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Apparently being a woman does not automatically make you a lady. Being a lady, it is believed, one has to have class and self-respect. We have heard so many customs that should govern a lady and some, I admit, are deplorable.

When modern is added to lady, you probably picture a wild, conceited, and probably well-to-do female. Well, there is not always one way to see it. But there are certain things, thankfully, I will never have to go by simply because we are in the 21st Century. For example;

Never will I ever force myself to take on masculine traits just to be considered a strong woman. Some girls fight their emotions at the expense of their happiness just to be regarded as tough. No, thanks. I choose to embrace my sensitivity, emotional and nurturing nature. I will still be independent, bring my ideas to the board of opinions, say what I mean, be consistent and adopt more qualities because, by the way, it is okay to learn along the way and not have everything figured out just yet.

Never will I ever hate another girl for spiteful reasons. But never will I ever pretend to like another girl if I dont mean it. We know the drama between women fighting for men. Men, who, probably do not care about any of them. Or in instances of polygamy, women pretend to be okay with the situation while hating on each other heavily and deeply.

But also the modern facade of calling everyone sis (sister) should be called what it is, pretence.

Never will I ever pretend to have money in front of a guy when I dont. You know the question, what do you bring to the table? Well, I dont see why I should lie about not needing help just because it may come from a man. This, I believe, does not make me less of a female, just because I choose honesty and transparency.

Hear me well, however, because as a modern lady I will not be idle and wait for the gentleman to provide. Nor, I hope, will he expect me to be submissive.

Never will I ever die of hunger, not out of poverty, but because of an endless diet to try and adhere to societal standards. However, if I ever feel uncomfortable in my own body because of how much weight I have gained or lost then I will be happy to go on a diet, for me and nobody else.

Never will I ever wear clothes I do not like just to adhere to some standards. Some ladies will opt to wear ugly colourless outfits to be regarded as more serious and less provocative. Others will dress to impress too much, with the I dont care mentality.

Well, you choose. Regardless of the occasion and what I choose to wear, as a lady who respects herself, I will make sure my clothes/shoes are freshly cleaned, look crisp, and ironed to perfection. The point is, as long as I feel comfortable.

Again, we dont want to encourage a culture that objectifies women, to see them for their bodies, instead of their intelligence, thoughts, and opinions. However, we can be strong, intelligent, thoughtful, and respectable and still dress in a way that puts value on our feminine figures.

Never will I ever decide to put makeup on or not because of someone elses opinion. Ladies, it is okay to use that special tool to highlight your beautiful eyes or cover up acne and so on. It is okay not to go out without lipstick on if you dont fancy it. You are a lady regardless.

Never will I ever follow rules on how to be a lady. Although indirect, rules of any kind are just another way to confine people. PS; Im not talking about government rules and laws, arrest me not. But then if women still followed every rule, we still wouldnt have the right to vote or lead.

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Never will I ever: What's the definition of a 'modern lady'? - The New Times

After taking on the role as youngest son of one of the main characters in the TV series, Under the Banner of Heaven, Beau McHattie from Langdon, has his sights set on bigger roles.

Alberta has attracted some big film and TV productions over the last couple of years, bringing small acting roles and background work to the province.

One local 10-year-old boy from Langdon, Beau McHattie, nabbed a role as the son of one of the main characters in a soon-to-be-released series on Hulu called Under The Banner of Heaven.

The Mormon murder mysteryfeatures the likes of Andrew Garfield, Wyatt Russell, Sam Worthington, Denise Gough, and Rory Culkin. The story of polygamy, delusion, and violence follows the real-life 1984 tragedy of Brenda Lafferty as told by true-crime novelist and journalist Jon Krakauer.

With all of the filming taking place in several locations across southern Alberta, including Calgary, Crossfield, and Rocky View County, it was easy for the McHattie family to be part of the production.

Beaus mother Jayme McHattie noted the farthest they ever travelled for filming was 40 minutes.

It was neat he could do it, but it was also neat that the whole thing was filmed right here, from Vegas sets to Florida sets, she said, adding 40-foot palm trees were brought in for one of the scenes to make it appear they were actually in Florida.

After receiving the opportunity to submit for the role by their agent, Beau auditioned for the part under the assumption it was just for background work.

"And then I crushed that audition, Beau said.

Several days before filming was scheduled to start, their agent called with the news that Beaus background work was cancelled. After some initial disappointment, the agent went on to explain that it was cancelled because he actually had landed the bigger role of Ron Laffertys youngest son.

We were pretty excited. It was overwhelming. We had no idea what we were getting into, Jayme said.

In the series, brothers Ron and Dan Lafferty are both charged with the murder of their sister-in-law Brenda and her infant daughter. Jayme noted that some of Beaus most impactful scenes are with his character's dad, Ron Lafferty, who is played by Sam Worthington.

With a couple of lines throughout the series, Beau can be seen in several scenes of every episode, he said.

His mom noted that he took on some very serious scenes through his role.But though theseries contains some heavy material,the crew always made sure to check in on the kids on set, Jayme explained.

Academy Award-winning filmmaker and series writer for Under the Banner of Heaven, Dustin Lance Black, would often give Beau pointers and go over expectations with him before shooting every scene.

There's a fairly heavy domestic violence scene and Lance and the cast were very aware that it might be a little tough on some of the younger cast members there, Jayme explained. They would just take their time and after each take, they would talk to Beau and make sure that he understood that they're just acting and that nobody is actually getting hurt.

Being on set for what could be 10-hour days, Beau also needed to manage his school work. Thanks to an on-set teacher, he was able to keep up his academics throughout several months of filming.

I was actually pretty nervous until I met the teacher and she was actually really funny and nice, Beau said.

An additional benefit for his family was that Beaus grandpa, who is retired, became his stage person, bringing him to set and staying with him all day. The grandpa-grandson duo allowed his family to continue on with everyday life.

Beaus favourite part of filming was meeting actors includingWorthington, Daisy Edgar-Jones, and Denise Gough, he said.

It was a really cool experience seeing how the shows are actually filmed and how it comes together how the sets come together, and even how the camera's work, Beau said. It's just really awesome.

Beau first became interested in acting when he wanted to be in the show Stranger Things, a science fiction horror drama television series on Netflix. His mom had to explain that Stranger Things was a little out of our realm, and that maybe they could take a look at local productions instead.

The 10-year-old took on a bit of background work the year prior before landing the role on Under the Banner of Heaven.

I just want to be a main character in a movie or a show, he said of his future aspirations. Everyone's gonna know me.

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Langdon youth debuts acting career in Alberta-shot TV series, Under the Banner of Heaven - Airdrie Today

The individual bishops as . . . member[s] of the episcopal college and legitimate successor[s] of the apostles, [are] obliged by Christs institution and command to be solicitous for the whole Church, and this solicitude, though it is not exercised by an act of jurisdiction, contributes greatly to the advantage of the universal Church. For it is the duty of all bishops to promote and to safeguard the unity of faith and the discipline common to the whole Church.

This passage from the Second Vatican Councils Dogmatic Constitution on the Church, Lumen gentium, underscores one of the principal doctrines articulated and developed at the council: the collegiality of bishops with one another and in union with the Bishop of Rome, and the solicitude each is to have for the universal Church, beyond the confines of his own local church.

The councils Decree Concerning the Pastoral Office of Bishops in the Church, Christus Dominus, picks up on this theme with greater specificity:

Inspired by this teaching we have received from the Second Vatican Council, this week I signed A Fraternal Open Letter to Our Brother Bishops in Germany together with seventy other cardinals and bishops from around the world (and the number of signatories is still growing). Because the German Synodal Path departs radically from settled Church doctrine and ancient and well-established discipline, it threatens to cause a schism in the Church, even beyond Germany itself. Our expression of concern is prompted by this threat, especially when we hear leading voices of the Church in Germany rejecting the authority of Scripture and Tradition, in particular with regard to the unbroken teachings of the Church on matters of sexual morality, gender ideology, the sacraments, and the exercise of authority in the Church.

The open letter, then, is an exercise of the collegial episcopal authority given to the Church from Christ, and follows on other recent interventions of members of the College of Bishopsin particular, the Letter of Fraternal Concern from the president of the Polish Bishops Conference to the president of the German Bishops Conference, and the similar letter from the Nordic Bishops Conference. As we reminded our brother bishops in the fraternal open letter:

I signed as the archbishop of San Francisco so the faithful of my own archdiocese may know that I have grave concerns about the action of the German bishops. I signed to be in collegial solidarity with bishops from around the world in opposition to the direction of the Synodal Path of the German church. Through contacts I have with the Church in Germany, I also heard pleas of the faithful Catholics in Germany for support from the Church around the world. To give these faithful German Catholics such support and encouragement is another act of solidarity for the good of the unity and peace of the Church.

In particular, I hope the letter makes it clear that:

To this last point it should be added that all baptized women and men, as a dignity conferred in baptism, exercise the baptismal priesthood, which is a strong foundation of the lay apostolate. The history of the Church is filled with great things achieved by women in promotion of the kingdom of Christ. To suggest that women must be ordained as priests in order to have equality with men in the Church is, ironically, demeaning to women, for it presumes that what has traditionally been exclusively the realm of men is the only measure of dignity or worth, and so whatever is uniquely feminine is inferior. This is a profoundly unchristian view of what equality and complementarity mean in Gods plan of creation and in the ordering of the Church.

I believe that it is no accident that many of the bishops who first spoke out by signing this letter are from Africa, where the Church is growing in spite of (or because of) the firm commitment of the Church there to preserving Christs teachings on sexual morality, even though these are starkly opposed to many African traditional mores (including polygamy). If settled Church doctrine, consistently taught and developed over two millennia, is to be discarded as socially unacceptable, then all the truth claims of the Christian faith collapse. It may seem ironic to some, but it is classical Catholicism that evangelizes. A tepid accommodation to the latest dogmas of secular orthodoxy, on the other hand, cannot be the basis for renewal.

I hope and pray that the German bishops will listen to the Holy Father and their brother bishops and turn from their path of division. The deposit of our Catholic faith cannot be changed, and those who try to change our faith do grave harm to themselves and to the faithful.

Salvatore J. Cordileone is the archbishop of San Francisco.

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