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Q: For years my husband has enjoyed a weekly poker night with his friends.

During the pandemic he got into online betting; now Im concerned that hes turning into a compulsive gambler. He says Im worried about nothing. How can I be sure?

Jim: While it sounds trite to say it, your husband may be in denial. Dr. Robert Custer, a trailblazer in the field of gambling addiction treatment, identifies denial as refusing to acknowledge something to oneself (leading) to actually believing that there is no danger at all. Its a common mindset among those who struggle with gambling addiction.

Unfortunately, denial can affect others around the addict. Loved ones may subconsciously use it to explain away, minimize or rationalize destructive behavior.

This being the case, Id recommend that you first take an honest look at yourself.

If you have been enabling a troublesome pattern in some way, youre going to have to change your approach in order to help your spouse.

If, upon reflection, youre convinced that your husbands gambling is compulsive, sit down with him and confront the issue head-on.

Has he placed any limits on his gambling activity, either in terms of money wagered or time invested? Does he gamble as a way to escape from problems? Has he lied to others to conceal the extent of his gambling or worse, committed any illegal acts to finance the habit?

Depending on the answers to those questions, insist that he consider the possibility that he has a serious problem. Suggest that he seek professional assistance.

If hes unwilling to listen, enlist the help of an objective third party a pastor, a relative or a male friend who agrees with your assessment.

2021 Focus on the Family

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Q: How can I begin to help my kids break some of the bad screen-time habits that have set in during the COVID-19 lockdowns?

Adam Holz, director, Plugged In: Screen time. Is there a bigger issue that parents are facing these days? My wife and I are dealing with it in our family. And most other families are too.

Screen time was a big issue before the coronavirus. And studies suggest that the amount of time we spend on screens now has perhaps doubled in the last year. Thats a result of many factors: remote learning, being able to connect with friends almost exclusively through screen-based devices, and parents working from home themselves while not having the mental bandwidth to exercise discipline in this area 24/7.

So, what do we do? Before we deal with our kids habits, we need to look at our own. Our children will naturally imitate what we model; thus, we may need to make screen-time adjustments ourselves before taking the next step.

With our kids, that next step should be a concrete and specific one that begins to reclaim lost ground. It might be as simple as no phones at the dinner table. Other suggestions include a tech-free night when the whole family engages in non-screen-related activities. We may also want to re-establish basic boundaries regarding where and when phones can be used, such as limiting use in bedrooms at night. The goal here is to set measurable, achievable goals as a family.

Habits take time to form and time to reshape. A reset in this area wont happen overnight, and it likely wont be without setbacks and moments of discouragement as you strive to break some unhealthy patterns and reestablish new ones. But by gradually establishing concrete, specific changes, you can successfully pull back from screen overuse as a family.

2021 Focus on the Family

Distributed by Andrews McMeel Syndication

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Focus on the Family: Husband may have gambling issue - Watertown Daily Times

In this episode of theGolf Gambling Podcaston the Sports Gambling Podcast Network, Boston Capper (@boston_capper) and Steve Schirmer start the show with a bit of touting! Boston Capper gave out Kevin Kisner pre-tournament and cashed in big. Steve also followed through on saving bullets to live bet, and used one of them on Kisner on Thursday evening. They recap Kisners big win along with other notes from the Wyndham Championship. They also give an update on the Ryder Cup standings and give their takes on who should and shouldnt make the team.

Then they move on to preview The Northern Trust from Liberty National Golf Course in Jersey City, New Jersey. Steve and Boston Capper have a quick funeral for some big names who didnt make the cut for the playoffs. Steve then goes in depth into the history and design of Liberty National Golf Course. They end the show with a recap of the 2019 tournament at Liberty National, and any preview that may have to this years Northern Trust.

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(This story is one of six serialized highlights from the Ken Mink book Big Blue Blues: The Inside Story of Kentuckys Involvement in the Point-Shaving Scandal of the 1940s-50s. The complete book is on sale on the Internet through Amazon Books, Smashwords Books and Barnes and Noble. Mink is a former Herald-Leader sportswriter who spent many hours with the late UK basketball Coach Adolph Rupp and other coaches and journalists researching data for the book. He is a native of Vicco, near Hazard, in Perry County.)

Following Kentuckys college basketball domination of the 1945-46, 1946-47 and 1947-48 era Coach Rupp found himself with several thousand dollars left over from the Olympics exhibition games with the Phillips Oilers and UK fan donations to help pay for the team sending extra players to the Olympics.

Coach Rupp met with Coach Lancaster to talk about what to do with the leftover funds.

Harry, the fans sent this in for the boys, and I think it should go to the boys, Rupp said.

I agree, Coach, but I dont know how we can do it legally, within the rules, I mean, said Lancaster.

Why dont we just dole it out throughout the season, giving the boys $20 here and there, and maybe $50 if they had played well? said Rupp.

Well, a lot of the guys like Beak and Beard could sure use the dough, with their family situations and all, said Lancaster.

Lets do it that way, then, said Rupp. But I will check with (UK) President (Herman) Donovan to make sure its legal before we do it.

Donovan gave Rupp and Lancaster the OK to distribute the money to the players. Donovan compared UKs trip to the Sugar Bowl hoops tournament in New Orleans like a football trip to a bowl game, where football players were given extra spending money. UK basketball players received up to $50 each spending money a decision that would come back to haunt UK.

As the season progressed several players, including Beard and Groza, found themselves handed $20 bills by Rupp and Lancaster from the leftover Olympics cash. As the 1948-49 season progressed, college basketball betting became a million dollar business, with UK games regularly featured.

UK did not have strong security for its players and gamblers managed to make their way into the locker room, often approaching UK players.

After a home game against Arkansas, Beard found himself shaking hands with Nick (the Greek) Englisis, a New York guy who came to UK to play football but soon found Coach Bryant had upgraded the football talent and he had lost his scholarship and became a UK assistant basketball team

Great game, Ralph, said Englisis, handing Beard a $20 bill.

What the hell is this all about? said a puzzled Beard.

Just a little token of gratitude from Ed Curd and the boys downtown, said Englisis.

Gratitide for w-w-what? said Beard.

Well, you guys more than upheld the point spread and Ed and his friends made quite a few bucks on the game, said Englisis.

Beard was still puzzled. Thanks, I guess, b-b-but I still dont understand.

Just relax and enjoy it. Buy yourself sumpn nice, said Englisis, moving away to Grozas locker, shaking his hand and giving him a 20-dollar bill.

Hey, thanks, Greek, said Groza. You hit a winner at the race track?

Englisis game Groza the same spiel and moved over to Barnstables locker, where he did the same thing.

After Englisis left Beard, Groza and Barnstable huddled quietly near Beards locker.

Looks like we made some people happy, huh, guys, said Groza.

Yeah, without even trying, said Barnstable. Guess theres nothing wrong if somebody wants to give us money for no reason. And Coach Rupp and Coach Lancaster have rewarded us with a little money from time to time, so I guess we ought to just relax and enjoy it.

Still, I dont think w-w-we ought to be talking about this with the other fellows, since we dont k-k-know if Greek gave them some money, too, said Beard.

Yeah, youre right, Ralph, no point in getting things stirred up, said Groza.

After handing out $20 and $50 bills to Beard, Groza and Barnstable as the 1948-49 season progressed, Curd and Englisis approached the trio about making even more money.

The gamblers met with the trio in the dining room of the Phoenix Hotel in downtown Lexington in January of 1949.

You boys have been real good at beating the point spread, said Curd. Dinner is on me. . . dessert, too.

The players took advantage as they all ordered steak.

Curd got down to business.

Boys, you may not know, but I work with some big-time gamblers out of New York City, including Frankie Costello. These guys use me to make basketball bets for them. You guys have been good at winning games over the point spread. Now, we are asking that you not beat the point spread but win for what the point spread calls for. For example, if you are favored to win by 12, you win by 11 or less.

So, you are asking that we dont run away from teams said Groza.

Exactly. We stand to win more money by you winning under the point spread than by going over the spread, said Englisis.

We are not asking you to throw games, said Curd. I know you guys would never do that. We are just asking that you control the winning margin.

B-b-but wouldnt that hurt some of our fans who bet on us to beat t-t-teams more than the point spread, said Beard.

Maybe a few, said Curd. But the big-time betting is done in the larger cities, particularly New York, Boston, Philadelphia and Chicago. I dont think we have many big betters in Lexington, Louisville or the rest of the state. Besides, we dont want you to hold down the score for every game just a few here and there. Im a friend of Coach Rupp . . . I wouldnt want anything bad to happen to him or you guys.

So, what kind of money are we talking about I mean for us, said Groza.

Anywhere from a couple hundred to a couple thousand each,

Are you talking to any other UK players, Wah Wah in particular, said Groza.

No, said Curd. I think you three are enough to control things. And we feel Wah Wah would just not be cooperative.

I think we n-n-need to talk about this among ourselves, said Beard.

I agree, said Groza. Give us a day or two and we will let you know what we decide.

The next day the trio met at their dorm.

I dont know what you guys think, said Beard. But I d-d-dont want to do anything that would hurt UK fans. They have been very loyal to us and I dont want to do anything that would cost them m-m-money. I dont mind so much getting money for winning games over the point spread. That is just getting paid to play good ball. But its a d-d-different deal trying to hold the score under the point spread. That means that sometimes we would have to deliberately play bad and I dont l-l-like that at all. I have too much pride to deliberately screw up.

I agree, said Groza. But its like Mr, Curd said, we are talking about a small amount of betting money by UK fans and it would involve only a few games. Its not like we were actually throwing games. We would still win and thats the main thing.

No real harm the way I see it, said Barnstable. Its not like were doing something illegal. People who bet are the ones breaking the law. The only ones who stand a chance of getting hurt are the gamblers.

And I guess its not so bad, said Groza. Coach Rupp has been giving us some money, too, for playing good.

The trio agreed to hold the score under the spread in some games and on Feb. 8, 1949, the players agreed to hold the final score under the point spread against Tennessee. UK was favored to win by 18 points, but won 71-56, three points under the point spread. Groza scored 34 in that game.

After one home game, Coach Rupp saw Curd in the UK dressing room, talking to some of his players.

Whats that guy doing in here? Rupp said to Lancaster. Get him outta here I dont want bookies in our locker room!

I let him in when Beak told me that Curd told him he was a friend of yours, said Lancaster.

Hes no friend of mine, said Rupp. I have seen him a few times at parties, and he made a donation to our Shriners Foundation fund drive, but you know how I feel about gamblers. Make sure he does not get in here again.

Rupp had been adamantly opposed to the idea of gambling on sports events and had criticized newspapers for printing point spread information.

The players had each received about $700 from Curd as the 1948-49 season progressed.

Beard kept visiting his mother often and kept giving her all the money he received from the point-shaving.

His mother became suspicious on one of Ralphs visits.

I dont understand how you can get this much money, Ralph. You are not stealing it, are you? You know I would never stand for that! I would rather starve to death than steal from another person!

No, m-m-mom I am not stealing it. I am earning it.

How are you earning it . . . do you have a job at school?

Yeah, sort of. I help manage the basketball team yknow, just help take care of little things.

Well, just make sure you stay out of trouble. I raised you to be an honest boy and I want you to stay that way.

Beard swallowed hard when confronted by his moms statement.

He, too, detested the idea of helping gamblers make money by using the players, but times were hard and he felt being able to help his mother overrode his concerns.

The teams only loss heading into the NIT was a 42-40 upset loss to St. Louis, a game the players felt they could win 99 of 100 times. But there was no point-shaving in that game, just an improbable loss.

Before leaving for New York to face Loyola of Chicago in the NIT Curd met with the UK trio at the Phoenix Hotel in Lexington.

Boys, since this game is going to be played in New York City, Costello is going to be laying down some big money, said Curd. We need your help. You are 11-point favorites. We are going to give each of you $2,000 if you hold the game down to no more than 10 points. We are laying a lot of dough on you winning by 10 or less.

Groza whistled. Wow, two grand. Thats our biggest payday ever!

Yeah, but we dont want to make it look too obvious, said Barnstable. The best way to keep the score down is to play poor defense.

Damn! I really hate doing this, said Beard. I dont think I can force myself to deliberately screw up. Its just not in my nature. If we get too far ahead you guys will just have to bring the score back down.

Well, if we only have a few minutes left and we need to cut the score back down, you just kinda stay out of the offense, Ralph, and kinda ease up on defense, said Barnstable.

But Loyola was not a top 20 team, the tournaments lowest seed (16th) and the Cats were very much overconfident.

The game got underway the afternoon of March 14 before 12,592 fans at Madison Square Garden.

The teams played evenly for the first 32 minutes.

But the game was tightly called by the refs and UK had three starters (Groza, Jones and Hirsh on the bench with five fouls. UK played the final four-plus minutes shorthanded and Loyola scored the last 9 points and pulled away to win a big upset 67-56.

Rupp brought the team back to Lexington right after the game to get ready for their NCAA Tournament opener at Madison Square Garden against 14th-ranked Villanova.

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Emily Gill, local democracy reporter

More than 200 objections and a 419-strong petition have been submitted to Monmouthshire council over plans for an adult gambling centre.

Residents have hit out over plans for an amusement arcade and gambling centre on Monnow Street, in Monmouth, but a gaming licence has been approved by the county council for the property formerly occupied by DS Music.

The application has been submitted by Barry Island Pleasure Park owner, Henry Danter, who has previously vowed to make the venture a great success and said it could help boost the town centre.

However, the council has received more than 200 objections to the planning application, with many raising concerns about the impact of gambling on young people and mental health.

One objection reads: The addition of a gambling premise will be a blight on the town.

It will encourage poor behaviour and enable those with gambling issues to have an easy outlet.

Another says: This is not good for the town, it is not Newport, and will cause major financial problems to people who are already struggling due to the pandemic.

It could trigger mental health problems as they get in debt.

Another described it as a wholly inappropriate use of a prominent town centre building.

Many raised concerns about the character of Monmouth town centre and the location of the building, which faces onto Agincourt Square.

The plans also face objections from the principal of Haberdashers Monmouth Schools James Murphy-OConnor and the head teacher of Monmouth Comprehensive School Hugo Hutchison.

Major safeguarding threat

Mr Murphy-OConnor and Mr Hutchison submitted a joint objection, which reads: We feel very strongly that an adult gaming centre would represent a major safeguarding threat and would have a negative impact on our pupils wellbeing.

We would not like slot-machine gambling to be normalised and highly visible in our High Street, just as we are encouraging more pupils to walk or cycle to school as part of our sustainability objectives which we have been discussing in tandem with Monmouthshire County Council.

Many of our parent body has raised similar concerns on behalf of their children and would like to add their weight to reject this planning application.

We do not want to see any potential increase in gambling issues locally amongst young people who are particularly susceptible and impressionable.

The petition, which has 419 signatures raises similar concerns to the formal objections.

It says an adult gaming centre has the potential to be harmful to what Monmouth is and how Monmouth delivers for its people.

It reads: Our concern is that not only could an adult gaming centre severely damage Monmouth as a tourist or shopping and eating destination but it could seriously damage the fabric of the Monmouth community.

However, some people have submitted comments to the council in support of the application.

One said it would be using the empty building and adults should have the choice to use this service or not.

Another described at as something fun for the town, which is desperately needs for young adults.

Mr Danter, who has been operating amusement arcades since 1960, has previously said the gaming centre would be well run and that nobody under 21 would be allowed entry.

The planning application is yet to be decided by the council.

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'Blight on the town': Residents revolt against plan for gambling centre - Nation.Cymru