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The best nights out in Peterboroughs pubs, clubs and bars this week – Peterborough Telegraph

Posted: February 28, 2020 at 11:56 pm

The Dog House Cocktail Bar, Westgate Arcade: Adam Leon - frontman with the band Leon will be performing some original music. His songwriting ideas are influenced by great modern artists (Coldplay, Ed Sheeran), but he also sees his roots in timeless pieces of his personal favourites like Queen and U2.

The Solstice: Loco with resident DJs Luke & Jake Roscoe Baines from 9pm with various Guest DJs throughout the evening from 9pm until 4am Entry is free before 11pm.

The Ostrich, North Street: EMBRACE - a place for the people by the people of the LGBTQIA+ community. 9pm until 2am.

The Ruddy Duck, Peakirk: 8.30pm, 1

Charters, Town Bridge: 8pm, free, 20 bar tab prize for winning team,

The Crown, Lincoln Rd: THE OVERDUBS from 9pm. Top Peterborough party band, playing chart hits through the decades - free admission.

The Yard of Ale, Oundle Road, Woodston: The Mighty and High.

Blue Bell, Werrington: Live music every Friday. Tonight: Brotherhoods Roundabout - awesome prog rock songs you wont here anywhere else!

Queens Head, Queen Street: Live music every Friday, from 7.30pm.

Charters, Town Bridge: Vinyl Night with resident DJ Derek Gibson, playing new wave, indie. Punk, glam rock, 60s thru to 00s. Not a disco - but dancing welcome.

The Solstice: Mischief - 3 rooms of music from 9pm with house & dance anthems in SolGarden + Club Classics and Essential R&B in The Solstice plus party anthems in Harrys Bar Caf. Resident DJs on the night include: Alessandro Vacca, Jake Baines & Robbie H. Entry is free before 10.30pm 5/7 after.

Sawtry Club: Rock and roll night, 8pm to 11.30pm

The Falcon, Whittlesey: No Silence Sounds disco, 8pm

Parkway Club, Maskew Avenue: Parkinsons Quiz night from 6pm

The Yard of Ale, Oundle Road, Woodston: Dirty Rumour.

The Crown, Lincoln Rd: THE MONEY SHOT from 9pm. Top Peterborough party band, playing pop, rock and dance chart covers - free admission.

The Bluebell, Dogsthorpe: TIGER CLUB from 9pm. Peterborough Supergroup, playing soul, funk, pop and rock covers - free admission.

Burghley Club, Burghley Road: THE GANGSTERS (pictured) from 9pm, and free entry for all.

Parkway Club, Maskew Avenue: Kenny & The Motives from 7pm.

The Deeping Stage, Market Place, Market Deeping: Live music every Saturday.

Spanglers Country Music Club:The amazing country star LEE JACKSON will be on stage at the Indoor Bowls Club, Burton Street. It is 5.50 on the door, 7.30pm-11.30pm. More from Jennifer 01733688324.

Peterborough Conservative Club, Broadway: Nite Owls from 8.30 - 11.30pm.

Charters, Town Bridge: Charters & Eclectic Ballroom presents Leeroy Thornhill with support from guest DJs Nick Slater (Shades of Rhythm), Jim Norton & Zed Malik (Eclectic Ballroom). Sold Out.

Brewery Tap: The Get Down with Resident DJ Eddie Nash 9pm late, free entry.

The Solstice: Saturday Sessions - with four rooms of entertainment. There is Commercial Chart & Dance in the Solstice, House & Dance Anthems in the SolGarden, Pure Urban Flavas in the Lit Room & Party Anthems in Harrys Bar Caf. Entry is free before 10.30pm more after.

Mama Lizs, Stamford: EHS Funk / Hip Hop / Reggae / Groove 9pm Free

Geneva Bar, Geneva Street: Kushty Karaoke, 9pm to 2am, free

Voodoo Lounge, Stamford: DR Gumbos Soul Funk Stew Funk N Soul N Cheese N Roll 9pm Free

Charters, Town Bridge: Bon Rogers live in the bar from 3pm family friendly free entry.

Parkway Club, Maskew Avenue: Organist Matthew Bason from 7pm.

Brewery Tap, Westgate: Oakham Mic Night 6pm late. The areas finest open mic night, all performers receive a complimentary drinks voucher.

The Solstice: LIVE! HD! Sports throughout the day on the big screens followed by karaoke with a chance to win 250. Entry is free.

Carpenters Arms, Coates: 8pm

Blue Bell, Werrington: Free pub quiz starts 8pm prompt.

The Crown, Lincoln Road: Quiz Night, Maximum teams of four, Pub Quiz 8pm, Cash Bingo 9:30pm

Blue Bell, Werrington: Popular local monthly open mic run by Stacey Lowth

The Solstice: Monday Club - with live HD sports shown on the big screen.

Conservative Club: Quiz Night make a team of four starts at 8.30pm.

Solstice, Northminster: Poker, Texas Holdem, every Monday, 7pm, all welcome.

The Ploughman, Werrington: CPL Bounty Hunter Poker plus access to DTD Finals. 13 week league, register by 7. 45pm for extra chips. Starts at 8pm every week.

Ex-servicemens Club, Fletton: Quiz, 2 per team of four and the winner wins a gallon of beer

Pizza Parlour and Music Cafe: Open mic session hosted by Anna Radford from 7pm to 10pm.

Charlies, Woodston: Karaoke every Tuesday from 7.30pm to 10pm called Some Mothers do ave em Night and welcomes the LGBT community of Peterborough.

The Solstice: TuesGay - Cambridgeshires biggest gay friendly midweek club night from 9pm until late.

Hungry Horse, Halcyon, Westwood: Quiz night and play your cards right,

The Rose and Crown, Thorney: Texas Hold em Poker, membership and entry free, beginners welcome, 01733 270546

The Ostrich Inn, North Street: Texas Holdem, from 7.30pm.

Conservative Club: Poker league, registration closes at 7.45pm.

Frothblowers, Werrington: Free silent pub quiz, from 7pm to 8pm. Teams of 4 max. 3 prizes.

The Solstice: Starts with RockNRoll Bingo and then its eyes down for the big cash prize.

, entry is 1 per person from 9pm.

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10 Women Look Back On Living Childfree By Choice | SELF

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More women than ever in the U.S. are making the choice to remain childfreeor not making the choice to have children, depending on how you want to look at it. Whatever their reasonswhether they be financial, related to health and lifestyle considerations, or quite simply never feeling the maternal instinctit is clear that many are still questioned about their decision and are often told that they will change their minds or regret it when they are older. There's no crystal ball that can let a woman look into the future and know if any of these (usually unsolicited) warnings will turn out to be true. But there is the clarity of hindsight. We talked to 10 women, now past childbearing age, about their decision not to have children to help inform and support younger women making a similar choice.

1. "Every time I hear about people's problems with their children, I think I dodged a bullet."

"I can't remember ever wanting kids, except maybe as a preschooler. My mother and stepmother both acted as if child rearing was tantamount to roasting in hell. (My stepmother also battered and psychologically mistreated me. I've heard that that often dissuades women from wanting children.) It helped that my now-husband was adamantly anti-kid. I might have allowed myself to be swayed otherwise. My mom is disappointed. People may say I'm selfish. They'd be right! I would so resent caring for children.

Every time I hear about people's problems with their children, I think, I dodged a bullet. I worry occasionally about finding myself alone in a big indifferent world, but I also know that children can be the ones who put you in a facility against your will, steal from you, or otherwise break your heart. No regrets so far. Interestingly, though, I often daydream about step or foster children. I guess I feel as if I have a lot of hard-won wisdom to share, if anyone wanted to hear it"Christie L., 52

2. "There's always a bit of a 'what if?'"

"I have a very clear memory of babysitting when I was about 12 and thinking, this isn't going to be my life. My first husband and I were married when we were 22 and I was very intent on having a career as a journalist and traveling a lot. We agreed to delay the decision about children until we were 30. We wound up getting divorced before that deadline so I don't know what would have happened had we stayed together. I was married twice more, and during my last marriage, my husband convinced me to at least try to get pregnant. I was 37 and very conflicted. I did actually get pregnant, but then had a miscarriage. He blamed me and the marriage never recovered.

Though I sometimes had fantasies of having a mini-me that I could take around the world with me, I didn't want it enough to make it happen. I actually do love children, and have been very close to my friends' kids and I have a niece my sister adopted from China with whom I'm very close (particularly since my sister, a single mother, died five years ago, so I'm the 'parental alternative' as I say).

Every time I go to a special eventbar mitzvah, wedding, etc.of my friends' kids I have a twinge that I'll never have that experience. On the other hand, I have friends whose children have been killed, committed suicide, have emotional problems, or just completely ignore them, and I realize that's a never-ending source of agony that I don't think I would have been prepared to deal with. Most of the time I am comfortable with how things have turned out....There's always a bit of a what if? but I think that's true of almost anything in life"Carol S., 67

3. "Seven decades of feminist activism have enabled us to challenge many long-accepted, limiting roles for women."

"I never had a strong urge to be a mother.Perhaps the reason is that I was the youngest of four children and had little experience with babies. A decision point came when I married a man who, because of his troubled family history, was opposed to fathering a child. I honored that decision, as we both agreed that the world did not need another mouth to feed. That marriage lasted only three years, which only confirmed the wisdom of my decision.

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5 Things ‘Childfree’ People Want You To Know | HuffPost Life

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Survey data rarely distinguishes between the involuntarily childless and the consciously childfree, but 2014 census figures reveal that 47.6 percent of women between age 15 and 44 have never had children the highest rate ever tracked. By age 40 to 44, 19 percent of women remain childless, according to a 2014 Pew report.

Now, a new study looks into how people come to this decision. It reveals the decision is rarely a one-time conversation, as past research has suggested, but instead an ongoing discussion a person has internally and with a partner.

Amy Blackstone, a gender sociologist at the University of Maine who specializes in childfree research, hopes that her study helps question the assumption that little boys and girls will grow up to become parents. Breaking down this assumption would give them space as they grow up to decide whether or not parenting is the right choice for them.

Right now, girls in particular, but girls and boys both, are raised to imagine themselves as parents of children, she explained. But if we more critically thought about the question of whether or not to parent, then everyone would have the opportunity to make the choice thats right for them.

Of course, the childfree would benefit if we made it a choice rather than an assumption, Blackstone continued. But I think parents would benefit, too.

Blackstone conducted a small, qualitative study to explore how 31 people 21 women and 10 men, all but two of them straight made their decision to stay childfree. She conducted 60- to 90-minute interviews on their decision-making process, the response they got from others and their reflections on their choice.

Blackstones finding that the choice is not a snap judgement but rather a complex and ongoing conversation pushes back on criticism that childfree people are selfish or flippant about their decision not to parent. It also sheds light on how different genders approach the choice and provides some insight into how friends and family help shape a persons decision.

Read on for five observations from Blackstones study, in the words of participants, that get to the root of how people decide to be childfree. All the names from the study are pseudonyms.

1. Childfree people do not make their decisions lightly.

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I think everybody could say that to get where we are [and maintain our childfree status] has been a constant decision-making process because every relationship you enter into, especially romantically, thats the expected thing. Youre constantly making a decision about remaining childfree. Janet

Its not a decision where youre like, Okay, todays the day that I dont want kids. ...Its a working decision. April

My partner and I have discussions about Do you think you want to [have children] or not. ... Time has gone by ... and we see the things that are important to us and how we want to live our life. And we see a child as a completely changing point. Sarah

I think Ive always been deciding that I dont really want kids. Annie

I think this was kind of a decision that weve made more than once. You know, at the different times of your life. Weve been together now eighteen years so, Id say once every five to six years the topic has come up and I think itll probably stop coming up now, given our ages. One of us will say, So, you want em now? and the other will say No, no, not really. Is anything going on that would make us want them? No. No. Robin

2. Theyve observed parenting up close and they dont like what they see.

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At first I grew up assuming that you have kids. You got married and it would happen. But I have older sisters and while growing up, I noticed that [my two much older sisters] put off having kids for a long time. So it became obvious to me that having kids was kind of a choice as opposed to inevitability. Then my two younger sisters got pregnant accidentally and I saw what that did to their lives, where they didnt have good jobs and [their partners] didnt have good jobs. They had to make [do] and even now ... twenty years later, theyre finally just actually starting to be able to live their life ... And so it just kind of gradually to me became like, Im not gonna have kids. Gradually for me it became, Yeah, I dont think I need kids. Steve

I think part of it is as my friends started to have kids, that made me go, Oh I dont think this is for me. Because even if I had wanted kids before that, once they started having kids and losing their freedom and their individuality, that really was a big point for me. It was like, that does not look like the fun, happy family stuff that you think about when youre young. I think that was a big part, when my friends started having kids, that was when I started thinking, Im checkin out of this. Janet

I was sort of observing families around me and wondering if I wanted to be a part of that dynamic in our world. ... A lot of people with children didnt look happy. ... The majority were definitely stressed out. There was something there that was not inviting me to participate in this lifestyle process. Kate

My brother was in a very bad marriage ...The marriage was going downhill and they tried saying Well lets have kids cause thats what we do or This will make things better, and so they had a kid. Two years after that they got a divorce. And my brother loves his daughter but he also says at the same time that, as bad as this is, that he wishes that he never had her. ... And once, talking to my sister, she said that when she comes home at night, she picks her daughter up from daycare and her daughter says I want to go back to daycare because I have more fun there. I guess I dont want to do it. Thats [what my sister goes through] a pretty crappy feeling. And [what my brother went through] reaffirmed it. Cory

3. For women, environmental and social responsibility often play a part...

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[Not having children] is responsible. Instead of this kind of blindly following the societal expectation, of this is what you are suppose to do, [not having children] means really taking a lot of factors into consideration. I think about all kinds of stuff. Like I camped over the weekend and I saw the trash factor that people with kids had left and let build up from so much over use of a campsite. I think about stuff like acceptable population levels. April

Im really just concerned about our world. ... Diving more deeply in the social issues, I really think that the world is against the child right now. At this time in our social structure right now its not going to be a good thing to have children. We cant bring them up healthfully. Kate

I was a very environmentally conscious child and my big thing at the time was population control, so that was kind of a forming quality of [my decision not to have children]. Kim

4. ...While mens decisions tended to be internally motivated.

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Not having kids is an obvious outcome of our choices. I want to be able to travel, I want to be able to do things that I would not be able to do if I had kids. ... Its just one of the many choices that you make in the balancing act of your life. ... And, you know, its a rational response to what it means to have a kid and what impact [being a parent] has on the rest of your life. Steve

5. They put a lot of thought into what it means to be a parent.

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People who have decided not to have kids arguably have been more thoughtful than those who decided to have kids. Its deliberate, its respectful, ethical, and its a real honest, good, fair, and, for many people, right decision. Bob

I would like it to be considered a decision just like any other. Barb

I wish more people thought about thinking about it. ... I mean I wish it were normal to decide whether or not you were going to have children. Tony

What to keep in mind about this small study

Nancy Molitor, a practicing clinical psychologist and assistant professor of clinical psychiatry and behavioral science at Northwestern University Feinburg School of Medicine, commended Blackstone for diving into the little-researched and little-understood subject of deciding to become childfree. She was also intrigued by the way gender appeared to affect a persons decision-making.

However, she noted that given the small, homogenous sample and the fact that participants werent selected at random, its next to impossible to draw any general conclusions about the larger childfree population in the U.S. or around the world. The gendered patterns Blackstone observed, for example, need to be validated and confirmed in a much larger population. Some of this is inherent in qualitative research, which lacks the randomized samples and control group that underpins quantitative research. But qualitative research still has its place in the sciences, especially for emerging topics, because of its ability to raise the profile of new ideas, ask questions and generate new hypotheses for future research.

This is a small, self-selected group, Molitor said. That doesnt mean its not interesting, but its hard to speculate whether this would have results that would stand up in a larger sample taken from folks in rural Mississippi or the Midwest.

Molitor called for long-term studies to see if and how childfree people in their 40s (the upper limit of the ages in Blackstones study) change their minds as they enter their 50s. Molitor also said that it would be interesting to continue research on the childfree community by examining regional and generational differences across a wider, randomized population.

A lot of [childfree] research goes back to the 90s, she explained. I can say from my own experience and research that studies that were done in the 90s and their decisions about childfree might be very different from a young woman who is a millennial who is making that decision now in 2016.

Since publishing her research in The Family Journal, Blackstone has interviewed 44 more people, expanding the diversity of her participant pool beyond the mostly white, straight and middle or upper class respondents in her original cohort. She hopes to continue debunking myths and assumptions about childfree people with future research, which will hopefully create a world where childfree people dont have to defend their choice to others or suffer socially for it. Blackstone herself is childfree, and manages a blog she founded with her husband called Were {not} having a baby!

People dont really know what to do with us, Blackstone said. Sometimes we get left out of, for example, events at friends houses if there are children involved, because people assume that we dont want to be involved. It can be a kind of lonely existence.

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Years ago, at a crowded happy hour after work, my friend pointed out a man with his kid on his shoulders. Why would you bring a baby to a bar? my friend marveled.

Yeah, I said. Why would you have a baby?

This got the laugh I wanted it to. My single friends were in their late twenties, and kids were what seemed like they were impossibly far in the future. I was in my early 30s but pretty recently divorced and beginning to think I didnt want children certainly not then, but also maybe not ever.

Still, the ticking of my biological clock eventually got loud enough to hear over the salsa music I danced to several times a week. Between the ages of 41 and 43, I sort of tried to get pregnant with my boyfriend, Inti. Beyond choosing a suitable father and plucking out my IUD, I didnt do much. No OB-GYN visits other than my annual exam. No thermometer, no ovulation-monitoring app. For a while I tracked my cycle informally, raised an eyebrow at Inti once a month, and stuck my legs in the air after sex. But a year went by, and my period was so regular I never even had to open the pregnancy test package.

Sounds sad, doesnt it? It is but only sort of. If it were deeply sad, if I were the kind of woman who felt truly incomplete without a child, I would have handled it differently.

My friends who wanted kids (and didnt come by them the usual way) did the things you do when that happens and you have money. These friends, married and single and mostly younger than I am, took hormones, had fibroids removed, did IVF. They interviewed potential egg and/or sperm donors, chose a donor. They looked into adoption, adopted. In the last few years, one way or another, they all had children.

And so, they tell me, could I. But Im not trying to anymore and I dont want to take the heroic measures they took, and I cant quite articulate why except to conclude I must not want kids enough.

I find no role model or path to help me navigate this. I didnt do everything I could to be a mother, but I still grieve motherhood. I dread the baby shower, anticipate the sorrow Ill feel on that first new-baby visit. Its hard because I did want kids, so Im envious, but its also hard because my friends departure into parenthood feels like betrayal. Yes, betrayal.

All those child-free years we had together feel forsaken. That freedom to hit the salsa club on a weeknight, those casual text invitations to same-day happy hours. All that time I was valuing that lifestyle, cherishing it and my friends in it, what was it to them, that they can so decisively change it? I know, I know; were in that stage of life. Now theyre moving on. No one promised me to stay child-free forever.

Fair enough. But somehow I thought all along we would keep comparing notes from the opposite sides of our different life choices.

When your friends move into parenthood and you dont, theres no map for the terrain you move into instead. They stop coming to your cocktail parties (Couldnt find a sitter, sorry). They invite you to their gatherings, which arent fun for you, overrun as they are by kids you might like and find adorable and entertaining in the short-term but whom you dont love, not the way you love your friends themselves. The gatherings contain no stretches of time long enough for meaningful conversation.

As parents, you understand this new reality. You roll your eyes, but you get it: This is life now. But when your kids take you away from me, I resent it. I just do. I know theyre brilliant and beautiful, but theyre children. I like you not these demanding small people.

Its socially acceptable for parents to complain about parenthood. They are allowed to lament their lost freedom. They are allowed to say how wrecked they are, how busy, how sleep-deprived. They can bemoan the chaotic state of their households and blame it on their kids. And then as if to assuage any guilt they are allowed to say they wouldnt trade it for anything, to say how happy and sparkly their messes are, how precious.

On the child-free side, its socially less acceptable to gloat about our European vacations, our restful evenings at home, our tidy living rooms with breakable items on low coffee tables. If we do enthuse about an activity we know our parent friends can no longer participate in, we are achingly aware of their side-eye, their evaluation of us as delusional for attempting to find meaning in these nonfamilial pursuits. Sure, they might outwardly envy our freedom what mom wouldnt love a break from her kids to spend a week on a beach? But how can such hedonism possibly measure up to the miracle that is motherhood? The precious, joy-producing person who is her son?

Its obviously no contest particularly because every parent once didnt have kids, and no childfree-by-(mostly)-choice person ever did thats the trump card every parent carries: He can compare it, he has tried both options, and we all know that no matter how bitterly a parent will complain, he would never, ever, EVER trade in his child for anything.

Except I still dont want kids badly enough to take heroic measures. I dont care how worth it you say it is and I dont care how cute and smart and squishy your baby is. From here, parenthood still looks mostly like a drag. Its hard to pretend that I dont find it alien and baffling. My life is vastly different and its different because I (mostly) want it that way. I actively enjoy not having kids. A lot. Im living the freewheeling, adventuresome life responsible parents must wait 18 years to return to.

And Im deeply engaged in the pursuit of my passions: chasing my freelance writer dream, building a writing-coaching business, spending all the time it takes to make my memoir meaningful. Passing uninterrupted evenings at home, reading on the sofa with the lighting just so, the tea steeping on the coaster, the boyfriend busy at the computer.

So whats a middle-aged, childless woman to do when her best friends become mothers and fathers? And whats a new parent to do about his childless friend? The one who still throws out last-minute happy hour invitations, the one who wants one-on-one time only, the one who doesnt offer to babysit?

Were all grownups: We can stay friends through major life changes, we can roll with lifes punches. Im getting used to my smaller role in my parent friends lives. Im spending more time with my childfree or part-time (divorced) parent friends.

Its been about three years since I basically gave up on motherhood, and although Inti and I are not actively preventing conception, I no longer slump when my period comes each month to remind me, yet again, of my not-pregnant status. At 46, I know my odds. Once in a while, maybe at a nephews first birthday party or after an evening of cuddling and giggling with my best friends baby, grief and hollowness clasp on and threaten to never let me go. Im so afraid one day Ill regret my choice.

I regret it now. I dont regret it. Its complicated.

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Facebook: The Inside Story author Steven Levy on how the company compares to Apple and Google – The Verge

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People kept having the idea for Facebook long before Facebook ever came around. First there was sixdegrees; then there was Friendster; then there was MySpace. On college campuses like Stanford, people were digitizing their printed facebooks as early as 1999. When Mark Zuckerberg was in high school at Exeter, a classmate of his named Kris Tillery built a database of student headshots and put it online along with their phone numbers. The project, which the school eventually gave its blessing to, was called Facebook.

Of all those projects, though, only Mark Zuckerbergs is still around. The reasons why are explored at length in Facebook: The Inside Story, Steven Levys mammoth new account of the social network from its founding until the present day. Levy had access to Zuckerberg, Sheryl Sandberg, and many of their top lieutenants and other employees over the past three and a half years, and the result it a revealing look at what the past 16 years have looked like from the offices in Palo Alto and Menlo Park.

The broad outlines of Facebooks story are well known. But Levy adds a lot of color to subjects including Zuckerbergs early life, his monomaniacal focus on growing the user base, and the gradual shrinking of his inner circle over time. Levy also has the best account yet of the Cambridge Analytica fiasco hes appropriately skeptical of the motives of everyone involved, and lays out in great detail how Facebook sowed the seeds for that particular comeuppance.

We gave Mr. Levy wide access to our executives, who were forthcoming about the most painful moments in Facebooks past, the company told me over email today. While we dont agree with everything he said, we also dont deny the challenges he describes and are actively working to solve them.

As you might expect from the subhed, The Inside Story leaves out the voices of almost everyone who doesnt work there. While it gestures broadly to all of the major criticisms Facebook has received over the years, the book is not a referendum on surveillance capitalism, antitrust, or hate speech. But if you want to know why Facebook is the way it is how its leaders think, what their blind spots are, and why the companys plans have so often gone awry The Inside Story is an excellent starting place. I expect to be referring to it, here and elsewhere, for some time to come.

Tomorrow Ill share some of my favorite moments from the book, which you can buy here. But first, I wanted to ask Levy about the project and what hes taking away from it. We spoke this week over email.

Casey Newton: Facebook has had no shortage of press coverage in its first decade and a half. And yet the first rough draft of history sometimes get things wrong. Was there a part of Facebooks story that turned out to be different than you assumed once you dug into it?

Steven Levy: I wouldnt say the early accounts were wrong, but telling the history with benefit of hindsight I was able to identify decisionsusually Marks decisionsthat would wind up costing Facebook (and in some cases us users) dearly. We all know Mark wanted to connect the world. But by understanding his thought process and goalsand particularly his competitive instincts and his drive for growthI felt I was able to freshly account for how Facebook as we know came about. I also found tons of wonderful, previously untold or under-covered stories, like the ill-fated Facebook phone, the Twitterization of the News Feed, and the Analog Research Lab, a silk-screen operation which churned out those propaganda posters you see all over Facebook HQ.

The book opens with Zuckerberg getting peeved in Nigeria when he discovers that the teens there dont like Facebook as much as they like Instagram. Later, you recount how Mark came to starve Instagram of resources, eventually driving its founders out of the company.

This feels like an uncharacteristically emotional decision from Zuckerberg. Why did Instagrams success bother him so much?

I think that the Instagram people are still baffled by that. (For the record, when I asked him directly, Mark would not concede he was jealous of Instagrams success, though people on the IG team thought otherwise.) Perhaps because in this timeframe Mark was conceiving his Private Messaging pivotwhich would basically cut out the founders as the key decision-makers and make Instagram more integrated into Facebookhe felt that it was necessary to purge those founders. He told me he saw it as freeing them to do great things elsewhere. If you look at it that way, its not so much an emotional decision but a strategic one.

Theres a great moment in the book where, in 2019, you ask Sheryl Sandberg her own signature question: what would you do if you werent afraid? She gives you the absolute most sanitized non-answer imaginable. (What I would do if I wasnt afraid is try to be the Facebook CEO and grow this business and say Im a feminist.)

Its consistent with almost all of her appearances in this book, where it seems like she is trying to avoid discussing whatever the topic at hand is in any real detail. What do you think Sandberg is actually afraid of?

As Sheryl herself writes in her own book, she likes to be in control of her environment, and believes that if she works hard enough and smart enough she can accomplish anything. I wasnt surprised that she was cautious in answering that question. I felt I did see a very genuine Sheryl in hour two (!) of our final interview, when it was clear how much the fall in Facebooks reputation pained her, even more so because she understands that her own shortcomings contributed to this. It got pretty raw.

Zuckerberg, on the other hand, strikes me as refreshingly straightforward in this book. Since childhood he has always wanted to grow and manage a giant civilization, and now he has! Everything else is just tactics, and the ends almost always justify the means.

At the same time, hes slow to trust people, and over the past few years most of his top lieutenants have left him. How deep do you think Facebooks bench is these days? When the current generation of deputies leaves, are there new stars waiting?

No question theres still talent at Facebook. But, as I think youre implying, Mark likes to give key jobs to people hes known and trusted for a while, and that bench is getting thin. (Andrew Boz Bosworth for instance, has come off the bench a couple times to take on big important missions, most recently hardware, AR/VR.) I think the critical departure was Chris Cox, who in my view was the person who would have taken over if Mark suddenly decided hed reached retirement age. Of those execs who joined relatively recently, I notice that David Marcus, who left PayPal in 2014 to head Messenger and now is leading Libra, seems to have earned a lot of trust from Mark.

Youve previously done book-length dives into Apple and Google. How does Facebooks internal culture compare to those giants? And could the company survive for very long if Zuckerberg ever left?

Facebook has always operated in Zuckerbergs image. It matters that he dropped out of college and created a culture based on the speediness of web development and the brashness of the dorm. (Google, while no less ambitious, was more grad school and science; Apple revered design.) Sandberg professionalized Facebooks culture to some degree, but the engineering mindset and the move fast ethic both explicitly touted by Mark are still in effect. The company would not disappear if Mark were to leave the advertisers would keep buying but it would be a different place under whoever his successor was. And maybe the political ads policy would change.

Finally, I have a lot of questions about Amazon. Could you write your next book about them?

Get your questions ready for Brad Stone, hes on this.

Today in news that could affect public perception of the big tech platforms.

Trending up: Facebook is providing $2 million in grants to support independent research on misinformation and polarization on social media.

Some app developers say Apple wields its enormous market power to bully, extort, and sometimes even destroy rivals and business partners. They say the App Store is a case study in anti-competitive corporate behavior. And theyre fighting to change that by breaking its choke hold on the Apple ecosystem. Will Oremus report at OneZero:

According to the analyst App Annie, Apple customers downloaded 32 billion iOS apps in 2019, spending a total of $58 billion, and thats before you get to the billions in ad revenue those apps brought in. The App Store has become a major global industry unto itself.

But critics say that gauzy success tale belies the reality of a company that now wields its enormous market power to bully, extort, and sometimes even destroy rivals and business partners alike. The iOS App Store, in their telling, is a case study in anti-competitive corporate behavior. And theyre fighting to change that by breaking its choke hold on the Apple ecosystem.

Apple investors are voting on a new proposal that could force the company to disclose details of censorship requests from China and other nations. The proposal came after numerous allegations of Apple appeasing Beijing by blocking apps from being used by Chinese customers. (William Turvill / The Guardian)

Thousands of Russian-linked social media accounts have launched a coordinated campaign to spread alarm about the coronavirus. The campaign has disrupted global efforts to fight the epidemic, according to US officials. (AFP)

Apple, Facebook, Google, Microsoft and Amazon lost more than $238 billion in value yesterday, as part of a broader market dive due to concerns about the spread of the coronavirus. Apple is the tech giant most exposed to the economic threat of the virus, because much of its supply chain is in China. Heres Cat Zakrzewski from The Washington Post:

Apple said last week that the coronavirus would cause it to miss its revenue goals in the current quarter. The company warned investors that iPhone production was resuming more slowly than expected even as Chinese factories reopened, and it also saw a dampening in consumer demand for its products in the country.

Amazon has said little publicly about how it anticipates coronavirus will impact its bottom line.

Amazon is trying to stop sellers from raising the price of face masks, as the coronavirus spreads. Some say theyve received messages from the company that their face masks are too expensive and they could get kicked off the site. (Louise Matsakis / Wired)

Conspiracy theorists on Facebook and YouTube are blaming the coronavirus on 5G, with no evidence. Members of a group called STOP 5G U.K suggested the recent coronavirus outbreak in Italy is linked to the fact that 5G has been rolled out there. (Alex Wilkins / Metro)

Bob Iger stepped down as CEO of Disney. Hell be replaced by Disney Parks, Experiences and Products chairman Bob Chapek, effective immediately. Iger will stay on as executive chairman through the end of 2021, with a focus on creative endeavors. (Julia Alexander / The Verge)

Levy talked to Facebook critic Kara Swisher in a fun, flinty episode of Recode Decode this week.

A North Carolina TV reporter accidentally switching on Facebook Live filters before going on air, as seen in a now-viral video.

In the one-minute clip posted by WLOS ABC 13, Hinton can be seen reporting on snowfall in Asheville, completely oblivious to the fact that hes being digitally outfitted with googly eyes, a wizard hat, dog ears, barbells and more.

The Emmy-winning journalist only became aware of his animated makeover after reading the flurry of viewer reactions on Facebook. Wait, Misty, did I have a weird face? a flabbergasted Hinton can be heard asking a colleague off-camera. After a long pause, he adds, Oh, there are special effects on the phone.

No media format is more stale than TV news. Face filters could be just the thing that this industry needs to be relevant again.

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Facebook Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg speaks during an event on the sidelines of the World Economic Forum in Davos, Switzerland January 23, 2019.

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In her first interview since the publication of Steven Levy's "Facebook: The Inside Story," Facebook Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg defended herself against claims in the book that she's overly controlling, obsessed with her public image and prone to yelling at her employees.

"I'm a demanding boss, and I'm a tough boss. I think I'm a very fair boss. But I'm demanding," Sandberg said in an interview with "Byers Market," the new NBC News podcast that made its debut Thursday.

In the 50-minute conversation, recorded at Facebook headquarters in Menlo Park, Sandberg also weighed in on her relationship with Mark Zuckerberg, addressed the damage that's been done to her public image and whether she can rectify it and said she was committed to staying at the social media giant for the long term.

"I wish so much that the world could see the Mark I know," Sandberg said. "Mark is an enormously, enormously talented guy. He has a great product sense. ... People think he doesn't understand people. That's just clearly wrong.

"We don't spend that much time worrying about our public image," she added. "The issue is not what people think of me or Mark personally. The issue is how are we doing as a company? How do we provide a great service, and how do we prevent some of the harm?"

Sandberg also offered her most robust defense to date of Facebook's business model and its vast collection of personal data, which she said was necessary to offer users a better content and advertising experience.

"There is growing concern, which is based on a lack of understanding, that we are using people's information in a bad way. We are selling it. We are giving it away. We are violating it. None of that's true. We do not sell data," she said. "Here's what we do: We take your information and we show you personalized ads ... [to give you] a much better experience."

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Sandberg also revealed that she will be defending the company's business model in a speech later this year. The move to publicly embrace Facebook's collection of user data marks a shift for a company that has historically downplayed the extent of its data collection practices.

"This is actually one of the most important things I want to do this year," Sandberg said. "I'm going to give a big speech next month. And I'm working on an op-ed. We need to go out and explain the business model clearly."

Sandberg defended Facebook's decision not to fact-check political advertising and talked about its efforts to combat Russian election meddling.

She also addressed a major recent development in her personal life: her engagement to her boyfriend, Tom Bernthal. And she talked at length about overcoming her grief after the loss of her late husband, Dave Goldberg, in 2015.

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Actually, Councilmember Kim Bergel and Facebook Activist Cornelius Loewenstein are Going to Try and Work It Out Outside of Court – Lost Coast Outpost

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A temporary truce was declared today in the battle between Eureka City Councilwoman Kim Walford Bergel and her longtime antagonizer Cornelius Loewenstein.

Bergel and Loewenstein, after speaking in a closed courtroom with Judge Kelly Neel, agreed to try settling their differences out of court. Bergel has been seeking a restraining order against Loewenstein, and the hearing was expected to resume this afternoon.

The parties have agreed to continue the hearing until March 19 so they can see if this is a matter they can resolve privately, Neel announced when the courtroom reopened.

For two years Loewenstein, enraged over Bergels support of a needle-exchange program for addicts, has been sending her angry Facebook messages daily, sometimes multiple times a day. He has called her obscene names and threatened she was going to get hers one way or another.

Loewensteins attorney, Arlie Capps, responded that all of Loewensteins messages were political, not personal. And Loewenstein has argued, in Facebook posts, that he has the right to free speech.

Outside of court, Bergel said shes willing to work with Loewenstein but the harassment has got to stop.

No one should have to deal with the magnitude of what Ive been walking through the last two years, Bergel said. She also said she has no intention of sitting down with Loewenstein himself.

Im willing to meet with his attorney, Bergel said, but he cannot be in the room. Im not interested in meeting with him at all.

Loewenstein referred reporters to his attorney, who said his policy is to refrain from commenting on ongoing cases.

Ill hold those comments until after were done, Capps said.

The next Eureka City Council meeting is Tuesday night. Loewenstein usually attends.

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Facebook Reality Labs researcher designs software that allows novice designers to build expressive robots – Dailyuw

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Many people know Geppetto as the fictional carpenter that brought a wooden puppet to life. The puppet who we know as Pinocchio can sing, dance, and feel sadness and love.

At Carnegie Mellon University (CMU), Geppetto is a data-driven system for designers to create robots that can interact with emotions. With only changes to the speed, body angles, and gait, designers can create walking spiders that show happiness, anger, or excitement.

Other animals, such as puppies, dinosaurs, and centaurs, have also been, ironically, robotized to life.

The Geppetto project was founded by Ruta Desai, a research scientist at Facebook Reality Labs, (a research component at Facebook), and her team at CMU and Autodesk. Desai lectured at the UW Design Use Build on how this technology can democratize the robot design process for non-technical designers.

[These tools] can empower novices, these are the people without any robotics or engineering backgrounds, to build and design robots for their own needs, Desai said. We can empower everyone to play a part in shaping our future.

By normalizing robotic technology for the common people," robots will no longer be the exclusive property of large companies and research institutions. Desai envisions a future where people can obtain robot-building tools, which are software and gadget used to assemble robots, online or at a local store.

Robots will be integrated into daily human life just as smartphones are today making our life better, Desai said. Maybe have a Robot Now service just as we have [Amazon] Prime Now today, and thats really the vision of this project.

However, designing a functional robot is skill-intensive and requires high-level knowledge in engineering. It also doesnt have a live demonstration while the robot is being built, which can be frustrating whenever the system fails.

Imagine you want to build a robot now, Desai said. To do this, you have to first design the mechanical structure based on the task, [you] also [have to] think about the necessary electrical subsystems held together, and finally program this behavior to do the task that you want the robot to do.

As Desai explained, robot construction is built on three main axes: electrical subsystems, mechanical structure, and behavior. Since electrical subsystems are becoming more accessible, Desais research focuses on innovating the structure and behavior design of the robots.

Desais first research was a drag-and-drop robot design tool that allows users to easily ensemble wire, legs, and wheels within minutes. Showing a graphical interface allows the designer to see if there is enough space for all the components to fit together.

In her usability testing, the process not only significantly saves time but also increases the success rate of every iteration.

While her early work was predominantly used for articulated and non-articulated robots, Desais latest research, Geppetto, investigates semantic design to create expressive robotic behaviors.

Geppetto, in a way, brings life to a robot and that is why we named it after the famous Disney wood crafter, Desai said.

Current robot-building tools fall into two categories: animation and robotic tools. The former has great editing controls and the latter has great, but hard-to-use, simulation capabilities. To bridge the gap, Geppetto allows users to create and edit behaviors using physical simulation.

Desai displayed the interface to the audience to visualize the software. In the center is an area for users to design the robot; on the left is a slider panel where they can change the expression parameters; and on the top is a gallery of sample motions to inspire users of possible outcomes.

Desai explained that the gallery feature addresses the black slate issue. This is when novice users dont know what constitutes an expressive robot. For example, when users see an angry spider spiking its legs and knuckles, they have a better visualization of their own design.

Geppetto has a data-driven framework to help designers create different kinds of expressive robots. However, this also depends on how similar the robots are. An existing dataset for a four-legged walking robot might not easily translate to a six-legged walking robot.

Desai talked about her future work on redefining human-computer interaction to human-computer understanding. In robotic engineering, she pointed out how users still don't know the functions of a system while the systems can't predict what the users want.

Desai addresses this disconnect by creating multimodal features, such as images, sketching, and natural language processing, that can capture the users intent and preferences.

Achieving this technology can lead to opportunities in generative design. This is when the user specifies conditions to the system, which creates design options that satisfy these constraints. Its the technology that Tony Stark uses to design the time machine in Avengers: Endgame.

Wouldnt it be great if the user could just say I want to create a desk that can support a monitor model X? Desai said.

At Facebook Reality Labs, Desai is working on building computational methods that enable contextual and adaptive interaction. In simpler words, this is when a device can detect and react to users intent.

Robotic technology has been the showstopper of big tech companies and science fiction, but with innovative tools that allow non-technical designers to build their own expressive robots, people will be seeing more robotic animals gleefully dancing to the sound of music

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Overreaching laws on Google and Facebook ads will hurt Ohio small businesses like ours: Frankie DiCarlantonio – cleveland.com

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STEUBENVILLE, Ohio -- Digital platforms and tools have changed how small businesses operate and succeed. Companies like Facebook, Google, and many more help my family run our restaurant, connect with customers, and grow the business. However, the rhetoric in Columbus and Washington, D.C., about breaking up or changing the way these companies operate should concern every small business owner in the Buckeye state.

Three generations of the Scaffidi family work together. Our goal is to run a local neighborhood restaurant serving homemade Italian food in a comfortable, relaxed environment. We arent pretentious or fancy; nor are the ways we use digital technology.

We use Google Ads and we optimize keywords, so that customers find us in search results and in video ads on YouTube. Facebook and Instagram help us reach countless new customers in fun and engaging ways. We post pictures and videos of my grandmother and aunts making fresh pasta and homemade tomato sauce. When the weather is nice, we advertise our new outdoor patio. We spend only a few dollars, but we know quickly whether an advertisement is successful.

Digital platforms provide remarkable data and analytics that empower us to reach customers in ways we had never imagined a decade ago. For the first time, the platforms have made sophisticated marketing available to small businesses with even smaller budgets. Previously, small businesses advertised in the Yellow Pages and used coupon mailers and hoped that people would see their ads.

Our digital technology is so much more than advertising. Gmail and Google Docs cost very little, but they are essential to how we run our business and communicate with employees and customers. We use Quickbooks to manage the books, ADP for payroll, and Sling to help with employee scheduling. These tools are relatively inexpensive, and they enable our neighborhood restaurant to compete with franchises and chains that have million-dollar IT and advertising budgets.

However, we are concerned that this might not always be the case. The Ohio Senate has held hearings about whether large internet companies are anticompetitive. Lawmakers may rewrite the laws to make it easier to break up tech companies, and Attorney General Dave Yost is part of an investigation into tech companies.

Do policymakers understand that if they force these companies to break up or change significantly, that would almost certainly mean fewer free or low-cost tools for small businesses? Advertising prices will skyrocket, tools like G Suite will get expensive, and countless small businesses will be punished.

Frankie DiCarlantonio and his family operate the Scaffidi Restaurant Group in Steubenville, Ohio.

There are so many industries where a few big players control more essential items than digital advertising just think about health insurance, airlines and gas stations. Why isnt there an effort to break up these conglomerates or change the laws to improve opportunities for new airlines, insurance companies, or oil companies?

Digital platforms like Facebook and Google are not perfect. But for our restaurant, the good far outweighs the bad. Our elected officials, whose campaigns use lots of digital advertising, should know better than anyone that these tools are inexpensive, effective and essential. Elected officials know that regulating the digital economy will have consequences far beyond big tech. They need to be sure that small businesses that rely on digital platforms are not collateral damage of these investigations or legislative efforts.

Frankie DiCarlantonio and his family operate the Scaffidi Restaurant Group in Steubenville, Ohio. DiCarlantonio also serves as the Jefferson County Democratic Party chairman.

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At Green Top Grocery, ‘Big Lebowski’ Promotion Really Ties The Store Together – WGLT News

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A Big Lebowski promotion at Green Top Grocery was meant to make customers smile and maybe buy some milk. Instead, its gone viral and spawned two spinoff events this weekend.

The staff at the Bloomington grocery store cooperative recently put up a sticker on the milk cooler: 10% Off Milk When You Shop In Your Bathrobe. Its a nod to The Big Lebowski and lead character Jeff The Dude Lebowski, who had an affinity for White Russians (made with cream). In the cult classic's opening scene the robe-clad Dude shops for half-and-half at a Ralphs grocery store.

One of Green Top's farmers, Jeff Hake from Funks Grove Heritage Fruits & Grains, posted a photo of the sticker on Facebook. The image has since gone viral online, popping up on Lebowski fan pages andmaking the coveted front page on Reddit.

And yes, its a real promotion. The store has had quite a few people show up in their bathrobes to get the discount, said Michael Talley, marketing coordinator at Green Top Grocery.

We had one woman who drove an hour to come and buy milk in her bathrobe. And she doesnt even drink milk. She just wanted to be part of it, Talley said.

One guy even sent in a photo of himself trying to buy milk in his bathrobe at his local grocery storein Italy. (They did not honor the discount.)

After the big response to the promotion, Green Top Grocery is hosting a Dude Abides Robe Contest this weekend. Shoppers are encouraged to post photos of themselves (in robes, at the store), and the public will vote for a winner who will get a $50 gift card and a bag of Green Top goodies.

Green Top is also co-sponsoring a Dude Abides Road Party on Saturday at Fat Jacks. White Russians (of course) will be $3.50.

The promotion may be silly, but the thinking behind it is very real, said Talley. Ever since new general manager Christa Kramer arrived in 2018, Talley said the store has increased sales, owners, and the number of local farmers it works with. Most importantly, he said, prices have decreased.

I think people have the opinion that were this fancy grocery store, Talley said. But were really just a community-owned coop who wants to provide good, healthy food to our community, whether youre wearing a bathrobe or a suit.

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