. (For people who do not have special needs, admission to the water park is $12 for children and $15 for adults.)

The park is for guests of all ages and abilities. (Photo: Morgan's Inspiration Island)

Hartman said the park was also designed with water conservation top of mind. Water will be continuously filtered and recirculated and stored in large underground tanks when the park is not in operation.

Hartman said the developers consulted with doctors, therapists, special education teachers, parents and caregivers on the park's design, and people with disabilities have tested the fun prior to opening day, which is June 17.

There are five water play areas in the park. (Photo: Morgan's Inspiration Island)

Morgans Inspiration Island like Morgans Wonderland will concentrate on inclusion and inspire guests with special needs to do things previously thought not to be in their range of capabilities, Hartman said. Those without disabilities and those with, including individuals in wheelchairs, guests with hearing and visual impairments and even guests on ventilators, will be able to play alongside each other and gain a greater appreciation of one another."

The park's play areas feature rain trees, geysers, jets, water cannons and tipping buckets. (Photo: Morgan's Inspiration Island)

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Anti-nuclear peace boat moors in Bodega Bay – Sonoma West

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Although the whipping winds prevented the public from providing a warm welcome to the Golden Rule Thursday afternoon, the anti-nuclear peace sailboat sailed safely into Bodega Bay early Friday morning after a rough night at sea.

It was really fantastic, but really tough, Norman Petersen, the boats skipper said of the trip from Humboldt Bay to Bodega Bay. We got side slapped a couple of times, especially on the stern.

Helen Jaccard, project manager with Veterans for Peace, said they endured eight to 12 foot waves. The waves were just coming up, she said.

The Golden Rule, which has been restored by Veterans For Peace, set sail on Wednesday, June 14, leaving Humboldt Bay on its journey down the California coast to support United Nation talks for a treaty to ban nuclear weapons. The UN General Assembly will discuss the treaty during a meeting in New York, which started Thursday, June 15 and will continue through July 7. The treaty aims to completely eliminate the creation and possession of nuclear weapons. A May 22, 2017 draft of the treaty can be found here: ww.icanw.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/BanDraft.pdf.

The Golden Rule was the very first environmental and peace vessel to take to sea. In 1958, a crew of anti-nuclear weapon activists set sail in attempt to interpose themselves and the boat between the U.S. government and its atmospheric testing of nuclear weapons in the Marshall Islands, according to the Veterans For Peace website.

Captain Albert Bigelow, George Willoughby, William Huntington and David Gale left San Pedro, heading to the U.S. nuclear test zone at Eniwetok atoll. A week into the trip, the starboard jaw of the gaff broke. While the crew was able to fix it, a strong gale ensued, causing the junior crew to grow sick.

Gale almost died, Jaccard said. He couldnt eat for days.

In a second attempt, the crew set sail to Hawaii. They were arrested by the U.S. Coast Guard in Hawaii where they were tried and jailed in Honolulu.

I have the absolute utmost respect for the original men, Petersen said.

The Golden Rule will remain moored at Spud Point Marina in Bodega Bay through Sunday. Visitors can tour the boat Saturday from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. On Saturday, nationally-known author and activist Norman Solomon will speak at Veterans Memorial Hall in Santa Rosa at 7 p.m. Solomon will discuss the current nuclear warfare state and what the world can do to stop nuclear war before it starts. He will also revisit the history of the Golden Rule. Cost to attend is a suggested donation of $15.

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Apple’s Stock Will Treat You Just Fine If You Remember This One Golden Rule, Jim Cramer Reveals – TheStreet.com

Relax, Apple (AAPL) shares will treat you just fine over the long haul.

"When you have these sellers come in, all you have to do is wait them out -- and one of the things I learned as a hedge fund manager is that patience is a true virtue,"TheStreet's founder Jim Cramer, who also manages the Action Alerts PLUS portfolio, said.

Some Apple bears were lurking on Friday.

Appleis set to increase year over year shipments for the iPhone this month, but it might see flat or even downward trending sell-through ahead of the expected iPhone 8 release in September, according to Cowen analyst Timothy Arcuri.

Arcuri estimates 41.5 million iPhone shipments for June quarter, up from 40.4 million shipments the tech giant logged in the same quarter last year. But a 4-million-unit channel inventory drawdown from last June might dampen sell-through rates.

Shares of Apple fell 1.4% to $142.31 at Friday's close. The stock has dropped about 1.4% over the last five sessions amid a broader selloff in high-flying tech names.

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Golden rule: Warriors beat Cleveland Cavaliers in Game 5, clinch championship – Arkansas Online

OAKLAND, Calif. -- As the gold confetti fell and a fresh gray NBA champion cap sat a tad off-kilter on his head, Kevin Durant embraced his mother Wanda. Then he moved across the podium and hugged Stephen Curry before accepting his MVP trophy and hoisting it for everyone to see.

Durant capped his spectacular first season with the Warriors by bringing home an NBA championship, scoring 39 points in a Finals-clinching 129-120 victory over LeBron James and the Cleveland Cavaliers in Game 5 on Monday night.

"It's just a great group of guys, great community, great arena, great fans," Durant said. "I'm just so happy to be a part of it."

Stephen Curry added 34 points, 10 assists, 6 rebounds and 3 steals as Golden State closed out its second title in three years after squandering a 3-1 lead a year ago to the Cavs. That missed opportunity stung ever since, and even Durant understood, because he gave up the same lead to the Warriors a round earlier with Oklahoma City.

"We learned from everything we've been through," Curry said during the trophy celebration. "Our perspective, being blessed to play on this stage three years in a row, it's for these fans, for our organization, for these families. To be back here, bring ol' Larry back home, I'm just excited to do something special. I'm ready to do it again."

James, who in 2012 with Miami beat the Thunder in Durant's only other Finals, wound up with 41 points, 13 rebounds and 8 assists.

"I left everything on the floor every game," James said after averaging a triple-double in his eighth Finals.

Kyrie Irving followed up his 40-point gem in Friday's Game 4 with 26 points, but he shot 9 for 22.

"Well I'm not happy he won his first. I'm not happy at all," James said of Durant. "... Getting that first championship for me was like having my first son."

Durant drove left, right and down the middle, knocked down three-pointers, dished and dunked. He hit a 17-foot fadeaway over James early in the fourth quarter, then assisted on a three-pointer by Andre Iguodala the next time down as the Warriors pushed a 98-95 lead to 103-95 early in the fourth quarter.

The Cavs scored the next three points, but Durant responded with a three-pointer for a 106-98 lead with 10 minutes remaining.

Cleveland pulled within 108-102 on a Kyle Korver three-pointer, but again Durant had an answer with a dunk. The Cavs never were closer than eight points the rest of the way.

Iguodala, the 2015 Finals MVP, came up big again with 20 points off the bench.

Durant shot 14 for 20 and Curry -- the two-time reigning MVP who took a backseat as the new big star got acclimated -- finished off a brilliant postseason. Not to mention a healthy one after his 2016 injuries.

Draymond Green stayed on the court in a game that featured three technicals on one play with 3:08 left before halftime. David West fought for the ball with Irving, then they got tangled up and Tristan Thompson entered the fray. He and West went at each other face to face. West, Thompson and J.R. Smith received technicals after a replay review.

Green had sat out Game 5 a year ago, suspended because of flagrant foul point accumulation after he swiped at James' groin in Game 4. He had 10 points, 12 rebounds and 5 assists in the clincher.

"I had a letdown last year," Green said. "If KD was the consolation prize to lose, thanks for that loss, and we're champs this year."

During the trophy ceremony, Golden State Coach Steve Kerr said, "I want to say a special thank you to Mike Brown and my whole coaching staff."

The reigning NBA coach of the year returned for Game 2 of the Finals after a six-week absence from the bench.

On Monday, Golden State used a 27-4 second-quarter run to take charge and got to celebrate right at home in Oakland surrounded by a deafening home crowd waving yellow rally towels and holding up phones to shoot video and photos as the final minute of the clock ticked away.

The Warriors became the first Bay Area team to capture a championship at home since the A's finished the Los Angeles Dodgers in Game 5 of the 1974 World Series.

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The Golden Rule of Online Dating – HuffPost

Anyone who has experienced modern dating - i.e. dating since the advent of online dating - has likely experienced some dreaded form of ghosting, icing, or simmering. In other words, without explanation, someone you've gone on a couple dates with (and whom you may have been physically intimate) suddenly disappears (ghosting), or becomes "so busy" they can't make time on their calendar (icing), or simply starts to see you less and less frequently, without explanation (simmering).

You're left with too many questions. What happened? Was it something you said or did? You start rewinding the tape and playing it back, searching for a misstep.

In the case of ghosting, there's the shortest period of time when hope still hangs by a thread, before it plunges to its untimely death. In the cases of simmering and icing, the window of hope stretches a bit longer, as you attempt to justify their cooled behavior. Perhaps they really are busy with work/their friends in town/that big project. But then the spinning begins. The questions whip around your brain, the frustration and resentment bubble up and you're a mess of disappointment, confusion and anger. In any case, it's over. And you're forced to not only deal with the loss of that potential romance but also with the way it ended.

What baffles me most is not that every single solitary person I speak to about this tells me that they don't want to experience any of this array of terrible ending options, it's that so many of them engage in this behavior themselves.

It goes without saying that modern dating creates the perfect space for this disrespect -- anonymity and seemingly endless options are a breeding ground for it. When someone's social circle doesn't intersect with yours and when you'll likely never bump into them on the street, the risk of any negative repercussions of bad behavior are limited at best.

But what happened to do unto others as you would have them do unto you?

The problem I see with a lot of my coaching clients is that once they have been treated to one of these unhappy endings, they feel more entitled to do it themselves.

"It's just the way things are," one tells me. "No I don't like it but it's how dating works these days."

But, you see, its not. It's certainly not the way anyone wants it to be. And it takes one person at a time to fix the collective apathy we have for each other's delicate feelings and tender hearts.

Some friends tell me that my expectations in this arena are too high. "If you just go on one or two dates," a friend tries to sway me, "then you don't owe anyone anything."

But again, I disagree. This logic suggests that we only owe respect and consideration to people who cross a certain threshold -- whether it be physical intimacy or a prescribed number of dates.

Where do you draw the line then?

I believe you get what you give. You want respect? You show respect. You want to be treated kindly? Be kind. You want clarity, an explanation, an ending tied in a bow? Then be clear, explain yourself, and wrap it up respectfully without leaving unnecessary confusion and hurt.

Were all out there putting our hearts on the line. Were all afraid of rejection and uncomfortable with uncertainty. We all want people to respect us, consider our feelings, and treat us kindly. We want to love and be loved. And we want the process of finding a partner to be as painless and ease-filled as possible.

So be the person you want to date. It's just that simple.

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The Not So Golden Rule – HuffPost

I am willing to wager that you've heard of the Golden Rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. In other words, treat others the way you would wish to be treated. This "ethic of reciprocity" has been expressed in many moral maxims and religious/spiritual traditions and has even become a part of many formal educational systems.

As with many commonly accepted directives and norms, I hadn't put much thought into Golden Rule until fairly recently. In contemplating its significance, however, I was somewhat surprised to realize that I do not agree with the Golden Rule at all!

Though I believe that there is an element of common humanity in each of us, we are also all unique individuals with different needs and desires and circumstances. What would be best for me to do unto someone else may not at all be what is in my best interest. For instance, it might be best for a parent to change their baby's diaper and burp them after meals. But having or expecting the baby to do the same for her parents is clearly absurd! This is clearly a rather absurd example intended to illustrate the point, but there are also numerous subtle examples of this in practice. Can you think of a time when you did something for somebody that you would have loved or appreciated only to have the other person respond negatively? Their reaction might have been due to the fact that you projected what might have been best for you in a given situation onto someone else who may have felt differently.

Rejecting the Golden Rule invites curiosity as well as empathy. In order to figure out what someone would have done unto themselves, we must get curious and step outside of our frame of reference and into their shoes. Evaluating and trying to understand and even feel things from an another person's perspective is at the heart of empathy. It allows us to get outside of our heads and connect with somebody from a heart to heart rather than a head to head orientation.

Given that the Golden Rule isn't the best way of navigating the world, I assumed that the opposite of the Rule would presumably be true: do not do unto other as you would not have them do unto you. I was wrong.

Yet again, upon further consideration, I realized that the "anti-Golden Rule" is equally misguided. Again, examples of this in practice abound, but I will share just one example to illustrate the point: Just because you would not appreciate going out to eat sushi (or the color orange or being called "honey" or flying on airplanes, etc., etc.) does not mean that someone else would not. Can you think of instances in your life where you've wrongly assumed that other people preferences and sensitivities?

In short, both the Golden Rule and the anti-Golden Rule are ways in which we project ourselves onto others. Doing so compromises connection and creativity and keeps us naive to others' experiences. On the other hand, interacting with others from a place of curiosity and empathy allows us to have a deeper understanding and build better relationships - both with others and ourselves.

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Let’s give the ‘Golden Rule’ a try; it can’t hurt – Montana Standard

Lyrics to a Simon & Garfunkel song "still a man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest" seem to sum up today's political mood. Our reaction to identical behaviors fluctuate depending on if the person committing the acts is of our political persuasion or not.

How fickle and opinionated we are.

I'm deeply troubled by the "us against them" tone our politics have taken. We are all in this together. We are the UNITED States of America. Part of the problem as I see it is the way our information is presented to us. The news has somehow shifted to entertainment, and worse yet this entertainment has taken on a nasty and confrontational aspect. That I believe is intended to work us into a frenzy thus increasing their ratings and profits.

But at what cost to us as a society? A house divided against itself will not stand. Social media that feeds you only the point of view "they" know you agree with is very much a part of the problem.

What has happened to the truth behind the old cliche "it takes all kinds to make the world go round"? It seems we don't have the patience or tolerance to even listen to an opposing point of view. How can we work towards a compromise if we're unable or unwilling to even consider that there is an alternative way of looking at things. We have more in common than those issues we are divided on.

In our humanness we are all likely to experience a broken heart, loss of a loved one to death or possibly divorce, brokenness caused by an addiction, a dream not realized, rejection, cancer, Alzheimer's, or FEAR of ---- you fill in the blank.

In times of crisis our petty differences take their proper place as we come together as a community to support and encourage one another through the difficult time. The best advice my mom and dad instilled in me growing up would, if followed, go a long way in healing our divisiveness. They told me to always try and put myself into the other persons place and see the situation from that perspective. Then reflect again on my actions and see if I would like to be treated like I was treating others.

Yes, the "Golden Rule." Let's give it a try, it can't hurt and might just help.

Jim Sheehan, Butte

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What Is the Golden Rule? – East Texas Review

By Carey Kinsolving

What did Jesus mean when he said, Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them?

If you are mean to someone, then they will start being mean back to you, says Blain, 7.

Brooke, 9, looks to agriculture to interpret the golden rule: If we plant something good, we get something good back. But if you plant something bad, you get somethingbad back.

Every farmer knows that even the most fertile farmland will remain barren unless good seed is sown. Its the same with human relationships. The thing to remember is that not every seed sprouts and produces fruit. Because you never know which seed will sprout, you have to keep sowing good seed.

If you are nice to another person, then they will probably be nice back to you. And so then you and he will be friends, says Daniel, 7.

Yes, you might even reap friends from the golden rule. There are few things in life more valuable than good friends.

Dont tease or make fun of somebody if you wouldnt want them to tease you, says Marci, 10. Put yourself in the other persons shoes before you say or do something mean. Think of the consequences.

If we consistently live and act as though the entire universe revolves around us, were going to reap a barren life. Because were so busy tripping over our own selfishness, well never be able to put ourselves in anyone elses shoes.

For Christopher, 7, the golden rule is practical: Show respect to other people. Today, I will not fight.

A minimal starting place for the golden rule would be to stop abusing others. The people on the receiving end of your abuse will be greatly relieved if you stop whatever youre doing that drives them crazy.

Do what they want you to do, but dont boss them around, says Peyton, 12.

Most bad relationships revolve around a struggle for control. A story about improving marriages on network television featured a woman who treated her husband as though he were one of her three boys.

As an exercise, the marriage counselor recommended the wives go out to dinner with their husbands and resist all temptation to control. It was difficult, but the controlling wife asked her husband to choose what she should wear, where they should go and so forth. At the end of the evening, they were actually holding hands and showing genuine affection.

Obviously, control is not just a problem in marriages. Its part of the fall. Men and women want to control everything in their lives, including God. One thing is sure: God will never submit to our control.

God is a person with whom you can have a relationship. Like any person, he has feelings. We cause him grief and pain when we ignore him or dont treat him with the respect and honor he deserves. If youre a parent or grandparent, what is the one thing you want from your children or grandchildren? Love.

Jesus said, This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you (John 15:12). Clearly, love is the essence of the golden rule.

Think about this: Go beyond the golden rule. Show more consideration to people than you would want or yourself.

Memorize this truth: Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets (Matthew 7:12).

Ask this question: Can you treat others with more consideration than you would want for yourself?

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Argentina’s national football team reaches out to The Golden Rule … – Coconuts

The Golden Rule Barber Co one of those new age snazzy gentlemans barber shops around town just ticked off the box for serving their most important clientele for this work year: the Argentinas national football squad.

The thing is, the barbers werent even looking for a job with them twas the other way round, really. It was none other than young Juventus star Paulo Dybala who came knocking on their door when he reached out ontheir Facebook page, asking for a haircut.

Dybalas message went unansweredat first (we totally get it though; we ignore rando messages on Facebook too), according to one of The Golden Rule Barber Cos staff who spoke to Channel NewsAsia. It was only when they got a call from the Argentina team themselves later on that they realized that the request was legit.

The barbers were informed that the team stumbled upon their enterprise after searching on Google so the haircut must have been pretty urgent. The barbers later went down to Fullerton Hotel to carry out the unexpected VIP house call, where the trimmed the hairs of football stars such as Dybala, Angel Di Maria and more. The barbers could have even styled the holy hairs of Lionel Messi and Nicolas Otamendi too, but alas, they skipped the match against Singapore tonight in preparation for their own weddings.

Argentina takes on Singapore tonight at 8pm at The National Stadium. Their fresh haircuts may or may not have helped the Singapore squad turn the tides against their way more accomplished opponents.

Stay juicy. Like Coconuts Singapore.

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Golden rule – Northwest Arkansas Democrat-Gazette

OAKLAND, Calif. -- As the gold confetti fell and a fresh gray NBA champion cap sat a tad off-kilter on his head, Kevin Durant embraced his mother Wanda. Then he moved across the podium and hugged Stephen Curry before accepting his MVP trophy and hoisting it for everyone to see.

Golden State teammates Draymond Green (23) and Klay Thompson (right) celebrate after Mondays 129-120 victory over Cleveland for the Warriors second ...

Durant capped his spectacular first season with the Warriors by bringing home an NBA championship, scoring 39 points in a Finals-clinching 129-120 victory over LeBron James and the Cleveland Cavaliers in Game 5 on Monday night.

"It's just a great group of guys, great community, great arena, great fans," Durant said. "I'm just so happy to be a part of it."

Stephen Curry added 34 points, 10 assists, 6 rebounds and 3 steals as Golden State closed out its second title in three years after squandering a 3-1 lead a year ago to the Cavs. That missed opportunity stung ever since, and even Durant understood, because he gave up the same lead to the Warriors a round earlier with Oklahoma City.

"We learned from everything we've been through," Curry said during the trophy celebration. "Our perspective, being blessed to play on this stage three years in a row, it's for these fans, for our organization, for these families. To be back here, bring ol' Larry back home, I'm just excited to do something special. I'm ready to do it again."

James, who in 2012 with Miami beat the Thunder in Durant's only other Finals, wound up with 41 points, 13 rebounds and 8 assists.

"I left everything on the floor every game," James said after averaging a triple-double in his eighth Finals.

Kyrie Irving followed up his 40-point gem in Friday's Game 4 with 26 points, but he shot 9 for 22.

"Well I'm not happy he won his first. I'm not happy at all," James said of Durant. "... Getting that first championship for me was like having my first son."

Durant drove left, right and down the middle, knocked down three-pointers, dished and dunked. He hit a 17-foot fadeaway over James early in the fourth quarter, then assisted on a three-pointer by Andre Iguodala the next time down as the Warriors pushed a 98-95 lead to 103-95 early in the fourth quarter.

The Cavs scored the next three points, but Durant responded with a three-pointer for a 106-98 lead with 10 minutes remaining.

Cleveland pulled within 108-102 on a Kyle Korver three-pointer, but again Durant had an answer with a dunk. The Cavs never were closer than eight points the rest of the way.

Iguodala, the 2015 Finals MVP, came up big again with 20 points off the bench.

Durant shot 14 for 20 and Curry -- the two-time reigning MVP who took a backseat as the new big star got acclimated -- finished off a brilliant postseason. Not to mention a healthy one after his 2016 injuries.

Draymond Green stayed on the court in a game that featured three technicals on one play with 3:08 left before halftime. David West fought for the ball with Irving, then they got tangled up and Tristan Thompson entered the fray. He and West went at each other face to face. West, Thompson and J.R. Smith received technicals after a replay review.

Green had sat out Game 5 a year ago, suspended because of flagrant foul point accumulation after he swiped at James' groin in Game 4. He had 10 points, 12 rebounds and 5 assists in the clincher.

"I had a letdown last year," Green said. "If KD was the consolation prize to lose, thanks for that loss, and we're champs this year."

During the trophy ceremony, Golden State Coach Steve Kerr said, "I want to say a special thank you to Mike Brown and my whole coaching staff."

The reigning NBA coach of the year returned for Game 2 of the Finals after a six-week absence from the bench.

On Monday, Golden State used a 27-4 second-quarter run to take charge and got to celebrate right at home in Oakland surrounded by a deafening home crowd waving yellow rally towels and holding up phones to shoot video and photos as the final minute of the clock ticked away.

The Warriors became the first Bay Area team to capture a championship at home since the A's finished the Los Angeles Dodgers in Game 5 of the 1974 World Series.

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Lawmakers should practice the Golden Rule – Times Daily

During my college years, I took courses in personality theory, group dynamics, organizational behavior, and counseling techniques, which were designed to help students understand and appreciate the differences of people in the workplaces. These courses were presented in the context of sensitivity focus where students need awareness about their own biases and prejudices in confronting other people with similar behavioral references.

The Alabama House is embarked upon sensitivity training after the appearance of an email from Rep. Lynn Greer, R-Rogerville, where he was comparing black lawmakers to a monkey in a cage reaching for a banana in a social experiment. The black lawmakers were rendering their opposition to the new proposed redistricting plan.

Greer later apologized for the offensive analogy; he stated that there was no racist intent.

Whatever sensitivity training the legislators received, the bottom line is knowing, above all, how to practice the Golden Rule Do to others as you want others to do to you in any circumstances.

Words, whether spoken or written, have positive and negative effects. Even the well-intention words may prove offensive to some people. In choosing my words, I consider three questions: Are the words true in content? Are the words honest to believe? Are the words appropriate for situation?

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The Golden Rule is universal – Montrose Daily Press

Did you know the Golden Rule is a basic principle in every religion in the world?

Christianitys Golden Rule says, Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you: Do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets. (King James Bible, Matt. 7:12) The older Judaic teaching says, What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellowman. This is the entire Law; all the rest is commentary. (Talmud, Shabbat 3id) Both of these religions stress the importance of this basic principle.

Buddhism states, Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful. (Udana-Varga, 5, 1) The Buddhist explanation about not hurting is easy to understand. Hinduism says, When a man sees that the God in himself is the same God in all that is, he hurts himself by hurting others: then he goes to the Highest Path. (Bhagavad Gita,13.28) This Hindu teaching expands on the no hurt principle explaining that right choice brings us to the highest spiritual way.

In Sikhism, the Golden Rule states in a positive way, I am a stranger to no one; and no one is a stranger to me. Indeed, I am a friend to all. (Guru Granth Sahib, pg. 1299) Realizing we can choose to be a friend to all encourages us to act friendlier towards others. Taoism suggests we also use empathy, Regard your neighbors gain as your gain, and your neighbors loss as your own loss. (Tai Shang Kan, 213-218)

Confucianism applies the Golden Rule to social action, One word which sums up the basis of all good conduct is loving kindness. Do not do to others what you would not like yourself. Then there will be no resentment against you, either in the family or in the state. (Analects 15:23) Confucius refers to the basis for all rules and laws as lovingkindness.

Islam teaches the Golden Rule is also a spiritual value, No one of you is a believer until he desires for his brother that which he desires for himself. (Sunnah) To follow the Golden Rule is to follow the deepest spiritual teaching of each faith. Jesus taught this same principle when He talked about the two great commandants to love God with all your heart and soul and your neighbor as yourself.

Expanding the Golden Rule to all of life, Jainism explains, One should treat all creatures in the world as one would like to be treated. (Mahavira, Sutrakritanga) We are only one of a diversity of species on earth who depend on each other for our survival and therefore we should be kind to all of life. Cayuse Chief Young expresses the same sentiment as a Native American, The Great Spirit, in placing men on earth, desired them to take good care of the ground and to do each other no harm.

Because the Golden Rule is found in every religion, we can see that it is a universal principle. Dr. Lawrence Le Shan explains, Do unto othersis not an abstract moral principle, it is a necessary human guideline for our own sakes, our own being. (Alternate Realities)

This universal principle called the Golden Rule is not an abstract thought, it gives us all a powerful guideline to help us live a deeply spiritual life, to express lovingkindness on a daily basis, and to do our part in bringing people together to heal the world.

The Rev. Arlyn McDonald is the senior minister at the Spiritual Awareness Center in Montrose.

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Historic Golden Rule Peace Boat on its way to Noyo Harbor! – Ft. Bragg Advocate-News

As the representatives of nation states prepare to gather to debate the Treaty to Ban Nuclear Weapons at the United Nations, Veterans for Peace launched its own campaign for nuclear disarmament. The theme for this 2017 voyage is BAN NUCLEAR WEAPONS! No New Nukes!

In 1958 four Quaker peace activists sailed the Golden Rule toward the Marshall Islands to interfere with U.S. nuclear bomb testing. This bold nonviolent direct action inspired a worldwide movement leading to the Partial Nuclear Test Ban Treaty of 1963.

The Golden Rule and its crew is taking on an ambitious schedule sailing down the California Coast from Eureka to San Diego with side trips to Sacramento and Petaluma.

Veterans for Peace have endorsed the Restricting First Use of Nuclear Weapons Act introduced by Sen. Edward Markey (D-Mass) and Rep. Ted Lieu (D-CA). The bill would prohibit a first use of nuclear weapons by the United States unless Congress first declares war.

Trinity Church, the Ocean Protection Coalition and Occupy Mendocino are hosting a potluck and presentation, Meet and Eat with the Crew of the Historic Golden Rule, on Monday, June 12. The event starts at 6 p.m. at Trinity Church, 620 E. Redwood Ave. in Fort Bragg.

On Tuesday, June 13, at 6 p.m., Silvers at the Wharf will be the site for a no-host drinks, dinner and conversation with the crew followed by a presentation and discussion featuring guest speaker physicist Lynda Williams. Her expertise is in nuclear power, weapons and missile defense. Williams is a board member of the Global Network Against Weapons and Nuclear Power in Space and is an ally to Veterans For Peace. For information on meal prices call 707-964-4283.

The Golden Rule Boat tour schedule is set for Monday, June 12, 12 to 4 p.m.; Tuesday, June 13, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.; and Wednesday, June 14, 10 a.m. to 12 p.m.

The Golden Rule is a national project of the 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization Veterans For Peace, For more information, call Ann Rennacker at 707-964-1420 (Trinity Church event), and Helen Jaccard, VFP Golden Rule project manager at 206-992-6364.

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The ATRA Golden Rule Warranty Program

The Golden Rule Warranty is a nationwide inter-shop warranty planissued and servicedby authorized ATRA members in good standing. ATRA is the largest network of automatic transmission repair shops in the world, making the Golden Rule warranty the most widely accepted warranty of any chain or franchise. The ATRA Golden Rule warranty is warranted by the original repairing member shop.

The ATRA Golden Rule warranty is offeredunder three terms: 12 months; 24 months and 36 months.

To locate an ATRA Member shop that participates in the ATRA Golden Rule warranty program, use theShop Finder tool. For warranty repairs contact the original shop. ATRA Golden Rule warranties remain valid for the term of the warranty (terms and conditions apply and are listed on the warranty form), provided the original shop is an ATRA member in good standing during the term of the warranty.

If you havea comment about a repair from an ATRA member shop orwork performed on your car then please contact ATRA or submit an online comment form.

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Remember the Golden Rules During ATV Safety Week – Legal Examiner

Hundreds of thousands of all-terrain vehicle (ATV) accidents occur each year; it is rare for victims to just walk away after the crash.

Here are four fatal ATV crashes that occurred this weekend alone that illustrate that danger.

As summer kicks off, national ATV Safety Week is a good opportunity to remind riders of the Golden Rules from the ATV Safety Institute in order to ensure a more enjoyable off-road experience.

Remember too, as fun as a child may have on this type of vehicle, ATVs are not toys; they are powerful and potentially dangerous vehicles.

There are no federal laws regarding ATV use. Each state chooses whether or not to set any requirements, and theres no single rule which all 50 U.S. states have in common. Some states, such as Illinois, has the least stringent guidelines for riding ATVs with no restrictions on age, helmet use or number of passengers, and no required safety certification. However, the Consumer Federation of America and the American Academy of Pediatrics recommend that no one under 16 ride an ATV. Safely operating an ATV requires the driver to make quick decisions, such as speeding up or slowing down in response to changes in the environment. Kids are unlikely to be able to make these choices or have the skills to react to obstacles such as a pond.

For a summary of ATV laws by states, clickhere.

Mark Bello has practiced law for 40 years. He is currently the CEO and General Counsel of Lawsuit Financial Corporation, a pro-justice lawsuit funding company, and the author of the legal thriller Betrayal of Faith available on major online book store sites.

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