The Prometheus League
Breaking News and Updates
- Abolition Of Work
- Ai
- Alt-right
- Alternative Medicine
- Antifa
- Artificial General Intelligence
- Artificial Intelligence
- Artificial Super Intelligence
- Ascension
- Astronomy
- Atheism
- Atheist
- Atlas Shrugged
- Automation
- Ayn Rand
- Bahamas
- Bankruptcy
- Basic Income Guarantee
- Big Tech
- Bitcoin
- Black Lives Matter
- Blackjack
- Boca Chica Texas
- Brexit
- Caribbean
- Casino
- Casino Affiliate
- Cbd Oil
- Censorship
- Cf
- Chess Engines
- Childfree
- Cloning
- Cloud Computing
- Conscious Evolution
- Corona Virus
- Cosmic Heaven
- Covid-19
- Cryonics
- Cryptocurrency
- Cyberpunk
- Darwinism
- Democrat
- Designer Babies
- DNA
- Donald Trump
- Eczema
- Elon Musk
- Entheogens
- Ethical Egoism
- Eugenic Concepts
- Eugenics
- Euthanasia
- Evolution
- Extropian
- Extropianism
- Extropy
- Fake News
- Federalism
- Federalist
- Fifth Amendment
- Fifth Amendment
- Financial Independence
- First Amendment
- Fiscal Freedom
- Food Supplements
- Fourth Amendment
- Fourth Amendment
- Free Speech
- Freedom
- Freedom of Speech
- Futurism
- Futurist
- Gambling
- Gene Medicine
- Genetic Engineering
- Genome
- Germ Warfare
- Golden Rule
- Government Oppression
- Hedonism
- High Seas
- History
- Hubble Telescope
- Human Genetic Engineering
- Human Genetics
- Human Immortality
- Human Longevity
- Illuminati
- Immortality
- Immortality Medicine
- Intentional Communities
- Jacinda Ardern
- Jitsi
- Jordan Peterson
- Las Vegas
- Liberal
- Libertarian
- Libertarianism
- Liberty
- Life Extension
- Macau
- Marie Byrd Land
- Mars
- Mars Colonization
- Mars Colony
- Memetics
- Micronations
- Mind Uploading
- Minerva Reefs
- Modern Satanism
- Moon Colonization
- Nanotech
- National Vanguard
- NATO
- Neo-eugenics
- Neurohacking
- Neurotechnology
- New Utopia
- New Zealand
- Nihilism
- Nootropics
- NSA
- Oceania
- Offshore
- Olympics
- Online Casino
- Online Gambling
- Pantheism
- Personal Empowerment
- Poker
- Political Correctness
- Politically Incorrect
- Polygamy
- Populism
- Post Human
- Post Humanism
- Posthuman
- Posthumanism
- Private Islands
- Progress
- Proud Boys
- Psoriasis
- Psychedelics
- Putin
- Quantum Computing
- Quantum Physics
- Rationalism
- Republican
- Resource Based Economy
- Robotics
- Rockall
- Ron Paul
- Roulette
- Russia
- Sealand
- Seasteading
- Second Amendment
- Second Amendment
- Seychelles
- Singularitarianism
- Singularity
- Socio-economic Collapse
- Space Exploration
- Space Station
- Space Travel
- Spacex
- Sports Betting
- Sportsbook
- Superintelligence
- Survivalism
- Talmud
- Technology
- Teilhard De Charden
- Terraforming Mars
- The Singularity
- Tms
- Tor Browser
- Trance
- Transhuman
- Transhuman News
- Transhumanism
- Transhumanist
- Transtopian
- Transtopianism
- Ukraine
- Uncategorized
- Vaping
- Victimless Crimes
- Virtual Reality
- Wage Slavery
- War On Drugs
- Waveland
- Ww3
- Yahoo
- Zeitgeist Movement
-
Prometheism
-
Forbidden Fruit
-
The Evolutionary Perspective
Monthly Archives: August 2022
Children? More than 1 in 5 U.S. adults dont want them – Marin Independent Journal
Posted: August 23, 2022 at 1:02 am
Fears about declining fertility rates have come from sources as diverse as Pope Francis and Tesla chief executive officer Elon Musk. The U.S. Supreme Courts decision in Dobbs v. Jackson could force women to give birth against their wishes, while a recent British editorial even proposed a tax on people without children.
Media outlets regularly point out that more Americans are having fewer children or forgoing parenthood altogether.
But how many Americans want to have kids and cant? Or are still planning to be parents down the road? How many are consciously making the choice to never have kids?
While official statistics in the United States and elsewhere track fertility, they dont provide insight into the people who have not had children. There are many different types of nonparents: Childfree people do not want children; childless people want children but cant have them; not-yet parents plan to have children in the future; undecided people arent sure they will have children; and ambivalent people arent sure they would have wanted children.
In a 2022 study of 1,500 adults in Michigan, we found that 21.64% of adults do not want to have children and therefore are choosing to be childfree. While our survey wasnt nationally representative, the 2021 Census showed that Michigan is demographically similar to the United States in terms of age, race, education and income. If the pattern we have observed in Michigan reflects national trends, it would mean 50 million to 60 million American adults are childfree.
Identifying childfree people
To identify childfree people, we asked each participant a series of up to three questions:
Do you have, or have you ever had, any biological, step-, or adopted children?
Do you plan to have any biological or adopted children in the future?
Do you wish you had or could have biological or adopted children?
Respondents could answer yes, no, or I dont know to each question. We classified as childfree those who answered no to all three.
Our estimate of the number of childfree people is much higher than past national studies, which placed the percentage between 2% and 9%. This likely happened because our measurement focuses on a persons desire to have children, not their ability. This is important because a person can be childfree whether they are biologically capable of having children or not.
Our estimate is also slightly lower than an initial estimate 27% from a 2021 study that we wrote about a year ago. The original study did not allow respondents to answer I dont know to these questions and therefore could not separate the undecided or ambivalent from the childfree. We were surprised that after refining our measurement to distinguish these unique groups, we still observed so many childfree adults.
Roughly half the adults in our study were parents, but childfree adults were the largest nonparent group.
Theyre deciding early in life
People, especially women, who say they dont want children are often told theyll change their mind. But we found thats likely not the case.
In our study, people reported making the decision to be childfree early in life, most often in their teens and 20s. Moreover, it isnt just young people who are claiming they dont want children. Many women who decided in their teens to be childfree are much older now, and are still childfree.
Philip Pacheco/AFP/Getty Images
Our findings depart from research conducted in the 1970s, which found that childfree adults tended to arrive at their decision later in life after postponing parenthood for many years. Earlier decisions may reflect changing norms toward parenthood and an increasing recognition and acceptance of a childfree lifestyle.
Underpopulation isnt the problem
Despite Musks insistence that there is an underpopulation crisis, the global population will continue to grow.
This growth will likely have a negative impact on climate change and some researchers contend that one of the best ways to reduce carbon emissions is to have fewer children.
Meanwhile, the Dobbs decision has chilling implications for the millions of Americans who are childfree: A significant swath of them are now at risk of being forced to have children despite not wanting them.
Issues affecting childfree Americans go beyond reproductive freedom. For example, workplace policies on work-life balance often favor parents. Because so many people are childfree, we believe the needs of this group warrant more attention from policymakers.
This article is republished from The Conversation, an independent and nonprofit source of news, analysis and commentary from academic experts, under a Creative Commons license.
View post:
Children? More than 1 in 5 U.S. adults dont want them - Marin Independent Journal
Posted in Childfree
Comments Off on Children? More than 1 in 5 U.S. adults dont want them – Marin Independent Journal
People Who Decided Not To Have Kids Share How Their Lives Turned Out (30 Posts) – Bored Panda
Posted: at 1:02 am
Let's face it, increasingly more people decide to turn down the prospect of parenthood. As a Pew Research Center study has found, around 44% of Americans who are not already parents say theyre unlikely to have children ever. But even though they consciously choose to forego having kids and feel comfortable with the decision, childfree people often face pressure from those in their social circle who believe they will definitely change their minds.
"You still have time" is up there with some of the most frustrating remarks people who chose a different life path have to hear. Thankfully, theres a great way to fight stigma in society see the positivity in their child-free freedom and be proud of their choice. This is something that hundreds of people expressed across various threads on Reddit, and their stories are nothing but honest.
We at Bored Panda have wrapped up a collection of responses where people open up about how this decision affected their lifestyles. Some explain their overwhelming joy and happiness, while others reveal slight doubts and regrets. So sit back, relax, and enjoy reading through their experiences. Be sure to upvote your favorite answers and if you want to weigh in on the topic, wed love to hear your thoughts right below in the comments!
Psst! If youre interested in even more childfree content, take a look at our earlier piece where people reveal what made them decide to never have kids.
Ive recently started dating again, and the amount of men my age (35) with kids is disheartening. I started talking to one guy, and he mentioned having kids, so I told him we werent compatible. He told me I was being negative, asking how I knew we werent compatible, etc. Well, cause you have kids and I dont, I dont want any. I had another guy tell me he had a 22-month-old. He has not mentioned anywhere in his profile about having kids, and then when I tell him its a no for me, he resorts to insults. Im honestly happy with my life and where I am, and I refuse to settle for anyone who wouldnt add to my life. Im complete. If I die alone with my cats, thats better than settling for a miserable life
Donthurlemogurlx Report
When my current manager found out I dont want kids his response was well youre young and still have time to change your mind. When I told him my husband and I want to retire early he said but why would you retire early if you dont have kids? What would you even do..?
SMH these people are so brainwashed. Theres more to life than going to a job everyday then taking care of kids for the other part.
Chipotleislyfee , RAIS Report
I am 47 and life is great. Was married once (very young) and engaged once, but never had kids. Started my own business a decade ago and that's gone great. It's currently providing me income while I work on a start-up with a partner. I travel a lot (when there's not a pandemic), have tons of hobbies, and have built up a wonderful chosen family for company and support.
I have no regrets and no complaints. I get plenty of sleep and take good care of myself. I volunteer and give back to the community however and whenever I can. I wouldn't have it any other way.
GracieLikesTea , Daria Pimkina Report
My son decided to get a vasectomy last year. I told him: "Won't you regret it later?"He replied: "I can always adopt, just like you adopted me."
Report
Cringe answer but i dont wanna bring someone into this world and force them to deal with problems just cause I wanted pride of having a child
Possible_Tap8558 Report
1. My body already is pretty screwed up, I don't need it MORE screwed up
2. A lot of folks seem to hate their children. Like, A LOT of people seem to hate their children. Or at least mildly resent them. I don't want to do that.
3. I am an 'all in' type of person. A 'anything worth doing is worth over doing' type of person. I'd probably be a great parent because of this--all in for my kids. But it also means I'd be a terrible ME. I'd lose being an individual in the process, and that's not good for me OR any mythical children.
4. I really, really, really like quiet.
Lyeta1_1 , Lucas Calloch Report
Love my life. Wouldnt trade it with anyone. Im 70 with no children, never married, and no regrets. Several long term relationships (11 yr. & 17 year ... still friends). Loved my never relinquishing my personal freedom. Several things informed my decision:
Watching the relationships of parents and children, where children became a**holes. 2. Watching marriages that were okay go bad or boring 3. Watching people lose themselves in stressful marriages. 4. My inability to take shit and pretend that its not happening. 5. Not enjoying the feeling of having to negotiate everything from social events to meal choices. 6. Unwillingness to relinquish personal freedom
Kwelikinz , Axville Report
I overheard my sister-in-law telling my brother-in-law that we should write everything in our will to them because We need it; they dont have kids (on both sides). What do they need it for? Theyre trying to get my father-in-law to facilitate the conversation. If they think youre entitled to my money, dont be shy. Tell me to my face! The joke is on her because my side of the money is locked up in a prenup. Our will, as it stands now, a nice sum is set aside for education, down payment, etc., for my nieces. Most of it is being distributed to charities. Planned Parenthood is on the list! The audacity and entitlement make my head spin! Just because I dont have kids doesnt mean it automatically goes to them.
jabmwr Report
I had an experience that annoyed me apartment hunting last year. The lady showing my boyfriend and I the apartment kept prying why we would need a second bedroom, and saying things like if its just the two of us why isnt a 1 bedroom enough. Even after explaining we both worked from home, she kept trying to push the smaller units. I guess the building has less 2 bedrooms so they like to keep them open for people with kids?
As crazy as it sounds, people without kids also like space.
South-Housing-748 Report
I was getting to know a (female) doctor my partner used to work with. She asked about my dream job and I responded that I dont dream of labor; my dream is to be financially secure enough that I can retire ASAP.
Retired? Do you mean at home with babies?
Um no. Retired meaning I have enough savings to not have to work anymore while living comfortably.
PM_ME_PDIDDY , RepentAnd SeekChristJesus Report
Coming up in a year since my husband and I bought our first house! 4 beds, 2.5 baths. I absolutely love it. We consider ourselves very lucky and grateful. Since then, when the topic comes up in casual conversation, I get the same response from breeders. It doesnt help were the only child-free couple on the street. Oh, so much space, making room for kids? Thats a lot of space for just the two of you. What about families with children that needed that home? Im sorry, I wanted space for separate offices and a space for visitors. Oh, the reactions I get when I say I turned the den into a cat room. A whole room just for your cats!? Must be nice to live that way Yes. Yes, it is. It would also be nice to share accomplishments without judgment.
Unsolicited_CatPics Report
Glorious!
Vacations are a breeze, particularly if you go to another country. If I find a place, I can just up and move without worrying about if the school is any good, or how big the house is.
Gonstackk , Eddy Billard Report
Retiring to me means never working for anyone but myself.
Thanks to the stars aligning with my childfreedom, the real estate boom, and a deep seated drive to be both lazy and selfish I'm about to live my dream - moving across the country, renting out an ADU for passive income, and freelancing when I feel like it.
Of course, there are no guarantees this will last forever, but at 35 it's the closest thing to retirement I've ever experienced. So excited.
atypicala , Sven Mieke Report
I'm 48 never wanted kids, no regrets. The majority of the parents I know are stressed AF! My best friend has 4 adult kids and they all cause her grief. She is on her way to a mental breakdown.
The happiest married couples that I know, besides me and my spouse, is a retired couple no kids. They go on dates several times a week, travel and just love each other so much.
Having kids isn't a guarantee that they will take care of you when you get old. My mother works in a nursing home. Most of them are abandoned by their kids and only visit on Mother's Day for Facebook photos.
sagicorn2791 , Lona Report
I am 38, my wife is 42. Our marriage is fantastic and our jobs are stressful, but lucrative. We worry and stress about normal things just like others, but just not about kids, obviously.
Like any major life decision, there are pangs of regret -seeing my friends enjoy ballgames and major milestones with their children that I know it won't experience with my own, but I know I am also sidestepping the negatives as well.
In the end, my wife and I chose each other and are endlessly happy. Could a child have improved that bliss? Possibly - but we collectively were not 100% all-in and didn't want to risk our happiness together to find out.
Intersectaquirer , Allen Taylor Report
Im a 46 year old auntie to a wonderful little boy and Im fine with that.
My husband and I didnt each hit 6 figures until about 4 years ago, so were not really swimming in money yet (we live in NYC). I love sleeping in. I love finishing dinner and then playing video games. I love going for long walks. I love peace and quiet. I love all my disposable income. My brother and his wife ask all the time when were going to visit so they can just toss my nephew at us for a week so they can go on vacation and you know, that just makes me extra happy I didnt go that route.
cuntpunt2000 , Joo Ferro Report
I've never had any desire to be a mother. I don't want to give up my freedom and spare time. I can't afford it. I don't want to grow a human inside my body. I have [bad] mental health problems that I would probably pass on to them.
sporkchop24 , Brooke Cagle Report
30 F, besides every other answer already provided here I am legitimately terrified of the idea of pregnancy and giving birth. Even if I felt the burning desire to mother a child, (which I do not) I could never get past the fact I would have to grow it, and have it.
IndependentWinner992 , Vanessa Report
Me 46M and wife 46F.
In a word, amazing.
We both work in Finance and our household gross income is about $200k with about $48k/yr in expenses (and half of that is discretionary...bare bones expenses are about $24k/yr)
Debt free except for the house, which will be completely paid off by this time next year.
Pretty much buy whatever we want, when we want it.
Go where ever we want, when we want to.
Our jobs are ultra-stable and we have both been with the company for 10 years and get 1.5 months of paid leave, plus 10 paid holidays per year (almost unheard of in non-union jobs in the US).
We live next door to my wife's parents and they are awesome people that treat me like the son they never had.
About the only thing we really need to fix, is we both put on too much weight during covid and need to get that shit under control this summer...so...salad & hiking summer it is.
Luckily, we live in the paradise of our choosing, Alaska, and there is truly epic hiking up here.
[deleted] , Timo Stern Report
Boyfriend and I are both 45 and life is pretty cool. We met when we were 39 and on our second date I had to ask the dreaded kid question. Thank god his response was a vehement no. Its crazy to think people dont ask that question right away and have terrible break ups over it. I figured I didnt want to waste a minute with him if he wanted kids!
bionica1 , dusan jovic Report
Love it.
Can't even imagine having children. I'm not built for it.
Great with other people's kids (in short bursts) but ultimately very glad to be able to walk away from that cacophony of neediness.
I sleep as much as I want (as well as game/work/etc) eat whatever I want go where I want (or more importantly don't go where I don't want).
One of the few decisions that made very young (before I was a teenager for sure) that I've not wavered on and has paid off dividends.
VyrPlan , Marivi Pazos Report
I was told at an old job that Id be such a great mom because I was so patient and kind to coworkers, especially the new ones who had A LOT of questions. The difference is I can get away from my coworkers, but kids are a different story! My mom said I would be a fantastic mom IF I wanted to be one, because ultimately, I wouldnt be if my heart wasnt in it. My mom gets it, and I appreciate her so much for it.
Brain_Stew12 , Desola Lanre-Ologun Report
I love children. I love holding them, I love playing with them and I love talking with them. Very neat group of people. Totally recommend them to anyone who thinks having a child is right for them.
What I do not like is being responsible over another human being 24/7. I also don't like the thought of having to leave work to pick up a sick child from school or nursery school. I don't like potty training, I don't want to be unable to travel without a massive amount of planning, I don't want to fight with a 13 year old over... anything really, 13 year olds do not listen to reason. I don't want to get up at 7 AM on a Sunday to take my child to their football training, I don't want to spend all my money on somebody else's damn shoes that they will have grown out of the week after anyways.
Basically, a child is not compatible with the lifestyle I want.
Fuzzykittenboots Report
I never wanted to have children.My relatives and acquaintances would tell me: "When you grow up you will change your mind. Children are a blessing in life," or stuff like that. I always replied that I didn't see myself as a mother. 15 years have gone by and nothing has changed.
Report
I decided when I was 18 and I agree with it. People will tell me: "Who is going to take care of you when you are old?" followed by this little gem: "You have to start your own family," as if my boyfriend and my dogs don't count.
Report
Fantastic. I couldnt ask for a better life. I wouldnt trade my current status for the greatest child in the world and I like kids. Me 44 and hubby 38, almost mortgage free. Stress from jobs are there but I feel like its nothing compared to my friends with kids.
commentaror , Brooke Cagle Report
Utterly delightful. We can do what we want, when we want. Zero debt except the mortgage. 10/10 would do again.
Astara104 Report
Almost 40, no kids, never married. I work about 50ish hours a week. Life is good. Money just sits in the bank since I don't have to spend it on children, I have a bunch of free time that I use however I want because I can't ask a significant other how they want to spend time together or have to cater my schedule around sports practice, or academia. I use my vacation days to extend some weekends, travel somewhere nice, stay in a bed and breakfast and enjoy the nightlife the place has to offer.
nocoolname42 , Emil Kalibradov Report
My biggest factors in not wanting kids are SLEEP and SPONTANEITY! When telling my coworker this, shes like its not as hard as youd think it is then, a couple weeks later, she comes in talking about the baby is sick and cant sleep or the baby was up at 6am today (we work nights) and she has to plan [things] way in advance, and she cant handle her car issues because she has no money because of the baby.
Luckily! My sister, my mom, and my close friends who have kids are very honest with me about what their lives are like, and they dont blame me for not wanting kids! The only people who seem to REALLY want my husband and I to start pumping em out are my coworkers, which is extra weird because like they would never even see my hypothetical baby ??
BetEqual2993 , Brooke Cagle Report
45 F, I love it. Also never been married, or never lived with someone (except roommates). I love the freedom to do as I please, spent my money the way I want.
stubbornasfuckNL Report
When people who have children start talking about them, they suddenly look at you and say: And when are you going to have children? And when you answer that you dont want to have children, they tell you that thats selfish, and they ask who will take care of you later. They also say you need to have children to have your own family, or that you say that because you are too young.
Mimi Thian Report
Note: this post originally had 47 images. Its been shortened to the top 31 images based on user votes.
Here is the original post:
People Who Decided Not To Have Kids Share How Their Lives Turned Out (30 Posts) - Bored Panda
Posted in Childfree
Comments Off on People Who Decided Not To Have Kids Share How Their Lives Turned Out (30 Posts) – Bored Panda
Pros and Cons: Why You May (or May Not) Want To Rent Out Your Space – GOBankingRates
Posted: at 1:02 am
StefaNikolic / Getty Images
Maybe youre planning a big move just when the local real estate swings from a sellers to a buyers market. Maybe you have a spare bedroom or guest house you never use. Or maybe you have a grand vision for flipping that garage into the coziest Airbnb.
Whatever the case, if youre considering renting out your current home or property you own, youll want to be ready for everything that entails.
Look: 22 Side Gigs That Can Make You Richer Than a Full-Time JobMore: 7 Surprisingly Easy Ways To Reach Your Retirement Goals
If you do rent out your house, you need to treat it like any other business, Jay Zigmont, PhD, CFP and founder of Childfree Wealth said. You need to track income and expenses and pay taxes on the net income.
Check this list of pros and cons to make sure being a landlord is a worthy investment.
Here are a handful of the financial pros of being a landlord.
Renting out your current home or property can provide a steady passive income, especially if the rent you charge your tenants is higher than your monthly mortgage payment. In 2022, the National Council of Real Estate Investment Fiduciaries Property Index found a 24.1% increase in returns on investment in multifamily apartment properties. An investment like this could help you pay off your home, or leave you with a little left over for improvements on the property over time.
Keep in mind, you will have to pay taxes on that income at the end of the fiscal year.
When you are renting out your property, you will want to work with a CPA or EA to prepare your taxes, Dr. Zigmont said. How you file will change based upon the use of the property and how long you have it rented out.
Take Our Poll: Do You Think You Will Be Able To Retire at Age 65?
Dr. Zigmont said you may also benefit from the appreciation in the price of the property over time. If you hold off on selling your property and maintain it as a rental, your home value may increase year after year, depending on location or improvements made to yours and other homes in the surrounding area.
As the homeowner, your increased equity could mean listing the home for a higher price when its time to sell, having the ability to increase the rent or even taking out a better loan on a new property further down the line. Keep track of your home value with an online estimator or a professional appraiser.
You could also be eligible for certain tax breaks when renting out your home. As a landlord, you can deduct expenses for certain materials or repairs. You can even deduct ordinary and necessary expenses for the management of your property. Talk to your tax professional about the deductions you could be eligible for, and keep a thorough record of these expenses throughout the year.
Despite the positives, there are certainly some drawbacks to renting out your property. Here are some of them.
While you would be making money on the rent, you are still responsible for a number of expenses as a landlord. For example, if a pipe bursts from age and wear, that money wont be coming out of your tenants pocket. Owning your own home on top of renting this property could spread your finances thinner in times of emergencies like these.
There are certain expenses that can pile up before youre even able to put the property up for rent. Dr. Zigmont said your state or town may have requirements that you have to meet before renting out your home. If you are accepting renters with rent assistance, you may also need to have certain inspections done on the property.
You also need to have a plan for how you will handle if the property is not rented (or the renter is not paying) for an extended period of time, Dr. Zigmont said. Having cash on hand to cover low rent months and any expenses is a good idea.
As a property owner, you already know the unexpected can happen. If you wont be physically living on the property, it can make things even more unpredictable.
Being a remote landlord can be a disaster, Dr. Zigmont said. My wife and I tried this, and the result was that the renters (and their dog) destroyed the hardwood floors in the two years it was rented. It cost almost as much to repair as we made in rent.
If youre renting the property out while you live there, like an Airbnb or back house, Dr. Zigmont says you should consider the return on hassle.
Your homeowners association or zoning laws on your property may prohibit rentals. Even if you are allowed to rent it out, you must first check with your HOA to see if there are limits on the number of people you can rent to or the number of days you can rent it out each year. You may also need to update your homeowners insurance to cover rentals. Make sure you check in with these institutions before taking any steps toward renting.
At the end of the day, its important to understand that your property is an investment, which comes with highs and lows. While many people have great success with Airbnb and similar services, Dr. Zigmont said you can always consider other tools to get exposure to real estate investing.
Do not use the justification that the rent covers the mortgage payment, as that does not take into account maintenance and other costs, Dr. Zigmont said.
More From GOBankingRates
Read more from the original source:
Pros and Cons: Why You May (or May Not) Want To Rent Out Your Space - GOBankingRates
Posted in Childfree
Comments Off on Pros and Cons: Why You May (or May Not) Want To Rent Out Your Space – GOBankingRates
Buyers and Sellers Have Retreated From The Housing Market For Now, Advisors Say – Financial Advisor Magazine
Posted: at 1:02 am
Home builder confidence fell for the eighth straight month in August, as financial advisors say market conditions have forced many of their clients to the sidelines.
Advisors described a market of extremes, with some clients stubbornly refusing to reduce prices on their home, and other clients who have given up on trying to sell or buy at all.
The market is a little weird right now and its just not checked into reality, said Jay Zigmont, founder of Childfree Wealth in Water Valley, Miss.
The National Association of Home Builders/Wells Fargo Housing Market Index fell six points in August to 49, marking the first time since May 2020 that the index fell below the key break-even measure of 50, the trade group reported on Monday. The index , which is based on a monthly survey of home builders and measures the pulse of the single-family housing market, stood at 75 a year ago and was at 83 in January.
Builder confidence fell in all regions, led by the West, which declined 11 points to 51. The Northeast dropped nine points to 56, the South dropped seven points to 63, and the Midwest dropped three points to 49.
Tighter monetary policy from the Federal Reserve and persistently elevated construction costs have brought on a housing recession, NAHB Chief Economist Robert Dietz said in a statement. He added that the volume of single-family starts will post its first decrease since 2011, but there is room for optimism that the demand-side of the market in the coming months will stabilized as signs grow that the rate of inflation is near peaking.
Financial advisors said the declining housing market have forced clients to pause plans to buy or sell their home.
The recent hike in interest rates and the talk of a housing recession has, without a doubt, lessened our clients desires to buy or build a new home, said Bryce Koch of Hiley Hunt Wealth Management in Omaha, Neb. He added that some of his homeowner clients have decided to stay put and invest in their home to make it more enjoyable. This allows our clients to maintain their very affordable mortgage payment, with a rate of 3% or even lower, but still add something new to their house that they may have been longing for."
Mortgage rates, which had begun to decline in 2019, hit new lows in 2020 and 2021 in response to the Covid crisis. By December 2021, the monthly average rate for a 30-year-fixed-rate mortgage was 2.68%, according to Freddie Mac. The rates continued in the 2% to 3% range throughout 2021. But in January, rates edged upward to 3.45%. The average rate reached 5.41% in July, according to Freddie Mac.
David Born of Private Financial Management LLC in the San Francisco Bay Area said higher housing costs not only have forced buyers on the sidelines, but have also affected sellers, who just have not accepted the reality of whats happening in the market, he said. Sellers want the price that they could get in January and the buyers just cant afford it."
More:
Posted in Childfree
Comments Off on Buyers and Sellers Have Retreated From The Housing Market For Now, Advisors Say – Financial Advisor Magazine
It’s Time To End Stressful Partings, Home Pet Euthanasia Is Here – PRUnderground
Posted: at 1:02 am
61% of Australian households, according to the RSPCA, have a pet. And there is nothing more stressful for a pet owner than the day it comes to say goodbye to their animal and to have it put down.
Traditionally, this means taking the animal to a vet and having it put to sleep at the vets surgery. This can be distressing for the owner and the animal in question.
As Dr. Audrey Harvey, the Veterinary Director of Rainbow Bridge In Home Pet Euthanasia, says, Most pets hate going to the vets surgery at any time. And that means that end of life services maybe highly stressful for the animal and the owner. But there is another way to go about this.
Announcing Home Pet Euthanasia
Many people are unaware that they dont have to go through the process of taking their animal to a veterinary clinic, instead, they could have their veterinarians come to them.
At Rainbow Bridge, they launched their home pet euthanasia service two years ago and that means that your pet can move on from this life in more familiar circumstances.
You choose the location that your pet will be most comfortable in, you can bring the people that will want to be there for your pet, and the procedure can be carried out at your pace (and your pets pace) in a way that is comforting to all.
Audrey says, Its very important to most pet owners to minimise the distress of their pet as well as that of their family when their pet passes. Our service is passionate about giving your pet a gentle way to pass, surrounded by their family in a place where they feel truly at home.
We cant eliminate, entirely, that this is a set of unpleasant circumstances, but we can minimize the discomfort and distress caused by external factors. My team of Bronwen, Mel, Rachel, Kirsten and myself are all ready to provide your pet with a gentle, kind passage from this life.
Planned End Of Life Care
One thing wed encourage in loving families is to talk about end-of-life care for your pet as a family unit before the end comes. If you can hold a constructive dialog about your pet when they are very old or have been diagnosed as terminally ill, you can start to think about their final experience.
Audrey continues, This vital conversation ensures that you can plan the passing of the beloved animal and ensure that you are providing a gentle experience for them and for the people that they leave behind. Mourning a pet as the Animal Health Foundation says is as stressful as losing a relative.
And many people simply dont know that home euthanasia is a possibility, in fact, Rainbow Bridge has helped pets pass in a variety of locations where they would be most comfortable. This includes on the couch in a living room, by a warm, cosy fireplace and in places near the home like a beach or by a dam.
This also provides a safe space for mourning together as a family after the pet passes, and this can help provide emotional support to vulnerable individuals.
Service Constraints
It is worth noting that not every veterinary clinic provides this service, however, because of restraints on human resources. This is why Rainbow Bridge has developed this as a unique service offering because while you may not have any choice about losing a pet, the way that they go matters.
Dr Audrey has completed further training through the Companion Animal Euthanasia Training Academy.
She says that the greatest gift of love that we can give to our pets is not to allow them to suffer. Their final days should not be the worst of days.
Home euthanasia is becoming an increasingly popular choice to celebrate a pets life and to allow those left behind to better manager their pain.
About A Childfree Happily Ever After
You only get one go at life dont let pressure and expectation from partners, parents, media, church or society force you into having children. Childfree Happily Ever After helps you explore the choices and work out what is right for you
See the rest here:
It's Time To End Stressful Partings, Home Pet Euthanasia Is Here - PRUnderground
Posted in Childfree
Comments Off on It’s Time To End Stressful Partings, Home Pet Euthanasia Is Here – PRUnderground
Is Political Correctness And Language Policing Weaponized To Exploit Minority Groups? – Yahoo News
Posted: at 12:58 am
In 1989,Michigan Universitybecame the first institution of higher learning to pass legislation prohibiting offensive language. Thepolicing of languageaims to influence the way a person speaks, especially if that person has considerable influence and their words have the capacity to insight discrimination or violence against marginalized groups. Most proponents of political correctness believe that the policing of language is a necessity thatsaves lives.
In a live online discussion via Zoom, Joel, a graduate student said, No one is being deprived of free speech. Freedom of speech is a statutory right. However, we should be held accountable for what we say. Peoples lives can be affected. Words harm.
In theory, his rationale is valid. In practice, it poses several concerns. Who decides what constitutes harmful speech? Is it hate speech if my views offend you? Is it truly a progressive and democratic society if expressing ones genuine feelings or thoughts is punishable? Who determines the punishment and the severity of such an offense?
To fully comprehend the potential danger of policing language, we must examine its role in history. In a public address made in December 1860, former slaveFrederick Douglasssaid, Liberty is meaningless where the right to utter ones thoughts and opinions has ceased to exist. To suppress free speech is a double wrong. It violates the rights of the hearer as well as those of the speaker.
Douglass believed, according topolitical scientist John R. Vile, that his own path to freedom had begun with his own literacy, and he was convinced that the spread of literacy and the exercise of freedom of speech and assembly were essential to the success of abolitionism. In essence, Frederick Douglass believed that the policing of language imposes on the liberty of the speaker and hearer.
Political correctness and language policing have been weaponized to exploit minorities. It enables bigots to hide their ill-intent behind the use of politically correct language or action in performative ways in order to gainpositive publicityand a larger fan base among minorities, despite having bigoted personal views on members of those groups. Additionally, in the event of being exposed for their bigotry, they utilizepolitically correct apologiesto gain the publics forgiveness and remain in a position of power.
Story continues
Public apologies represent a particularly apt moment for the exercise of affinity and self-work, saidKaren A. Cerulo and Janet M. Ruanein a 2014 paper published by Montclair State University. For luminaries (celebrities), apologies may be highly instrumental, designed to restore ones image, re-establish ties to admirers, and thus ensure continued economic success.
Once granted public forgiveness, these individuals remain in positions of authority and thus continue to influence policies andpublic perceptionon issues affecting minority groups.
Furthermore, it is used as a tool to exploit the struggles of minorities for clout, profit and publicity. After the death of George Floyd in 2020, protests erupted in cities throughout the United States. Celebrities and influencers also joined the movement, to bring more awareness to the tragedy. Many were praised for their advocacy, while others were exposed for using the movement togain clout among African Americans. Celebrities,companiesand influencers have periodically engaged in social movements, such as Black Lives Matter, to increase their popularity which ultimately translates to more profit.
The excessive use of political correctness and language policing has amplified intolerance towards minority groups. In a2019 reportpublished by GLAAD the worlds largest LGBTQ media advocacy organization their research revealed a further decline in LGBTQ acceptance among younger Americans.
According to their data, in three personal situations, young people aged 18 to 34 confessed to being very or somewhat uncomfortable with members of the LGBTQ+ community. This included discovering that a family member is LGBTQ+ (36% uncomfortable in 2019 vs. 29% in 2018), discovering that their doctor is LGBTQ+ (34% vs. 27%) and discovering that their child had an LGBTQ+ history lesson in school (39% vs. 30%).
In an interview with RT News, Brandon Straka, a controversial LGBTQ+ activist, blames radicalized members of the LGBTQ+ community and the excessive policing of language which indiscriminately labels any opposing views as racist and hate group for the drastic decline.
Irrespective of our personal views, the use of political correctness must be reconsidered in light of the numerous concerns. There needs to be more open, constructive dialogue among members of various political ideologies, and consensus on how we define and implement political correctness without infringing on the rights of all parties involved.
Read the original post:
Is Political Correctness And Language Policing Weaponized To Exploit Minority Groups? - Yahoo News
Posted in Political Correctness
Comments Off on Is Political Correctness And Language Policing Weaponized To Exploit Minority Groups? – Yahoo News
Letter is an exercise in Western superiority | Letters to the Editor | thebrunswicknews.com – Brunswick News
Posted: at 12:58 am
Tony B., dude. Your Aug. 4 letter a magnificent repertoire of White liberalism.
Where can we the people buy the ganja youre toking when you write your junk?
The Chinese have a word for such White leftists positions that you espouse baizou (kind of looks and sounds like bozo doesnt it?) which, among other epithets, refers to a deficiency in knowledge with respect to real problems in the real world due to a sense of entitlement.
Additionally, baizou is used by some Chinese to describe those hypocritical humanitarians who advocate political correctness just to satisfy their own sense of moral superiority.
Superiority. American voters know well that leftist descriptor.
Other Chinese use the word to describe ignorant and arrogant westerners who pity the rest of the world and think they are saviors. I know of only one savior and it isnt the baizou class.
Thanks, Tony B., for helping we the people to better understand what baizous are really about, which certainly demonstrates a baizous lack of inclusiveness, equity and unity for all.
See the article here:
Posted in Political Correctness
Comments Off on Letter is an exercise in Western superiority | Letters to the Editor | thebrunswicknews.com – Brunswick News
Why is the political gender gap growing? – UnHerd
Posted: at 12:58 am
Analysis
13:30
by Eric Kaufmann
Her boyfriend is out of shot, pretending to be woke. (photo by Gav Goulder/In Pictures via Getty Images)
Recently, the centrist pundit Matthew Yglesias tweeted the historic time series of Gallup surveys on political ideology among Americans aged 18 to 29 (shown below).
The graphs demonstrate a growing ideological gap between the sexes, with a rapid increase in the share of liberals among women but not men. As polarisation deepens, fewer young people are calling themselves centrist or dont know and picking an ideology, but only among women are they disproportionately moving Left.
Some who replied to Yglesias thought the change could be attributed to the growing share of women attending university (the share of women in the student body has risen from 42% to 60% since 1970).
But the growing female tilt among college students does not explain the change. Consider the data shown below from the massive Higher Education Research Institute (HERI) survey of incoming undergraduates, which samples some 100,000 students across 184 American colleges, weighted to be representative of all levels of higher education. If you compare the grey and blue bars, you see that women were less liberal than men in the Seventies, but since George W. Bush came to power in 2004, have been growing steadily more liberal than men.
By 2016, a record 42% of women identified as liberal, versus 28% for men.I lack access to the raw HERI data for subsequent years but the Foundation for Individual Rights in Education (FIRE) surveys of 55,000 undergraduates in the top 150 colleges in 2020 and 2021 show that 61% of women lean liberal compared to 44% of men, a whopping 17-point gender gap.
If not differences in rates of attending college, what underlies the astounding gender divergence in youth attitudes? Essentially, it appears to stem from a wokeness divide. In the FIRE survey, when you control for opposition to allowing controversial speakers (on BLM, abortion and trans rights) on campus, the statistical effect of gender on ideology collapses thirteenfold in statistical power.
The graph below shows 2020 YouGov Profiles data for a sample of around 25,000 British 18 to 30 year-olds, broken down by gender, for the following question: Thinking about political correctness, are you generally in favour of it (it protects against discrimination), or against it (it stifles freedom of speech). Each age has thousands of responses, and the data show differences of 30 to 40 points among those aged 18 to 23 while the gap is narrower for those aged 23 to 30.
For another UK survey of 945 individuals from Prolific I conducted this year, I found that 64% of women under 30 favoured political correctness on the above question compared to 48% of men under 30. This 16-point gap dwarfed the 4-point gender gap found in the over-50s. When I asked this on an American Qualtrics survey, the gender gap was 14 points for under-30s compared to a mere 1 point for the over-50s. The gender gap among the young stands out in both cases.
Its important not to blow the gender story out of proportion. Well over 90% of the variation in culture war attitudes, as with ideology, is within-gender rather than between genders. The gap may also close as people age and settle down. Nevertheless, gender is becoming a more important political cleavage among young people, and could emerge as more politically significant as Millennials and Gen-Z remake electorates in Britain and the United States.
More:
Posted in Political Correctness
Comments Off on Why is the political gender gap growing? – UnHerd
John Waters on the Truth About Lying and How Hes Avoided Cancel Culture – Rolling Stone
Posted: at 12:57 am
Filmmaker John Waters, the proud Pope of Trash, is no stranger to weird questions. But at a recent audience Q&A when someone asked him, How did you avoid getting cancer? he was flummoxed. I thought, I did smoke, Im 76 I guess it is a fair question,' he says on a call from his home in Provincetown, Massachusetts. I was explaining all this, and the audience starts laughing harder and harder. And then I realized I heard them wrong. They said, How did you avoid getting canceled?'
For nearly 60 years, Waters has violated the boundaries of good taste with satirical films like Hairspray and Pink Flamingos (recently rereleased by the Criterion Collection in honor of its 50th anniversary), and incisive books that take a closer look at Americas grimy underbelly. Now, the mustachioed misfit is taking on the concept of truth itself with his first novel, Liarmouth: A Feel-Bad Romance, about a compulsive liar named Marsha Sprinkle. I had a wonderful time thinking her up, he tells Rolling Stone. I think readers enjoy spending time with someone so monstrous every once in a while.
Liarmouths protagonist, Marsha Sprinkle, gets off on lying. What does your book say about the truth?She finds that lying makes her prettier and smarter and gives her power. She believes in random acts of meanness every day. If you lie to somebody creatively, it causes anarchy, and maybe that means shes the only person in control. I dont know what Freud would say about lying.
At one point, she tells a kid the Jonas Brothers died.I know, and I love the Jonas Brothers. Thats probably the meanest thing she does in the book, is to tell children that their idol, something terrible happened to them.
When I was a child, I remember hearing two rumors that everyone believed: that Annette Funicello [from] the Mousketeers had been beheaded in a car accident, and it was totally not true, and one about a girl that was on The Buddy Deane Show, which is the dance show I based Hairspray on. There was a girl named Pixie who I really liked. She was about four foot eight, and her hairdo was, like, three feet high. She quit the show, and a rumor started that she died from having roaches in her hair that came and bit her, and she had to come back on the air to prove it wasnt true. So I had Ricki Lake have roaches in her hair in Hairspray. So that whole lie turned into a kind of a conveyor belt of scenes that inspired me.
What did you hope to do with a novel that you couldnt do with film?It was nothing different; I just want to make people laugh at things they are surprised to laugh at. And in a novel I got to go deeper in describing characters feelings. Im always just trying to make myself laugh first, and then my friends, and then my readers. I think, Am I going to get away with this one?
Many of your characters are living their truths and dont care what anyone thinks, even if their behavior is repugnant. What do you make of people who arent afraid to be themselves?Im always fascinated by people that dont see how insane they act, and they really are serious about what theyre doing. Cant you see what you look like? So Im fascinated by peoples behavior; all writers are. Youre a spy if youre a writer.
How do you feel comedy and fiction get to the truth of human experience?If you want to convince someone else of the truth, you make them laugh and theyll listen. Preaching, being serious, ranting, telling them theyre stupid none of that works. You make them laugh, theyll listen.
What do you think of people who hate sex, like Marsha Sprinkle?I think its refreshing to hate sex. I mean, sometimes I think, Well, why do I have to do this? I didnt think this up. Im a little like Marsha, I resent instinct. I mean, I like having sex, but I wish I had thought it up. I wish it wasnt something programmed in me.
What should people who hate sex know?People that hate sex usually hate it for a reason. Theyve had some kind of trauma in their background, or they just dont get it. In a way, if you really hate sex, that might be freedom. Youre probably never going to fall in love, youre not going to get hurt. But you are definitely missing something. But I dont think theres anything other people should know that I know. Because like Glinda told Dorothy, You have to find it out for yourself. And I thought Glinda was kind of shitty. Why did she make Dorothy go through all that shit? If shed just, Click your heels together, you can go home, but she made her almost die and go through all shit. Why? In other words, maybe you are telling people what they should learn when you write any fiction or write a movie. Youre telling them something that maybe they dont know, that they take back in their own life and apply it for humor, to get through something.
Does Liarmouth have a moral?As you read the book, you learn she did have a reason to be so bitter. And then she learned to tell the truth when one insane man did worse to her than she did to other people; she found her match. And maybe thats what everybody needs, is to find their match.
You mentioned that Marsha practices random acts of meanness. What does your book say about the world?That Im a kind person and I think the humor in my book is not mean. Marsha learns and, sort of, it has a happy ending.
So what am I saying about the world? That human behavior is fascinating. Thats all Im ever saying. And that we really cant judge anybody because we dont know the whole story. And I think everybodys born innocent the exact opposite of what the Catholic church that taught me, that children were born with original sin, the most evil thing you could ever tell a child. Jews are right; they tell them, Youre the chosen people. Thats what you should tell people.
Is there any good to Catholicism?I always said that Catholics will have the best sex because itll always be dirty.
In your book Shock Value, you wrote that in your opinion, bad taste was the peak of entertainment. How has bad taste changed in the five decades between Pink Flamingos and Liarmouth?I wrote that in 1980. If my films have done anything, theyve made bad taste a little more respectable. The kind of humor I used in my early movies is on every television show. Dark humor is, today, American humor. It used to be called sick humor, satire, black comedy; its all now just American humor. Every TV show has it, every rap song has it, everything has it thats American. Its using things that are against you for humor.
When is the last time a story has shocked you?Im reading this book called Helltown now, about Tony Costa, the necrophile mass murderer in Provincetown. I remember when it happened, when I was here very, very young. And so now being in Provincetown and [learning about it] again, this is pretty shocking. His murders were really shocking and hideous. He cut up the bodies and had sex with them in different ways. I always thought necrophilia was just fear of performance. Maybe it is.
Youd never get a negative review.Nobodys going to say you were a lousy fuck.
Have you seen any good exploitation movies lately?I cant think of one. Whats an exploitation film anymore? Its amazing there isnt a Covid movie out. There would have been a Covid exploitation movie in two minutes in the Sixties.
You titled a chapter of Shock ValueWhy I Love Violence.Fake violence in a movie, I have a great time with, but I dont like to see real violence ever. If its a snuff movie, Im not interested, because theres no creativity in it.
Why do you think people get off on violence?Maybe because they think, Well, at least that didnt happen to me today. I had a bad day, but I didnt get shoved in front of a subway. Just like they asked the editor of the National Enquirer once, Why do you always write about stars failing? And he said, Because our readers are failing.
Going back to the getting canceled question that audience threw at you: Why dont you think youve been canceled?Because Im not mean spirited and I make fun of things I love, and I make fun of the rules of the outsider world that Ive always lived in, not the rules of my parents.
This year is the 50th anniversary of Pink Flamingos. As far as potential fodder for cancellation goes, the one thing that stands out the most would be the couple abducting and impregnating elementary school children and selling their babies to lesbians.Yeah, I guess. And the chicken scene [in which a chicken is crushed between two characters when one rapes another], but I eat chicken. You cant call somebody fat anymore. Theres a really rude scene where she gets a birthday card, Happy birthday, Fatso, and the audience howls in laughter. But, yes, [backlash] probably is even worse today because of so-called political correctness, but it has not happened to the movie. It got named by the government to the National Registry. What more kind of acceptance can you get? And I think its because its the right person wins in Pink Flamingos: Divine is the right person, according to her morals, and the other people are jealous and judgmental, everything that Im against. So the morals are still correct in Pink Flamingos, even if theyre told in a very confusing way.
Speaking of political correctness, did you see that Lizzo got in trouble for saying spaz in a song?Yeah, you cant say that word. Well, in [my film] Female Trouble, one of the funniest lines in the whole movie is when Divine says to her daughter, You are most definitely retarded. We had you tested by a team of doctors. People still howl at that.
What do you think of the way culture has changed with regard to political correctness?I used to fear the right. Now I dont. If Im going to get [any blowback], it would be from rich, left, liberal students. Which, Im a liberal, and I guess Im rich I mean, if you had to say it, Im not poor. The only thing that the new politically correct generation does is they never make fun of themselves, and thats a flaw. And thats how you lose followers, thats how people go and vote for the other side.
That sounds like something you could explore more. Is there any chance youd make another film? Its been nearly 20 years since A Dirty Shame.Theres definitely chances. I have two possible things in the works and both my contracts say I cant talk about it. So lets just say, yes, it is a possibility.
Thats good news. A few years ago, you were saying, I just write books now.Well, things change. Old chickens make good soup, Ive always said it.
Theres a scene in Pink Flamingos in which a character mails a turd to Divine.Little Richard used to mail people a turd. When I read his biography, it was in there. So Pink Flamingos was not the first instance of that. And I thought I made that up.
You recently hosted a Pink Flamingos screening. What is it like watching that again, 50 years later, with people who havent seen it before?Its scary at first, because we said in the beginning, How many people have seen this? and only about a fourth of the audience raised their hand. Its usually 100 [percent] they all have. And usually, it starts out and they say, Mink Stole, everybody cheers but they were kind of quiet. Theyre like, Oh, my God, what is this? And by the end, theyre laughing and cheering.
Thats nice to see, Im sure.It is. It just proves I won.
Here is the original post:
John Waters on the Truth About Lying and How Hes Avoided Cancel Culture - Rolling Stone
Posted in Political Correctness
Comments Off on John Waters on the Truth About Lying and How Hes Avoided Cancel Culture – Rolling Stone
‘Desus & Mero’ Brought the Block to Late-Night TV – The Atlantic
Posted: at 12:57 am
In the series premiere of Desus & Mero, the co-hosts, Daniel Desus Nice Baker and Joel The Kid Mero Martinez, enter a New York City classroom ready to be clowned. Late night for the people! Desus announces to a room of unimpressed elementary schoolers. The children immediately fire off both questions and roasts: Do you have kids? What did you do before TV? Arent you the guys who got dragged by DJ Envy on The Breakfast Club? The skit ends with one girl saying, You guys seem a little too ghetto to be on TV.
The (scripted, Im sure) comment noted the obvious: Neither Desus nor Mero looked, sounded, or behaved like other mainstream late-night hosts, many of whom are wealthy white men in suits. Desus and Meroof Jamaican and Dominican descent, respectivelyhad heavy New York accents, wore casual attire, and cursed openly and often. But more important, they openly embraced their connection to a version of the city that the elementary-school classroom represented: a New York populated primarily by working-class families and immigrants, where more than two-thirds of inhabitants are people of color, mostly Black or Latino.
When Desus and Meros show debuted on Showtime in 2019, the Bronx-bred duo seemed primed to launch a new era of late-night TV. By the Season 2 premiere a year later, David Letterman was calling them the future of the industry. The show continued a strong run, featuring guests as varied as Eddie Murphy, Sandra Bullock, and Chris Smalls, who organized the Amazon labor union on Staten Island. But then, last month, Showtime announced that the series wouldnt return for a fifth season. The hosts were ending their creative partnership, including, to the heartbreak of thousands of viewers and listeners, their popular, long-running podcast, Bodega Boys.
The reason for the shows cancellation is unclear. In a recent interview, Mero said that he and Desus had been discussing the split for more than a year. Yet in Junes Season 4 finale, Mero said that the show would only be taking a summer break, and shortly before Showtimes announcement, fans were speculating about tension between the duo. Whatever the exact cause, the end of Desus & Mero is a loss not only for their fan basenicknamed the Bodega Hivebut also for the broader television landscape. The show spoke to New Yorkers who grew up or live in the hood, provided a space for Black celebrities to show up as their full selves, and created a space where Black men in particular could tune in to conversations that sounded like ones they might have with friends.
Read: 20 perfect TV shows for short attention spans
The Desus & Mero set, a departure from typical late-night studios, captured the shows ethos. The co-hosts sat side-by-side on a low stage, with no desk separating them from the audience or their guests. The interviews were held first at a table crowded with graffiti (drawn by Mero) and most recently on a set modeled after a bodega, stocked with candy, beer, Jesus candles, toilet paper, and a sneaker display. Most of the props bore either the Desus & Mero logo or one of their catchphrases. (The brand was, as they always said, strong.) The flags of both of their islands were ever present, as were liquor bottles made to mimic Brugal, a Dominican rum. Desus and Mero wore Timbs, puffer jackets, and fitted capsa uniform familiar to Bronx natives and many of the citys Black and Latino residents. Mero in particular often repped Dominican paraphernalia, whether an guilas sweatshirt (for one of the countrys baseball teams) or attire from local Latino-owned brands.
The duos path to fame didnt resemble the one taken by many other late-night hosts: Go to a prestigious improv school, get hired at Saturday Night Live, and then wait your turn for a solo break. Desus had been a strip-club manager, a mechanic, and a bartender before working in media; Mero held jobs in IT and as a special-education paraprofessional. Their backgrounds featured prominently on the show and allowed them to wade into comedic territory that other late-night hosts wouldnt or simply couldnt touch.
Take, for instance, Desuss mocking defense of the basketball player Tristan Thompson, which referenced the stereotype that Caribbean men cheat on their partners. You know about us Jamaicans. Were loyal, he said in one episode. And then, after a pause: to all our families. They made frequent mention of Dominicans bringing spaghetti to the beach (if you know, you know) and of the regular fights that break out in City Island restaurants. Sometimes, the co-hosts bantered about drug addiction in Black neighborhoods, stop-and-frisk, and their parents threats to send them back to the islands when they disobeyed them. Though ostensibly dark, these moments reflected the humor that people who face these daily indignities use to cope. The cultural specificity kept them close to their New York City roots and their goal of creating a late-night show for the people.
Late-night shows also depend on celebrity access and memorable conversations, and Desus & Mero gave Black stars a space in late night where they didnt have to code switch. In a Season 1 interview with the Black Panther actors Winston Duke and Lupita Nyongo, the hosts pulled up a picture of Duke wearing leather slidesthe official footwear of every African or West Indian father, Desus observed. Duke had been called out by his Instagram followers for wearing the open-toed sandals while doing construction work around the house. And then you see all the Caribbeans coming on like, Whats the problem? Duke recalled. Thats regular footwear. They talked about immigrant parents expectations, and Duke mimicked his family members accents. In the Season 4 premiere, the hosts spoke with Denzel Washington (who was promoting The Tragedy of Macbeth) about having an overprotective mom and growing up in Mount Vernon, close to the Bronx. Mero dubbed the actor Hollyhood. (In contrast, Washington spent most of his appearance on another show quoting Shakespeare with the white host.) Desus and Mero also featured people who may not otherwise have been welcome in late night, including bodega owners; strippers; the rapper Bobby Shmurda, who was in prison for more than six years; and local internet celebrities such as the Long Islanders Bigtime Tommie and DJ Vinny Dice.
The pair didnt have much regard for respectability politics or political correctness. The N-word was used regularly, as was the term crackheads to refer to people addicted to drugs. Desus and Meros refusal to self-censor was part of their appeal and a reflection of conversations you might hear on East Fordham Road in the Bronx or on Jamaica Avenue in Queens. Still, they could be quick to correct themselves if they said something uncouth. During a bit on a Pride Month tweet by the CIA, in which the agency posted a supportive message of its gay service members along with a photo of a combat helmet with rainbow-colored ammo, Desus made fun of the gay bullets. But he immediately stopped himself: Why are we calling them gay bullets? These moments showed the co-hosts openness to growth and respect for shifting public sentiment about social issues.
As the seasons went on, the pairs stature grew. They became friends with celebrities, and their newfound fame appeared to fuel their disagreements over what was or wasnt appropriate to say on air. Desus in particular seemed more concerned with maintaining professional relationships. (In a segment on Mariah Careys 2021 holiday campaign with McDonalds, Desus cringed at Meros suggestion that the singer was wearing shapewear. When we eventually interview her, shes going to ask about that comment, he said.) Although both maintained their irreverent, raunchy, off-the cuff humor, Mero seemed to stay away from the glossy world opening up to them as a result of the showin large part because he was a family man with four childrenand Desus would often side-eye or distance himself from Meros potentially offensive comments. Hollywood Desus became a running joke between them and the Bodega Hive, although these jokes seemed less lighthearted by Season 4. At times, this tension made the show less fun to watch.
But no matter the growing pains, that Desus and Mero made it to television at all was a seismic achievement. Since the series premiered in 2019, other shows filling a similar void have cropped up. In HBOs Pause With Sam Jay, for instance, the comedian Sam Jay gathers friendsincluding formerly incarcerated people, government workers, and fellow entertainersfor broad-ranging conversations about issues such as capitalism, conspiracy theories, and LGBTQ education in schools. But no series offers the authenticity and local New York City perspective of Desus & Mero. The shows loss means one less space for people who grew up in the hood to feel seen and welcome and, most important, not judgedas Desus always said, Gods working on all of us.
See more here:
'Desus & Mero' Brought the Block to Late-Night TV - The Atlantic
Posted in Political Correctness
Comments Off on ‘Desus & Mero’ Brought the Block to Late-Night TV – The Atlantic







