As a newly married man in Singapore many years ago, my hairdresser once asked me when my wife and I were going to have our first child. I replied, like many people do even today, that it was too expensive to have a child and to bring one up. He said that people who were earning a fraction of what we were and living in a one-room flat were still able to have two children and bring them up, and so could we. <\/p>\n
It is a truism that we put up with hardships to do things we want to do while making a lot of excuses to justify what we dont want to do. <\/p>\n
Travelling between northeast Asian countries such as Japan and Hong Kong and Southeast Asian countries such as Malaysia and the Philippines, one is struck by children running all over the place in public places in the generally poorer Southeast Asian nations and the grim old people walking stiffly in north Asian societies. Affluent Singapore, though in Southeast Asia, is an exception, but even within Singapore it is the less affluent Singaporeans who seem to be having more children. <\/p>\n
Personal experience and statistics show that merely giving a bigger flat to an average Hong Kong family wont solve the problem of demographic extinction that is looming over the city, which has one of the lowest fertility rates in the world, at 1.2. <\/p>\n
Societies are like individuals, too; some are energetic and outward-looking during periods of their life, while at other times, anomie takes over. Thats when individuals and societies go through life depressed and fearful while trying to hide it with empty indulgences, whether it is drinking or shopping, which one American philosopher called joyless hedonism. <\/p>\n
Hong Kong is only an extreme and concentrated example of what will happen in other societies soon <\/p>\n
Until this value system changes, many affluent societies of today will become so depressed that they will commit demographic suicide. <\/p>\n
The rich and powerful, as those who have read about the ancient feudal male rulers with their large harems will know, used to take delight in fathering as many children as possible. Genghis Khan seems to have fathered so many children that his genetic marker is said to be found in about 10 per cent of the population within the old Mongol empire. <\/p>\n
Female queens such as Elizabeth I, who died childless, do not seem to have shared the desires of male despots to breed aggressively. <\/p>\n
Perhaps the main reason why modern societies, still dominated by men, are not increasing even at replacement levels must be that the affluent world still has not found a way to reorganise itself into a female and therefore family friendly way. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n
Philippine President Rodrigo Duterte and South African President Jacob Zuma openly flaunt their multiple relationships. Yet in the European Union where an entire continent seems to be marching like lemmings to demographic suicide many leaders are childless and may therefore be less likely to promote child-friendly policies. Among the current European leaders without children are Germanys Angela Merkel, Frances Emmanuel Macron, British Prime Minister Theresa May, Dutch Prime Minister Mark Rutte, Italian Prime Minister Paolo Gentiloni, Swedish Prime Minister Stefan Lofven, Scotlands First Minister Nicola Sturgeon, and Jean-Claude Juncker, president of European Commission. <\/p>\n
Children are even seen as a nuisance by some in Northern Europe. As one of my European friends pointed out, many restaurants in Germany will not allow children in but are happy to accommodate pet owners and their dogs! However, it is something of a mystery why Italy, where the Italian Mother is celebrated and whose main religion is Catholicism, also has a low birth rate. <\/p>\n
We read about war-devastated societies such as Germany and Japan or post-war Vietnam springing back to life in a couple of decades, only to seem to lose the will to reproduce within a generation. It really does seem that T.S. Eliot was right and that end of the world will come not with a bang but a whimper, but it will not be a whimper from a baby. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n
There have also been societies slowly committing suicide while competing to raise tall structures. No, we are not talking about Hong Kong but, rather, remote Easter Island in the Pacific and the haunting stone structures that are the only ones left behind after that society committed suicide by cutting down all its trees while trying to raise ever more tall stone structures. History records that the population collapsed after the trees were gone and the few who were left behind were taken by slave ships to work in the mines of Latin America. <\/p>\n
When asked about the meaning of life and civilisation, Karl Marx, known for getting to the point quickly, said that it is production and reproduction. Modern societies have succeeded spectacularly on the production front but have failed equally spectacularly on the reproduction front. Hong Kong is only an extreme and concentrated example of what will happen in other societies soon. <\/p>\n
For the record, I should state that we have just one child, therefore not enough for replacement and even lower than Hong Kongs average of 1.2 per woman. We did try to beat the average, but without success. <\/p>\n
N. Balakrishnan is a former foreign correspondent and an entrepreneur in Southeast Asia and India <\/p>\n
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