Im sorry is what we say when we hurt someone.
Increasingly, weve been hearing it from institutions like governments and police agencies after acknowledging systemic oppression oppression that often caused generational harm.
Last week, Halifax Regional Police Chief Dan Kinsella stood in front of members of the African Nova Scotian community to apologize for racist street check practices. Community members and activists were invited to hear Kinsella say Im sorry.
But is an apology enough?
Karina Schumann, a psychology professor at the University of Pittsburgh and an expert in conflict resolution, says for public apologies, there is a default perception that they are insincere.
In order for these apologies to be effective, they need to have features that show what Schumann believes is most important: remorse.
Institutions making an apology must acknowledge these are ongoing problems with ongoing consequences, and that the victimized group continues to suffer, she says.
Canadas first public government apology happened in 1988, made by the prime minister at the time, Brian Mulroney, for the internment of Japanese-Canadians during the Second World War.
Since then, there have been 13 government apologies, six of which were made in the last three years, by Prime Minister Justin Trudeau.
While there is no tangible way to compensate suffering under the hands of the government, Schumann says even a symbolic gesture can make it seem more meaningful.
John Kador, author of the book Effective Apology, says apologies without actions are virtually meaningless.
Kador has a five-step model to an effective apology. He calls them the five Rs:
Victims want their pain to be acknowledged, says Kador, but without ongoing reparation, the effects of the apology are diminished.
In 2008, former prime minister Stephen Harper made an apology to survivors and descendants of survivors of the Indian residential school system. In the apology, he acknowledged that over 150,000 children were separated from their parents and suffered abuse.
The apology promised fostering a new relationship between Aboriginal peoples and other Canadians.
Margaret (Magit) Poulette, of Wekoqmaq First Nation, says the apology was just words. Nothing has really changed.
Poulette spent four years at the Shubenacadie Indian Residential School, from 1947 to 1951. At just four years old, she was taught to forget her language and her culture.
Her daughter, Rosie Sylliboy, says her mothers trauma was passed on to her.
When we were growing up, we were never hugged, Sylliboy says. I love my mother, but I hate what she went through.
While the apology didnt mean a lot to her or Poulette, Sylliboy says the acknowledgment of the offence mattered.
A more meaningful moment for the community, Sylliboy believes, was last years special Treaty Day mass at St. Marys Basilica in Halifax. Poulette is Roman Catholic.
On Oct. 2, 2018, a Catholic archbishop knelt in front of a congregation of residential school survivors and descendants, and asked for forgiveness for the churchs involvement in the Shubenacadie Indian Residential School.
I cried through it, says Sylliboy.
A psychological study by Matthew Hornsey on public apology perception showed that non-verbal signs of remorse, such as kneeling and crying, had positive effects on perceived likelihood of reoffending, empathy, positive appraisals of the transgressor, and satisfaction with the apology. It also showed that signs of remorse did not significantly affect forgiveness.
A part of Sylliboys familys healing is reclaiming traditional songs and practices. She has also seen some priests practice traditions, like smudging at funerals. Thats really reconciliation, she says, though notes that their local church still doesnt allow drumming inside.
Psychologist Schumann said people can accept an apology without forgiveness.
In 2010, former Halifax mayor Peter Kelly apologized to former residents and descendants of Africville, a black community in Halifax demolished in the 1960s.
Rhonda Britton, pastor of New Horizons Baptist Church, was invited to Kellys apology ceremony. She was also invited to speak at the Halifax Regional Polices apology for street check practices that disproportionately affected black men.
Britton believes institutional apologies are meaningful when leaders meet with members of the community and listen to their demands. She says forgiveness is not for the institution apologizing, but for the community.
It was necessary, she says about the polices apology. When these things happen in the public sphere, it also gives you a leg to stand on.
When someone wants to make a complaint, Britton says, no one can deny the fact that (the institution) has admitted this is wrong.
Kador, the author of Effective Apology, says being complicit in systemic racism, and other kinds of oppressions, is something people dont want to admit to, but victims want their pain acknowledged.
The real power of institutional apologies, he says, is they require people to confront very difficult truths.
Karla Renic
Karla Renic is a multimedia journalist in her fourth year at the University of King's College. She freelances and works as the news editor at the Dal Gazette.
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