(JTA) Jean Meltzer always knew how The Matzah Ball, her first novel, would end.
The rule of romance is that there has to be a happy ending; the characters have to get together, Meltzer told the Jewish Telegraphic Agency. If they dont get together, thats not a romance; thats literary fiction.
So (not-really-a-spoiler alert) it was a foregone conclusion that protagonist Rachel Rubenstein-Goldblatt, a best-selling Christmas-themed romance writer who has kept her career from her observant Jewish parents, would wind up with Jacob Greenberg, her Camp Ahava crush who is now throwing the glitziest Hanukkah party New York City has ever seen.
But while Rachel and Jacobs love story conforms to the conventions of the romance novel, Meltzer sees it as subverting traditional Jewish stories that more often dwell on the difficulty or danger of being Jewish.
I wanted to write a book for Jews where the heroes were sexy, where the men were strong, where the women were beautiful, where they got their happy ending, said Meltzer, a self-proclaimed rabbinical school dropout and Christmas junkie.
Meltzer also wanted to spotlight a character who, like her, struggles with chronic illness. Rachels myalgic encephalomyelitis, also known as chronic fatigue syndrome, is invisible to those who dont know her but shapes her life in every way, much as it has for Meltzer, who was diagnosed as a young adult and describes herself as basically homebound.
Meltzer spoke to the Jewish Telegraphic Agency from her silver-tinsel-draped home office in Northern Virginia about the impetus behind The Matzah Ball, why she believes the Hanukkah bush has a place in Jewish homes and the power of romance novels to shape Jewish identity.
This conversation has been edited for length and clarity.
JTA: Why did you decide to write this book and what are you hoping to achieve with it?
Meltzer: Ive always been a nice Jewish girl who loves Christmas. And every year I go into, say, Target, and theres a holiday display with all of the Christmas books. Year after year, I went looking for a Hanukkah book, and there never was one. I just wanted to see myself represented on that table. I could envision it: a blue and white book in the sea of red and green.
I also had an experience where my 7-year-old niece was sitting on my lap and she looked at me and she goes Auntie Jean, you have a big nose, and big noses are ugly. She goes to Jewish day school, shes surrounded by strong Jewish women, and I thought, where did she get this message?
So when I sat down to write this book, I wanted to do something different from the stories I had grown up with, which were Holocaust stories, stories where Jews were being taken hostage by terrorists you never really saw us as the heroes of their own stories. I wanted to write a book for Jews where the heroes were sexy, where the men were strong, where the women were beautiful, where they got their happy ending. I wrote this book primarily for myself, but it was really out of a desire to sort of just create a different type of Jewish story.
I think we all know that antisemitism is a growing problem. I didnt want to add to that. I wanted to write the best of my community. I wanted to write the best of Shabbat dinners that Ive been to, the best of Jewish mothers, the best of Jewish friendships, and all the fun of living in the Jewish world. I wanted people to see Jews in a different light.
In the literary world, the #OwnVoices movement has argued that stories about communities and cultures should be written by people from those communities and cultures. Theres also backlash to this idea from those who say it deprives writers of the power to invent and may cause writers to be pigeonholed. How do you see your work fitting into this debate?
Having worked with non-Jewish editors and seeing how people have reacted to the book, I can see now that I think in a very Jewish worldview that is very different from how the rest of the world thinks. Things that I sort of take for granted and nuances that I thought everybody would sort of understand, I had to realize and learn that that was not the case.
Listen, Im a writer. I love writing. Any writer should be able to write any story. But I really think there is something to #OwnVoices. You would have to do years and years and years of research, I think, to write a book like The Matzah Ball, if you didnt have the experience. I think theres absolutely something to be said for #OwnVoices.
The book is very thoroughly Jewish not just the characters and setting but the text, which is peppered with references to the Talmud and other Jewish texts. Who do you see as the audience?
At the end of the day I dont know who the audience will be but I will tell you that absolutely non-Jews have picked up the book. Debbie Macomber is the queen of Christmas romance: She fell in love with the book, and not only gave me a blurb but she did my launch event recently.
The first international territory my book sold to was Sweden, which again is a place that you dont think has a huge Jewish population, and its going to be [the publishers] Christmas lead in 2022. So, obviously, the book is resonating with non-Jewish readers and I think its been resonating with Jewish readers as well, which is the ultimate hope that it reaches who it needs to reach.
Your story is about a celebration of holiday aesthetics, but theres also a moment where the characters realize that a bunch of dreidels and menorahs just dont have a glitzy effect. The Christmas aesthetic is so well developed, and there are so many variations on it. Why do you think the Jewish holiday aesthetic is so much less developed?
I did not grow up in a family that had any type of Christmas or Hanukkah decor, but I love it now. Every year I start sort of scouring for, like, a new Hanukkah inflatable for the lawn, and every year its impossible to find something thats good, that doesnt look just like a tchotchke on my lawn. Even so, Im very proud of my outdoor display we have gone insane. We have giant blow-ups and we put up lights and its gotten to a point where people literally drive to see it.
In Jewish law, there are prohibitions against mimicking your foreign neighbors and things like that. So growing up I think that was very strong: There was a fear of assimilation and that having a Christmas tree, we were all going to go off and marry non-Jews and not be Jewish anymore. For me, I feel like Ive done the work Jewishly, and I am very comfortable in my Judaism. So I dont feel like the Hanukkah bush is going to be my slippery slope thats going to push me over the edge and change my belief system.
But there is also a commandment of beautifying your holy objects, and then the commandment for Hanukkah lights is that youre supposed to publicize the miracle, right? Im not a rabbi, but you can maybe make an argument [in favor of Hanukkah lawn displays].
Ive always been a person who likes pretty things, and especially with chronic illness and in the middle of a pandemic, holding on to my joy is such a big part of my life. And when I walk and its nighttime and the lights are twinkling, I feel it in my kishkes. It just makes me feel good.
If you were to pick a favorite moment in the book or the writing process, one that felt like a peak moment for you, what would it be and why?
The hardest thing for me to write, or what I think was the most important thing, was the bedazzled wheelchair. [Jacob sends a sparkly wheelchair to Rachels apartment after a flareup of her chronic fatigue leaves her unable to leave home.]
The problem of chronic illness is that its invisible. Because were invisible, our struggles are not fully seen and because theyre not seen, theyre not understood. So this idea that like, again, its almost like intersectionality of identity we think of ourselves as Jewish, but were more than just Jewish. A lot of us have multiple identities. By making it visible, by showing that its so much more normal than we realize, thats how we get people to understand that its part of our experience.
And when youre chronically ill, that moment where you want to use a wheelchair is really the moment when youre like holy crap, Im really sick, and when your disability goes from invisible to visible. So I felt it was incredibly important and powerful that women who were chronically ill and sick could see that they could be loved, even in a wheelchair. And that its okay to accept your disability, and then also that a man or a woman or a partner will love you in spite of whatever your disability is, will love you through all the good and bad of your life.
It was the hardest thing to write because I had never seen anything like that in a romance, but I felt like at the end of the day it was the most important scene I wrote in the book.
What else would you want Jewish readers to know about your book?
It was written to create a joyous Jewish story. I know its different but I really think everyone should at least pick it up, give it a chance, give it a try. You might find that you actually like romance and romcom more than you realize. I know its new for the Jewish world.
I really think its important that young people and all of us see ourselves in stories beyond the lens of victimhood, and I really think that one of the ways we do that is by making ourselves heroes in our own stories. And this is a way to do that. Romance gives us the ability to become heroes and love interests, and champions of our own narrative.
I hope Im not the only Jewish romance writer going forward. [Meltzers second book, Mr. Perfect on Paper, will come out next year, and shes at work on a third.] I hope we have lots of Jewish rom coms because theres a huge gaping hole in the market there. And, you know, I think its really important that we start telling stories where we get a happy ending. I know its not what we do, but everyone deserves a happy ending, including Jews.
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