{"id":190630,"date":"2017-05-02T22:46:08","date_gmt":"2017-05-03T02:46:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.euvolution.com\/prometheism-transhumanism-posthumanism\/before-michelle-barack-obama-asked-another-woman-to-marry-him-then-politics-got-in-the-way-washington-post\/"},"modified":"2017-05-02T22:46:08","modified_gmt":"2017-05-03T02:46:08","slug":"before-michelle-barack-obama-asked-another-woman-to-marry-him-then-politics-got-in-the-way-washington-post","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.euvolution.com\/prometheism-transhumanism-posthumanism\/conscious-evolution\/before-michelle-barack-obama-asked-another-woman-to-marry-him-then-politics-got-in-the-way-washington-post\/","title":{"rendered":"Before Michelle, Barack Obama asked another woman to marry him. Then politics got in the way. &#8211; Washington Post"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><p>    RISING STAR: The Making of Barack Obama  <\/p>\n<p>    By David J. Garrow.  <\/p>\n<p>    William Morrow. 1,460 pp. $45.  <\/p>\n<p>    Of the books that journalists and historians have written on    the life of Barack Obama, three stand out so far. In     Barack Obama: The Story, David Maraniss shows us who    Obama is. In     Reading Obama, James T. Kloppenberg explains how Obama    thinks. In     The Bridge, David Remnick tells us what Obama means.  <\/p>\n<p>    Now, in a probing new biography,     Rising Star, David J. Garrow attempts to do all that, but    also something more: He tells us how Obama lived, and explores    the calculations he made in the decades leading up to his    winning the presidency. Garrow portrays Obama as a man who    ruthlessly compartmentalized his existence; who believed early    on that he was fated for greatness; and who made emotional    sacrifices in the pursuit of a goal that must have seemed    unlikely to everyone but him. Every step  whether his foray    into community organizing, Harvard Law School, even the choice    of whom to love  was not just about living a life but about    fulfilling a destiny.  <\/p>\n<p>    It is in the personal realm that Garrows account is    particularly revealing. He shares for the first time the story    of a woman Obama lived with and loved in Chicago, in the years    before he met Michelle, and whom he asked to marry him. Sheila    Miyoshi Jager, now a professor at Oberlin College, is a    recurring presence in Rising Star, and her pained, drawn-out    relationship with Obama informs both his will to rise in    politics and the trade-offs he deems necessary to do so.    Garrow, who received a Pulitzer Prize for his biography of    Martin Luther King Jr., concludes this massive new work with a    damning verdict on Obamas determination: While the crucible    of self-creation had produced an ironclad will, the vessel was    hollow at its core.  <\/p>\n<p>    ***  <\/p>\n<p>    By now the broad contours of the Obama story are well known,    not least because Obama has     repeated them so often. With Kansas and Kenya in his veins,    he carries Indonesia in his memory, Hawaii in his smile,    Harvard in his brain and, most of all, Chicago in his soul. It    wasnt until I moved to Chicago and became a community    organizer that I think I really grew into myself in terms of my    identity, he said in an interview about     Dreams From My Father, his 1995 memoir. I connected in a    very direct way with the African American community in Chicago    and was able to walk away with a sense of self-understanding    and empowerment.  <\/p>\n<p>    Note how it was as much about Obama himself as any success he    had in his organizing work. Inspired by Harold Washington, the    citys first black mayor, Obama began to discuss his political    ambitions with a few colleagues and friends during his early    time in the city. He wanted to be mayor of Chicago. Or a U.S.    senator. Or governor of Illinois. Or perhaps he would enter the    ministry. Or, as he confided to very few, such as Jager, he    would become president of the United States. Lofty stuff for a    20-something community organizer who struggled to write fiction    on the side.  <\/p>\n<p>    Jager, who in Dreams From My Father was virtually written    out, compressed into a single character along with two prior    Obama girlfriends, may have evoked something of Obamas distant    mother, Stanley Ann Dunham. Like Dunham, Jager studied    anthropology, and while Dunham focused on Indonesia, Jager    developed a deep expertise in the Korean Peninsula. Jager was    of Dutch and Japanese ancestry, fitting the multicultural world    Obama was only starting to leave behind. They were a natural    fit. Jager soon came to realize, she told Garrow, that Obama    had a deep-seated need to be loved and admired.  <\/p>\n<p>      During his public life, President      Barack Obama has often turned to his personal story as a      touchstone to relate to the public. Here are four moments      that stand out. (Adriana Usero\/The Washington Post)    <\/p>\n<p>    She describes their life together as an isolating experience,    an island unto ourselves in which Obama would    compartmentalize his work and home life. She did not meet    Jeremiah Wright, the pastor with a growing influence on Obama,    and they rarely saw his professional colleagues socially. The    friends they saw were often graduate students at the University    of Chicago, where Sheila was pursuing her doctorate. They    traveled together to meet her family as well as his. Soon they    began speaking of marriage.  <\/p>\n<p>    In the winter of 86, when we visited my parents, he asked me    to marry him, she told Garrow. Her parents were opposed, less    for any racial reasons (Barack came across to them like a    white, middle-class kid, a close family friend said) than for    concern about Obamas professional prospects, and because her    mother thought Sheila, two years Obamas junior, was too young.    Not yet, Sheila told Barack. But they stayed together.  <\/p>\n<p>    In early 1987, when Obama was 25, she sensed a change. He    became. . . so very ambitious very suddenly, she told Garrow.    I remember very clearly when this transformation happened, and    I remember very specifically that by 1987, about a year into    our relationship, he already had his sights on becoming    president.  <\/p>\n<p>    The sense of destiny is not unusual among those who become    president. (See Clinton, Bill.) But it created complications.    Obama believed that he had a calling, Garrow writes, and in    his case it was coupled with a heightened awareness that to    pursue it he had to fully identify as African American.  <\/p>\n<p>        [The racial procrastination of Barack Obama]  <\/p>\n<p>    Maranisss 2012 biography deftly describes Obamas     conscious evolution from a multicultural, internationalist    self-perception toward a distinctly African American one, and    Garrow puts this transition into an explicitly political    context. For black politicians in Chicago, he writes, a    non-African-American spouse could be a liability. He cites the    example of Richard H. Newhouse Jr., a legendary African    American state senator in Illinois, who was married to a white    woman and endured whispers that he talks black but sleeps    white. And Carol Moseley Braun, who during the 1990s served    Illinois as the first female African American U.S. senator and    whose ex-husband was white, admitted that an interracial    marriage really restricts your political options.  <\/p>\n<p>    Discussions of race and politics suddenly overwhelmed Sheila    and Baracks relationship. The marriage discussions dragged on    and on, but now they were clouded by Obamas torment over    this central issue of his life . . . race and identity, Sheila    recalls. The resolution of his black identity was directly    linked to his decision to pursue a political career, she said.  <\/p>\n<p>    In Garrows telling, Obama made emotional judgments on    political grounds. A close mutual friend of the couple recalls    Obama explaining that the lines are very clearly drawn. ...    If I am going out with a white woman, I have no standing here.    And friends remember an awkward gathering at a summer house,    where Obama and Jager engaged in a loud, messy fight on the    subject for an entire afternoon. (Thats wrong! Thats wrong!    Thats not a reason, they heard Sheila yell from their guest    room, their arguments punctuated by bouts of makeup sex.) Obama    cared for her, Garrow writes, yet he felt trapped between the    woman he loved and the destiny he knew was his.  <\/p>\n<p>    Just days before he would depart for Harvard Law School  and    when the relationship was already coming apart  Obama asked    her to come with him and get married, mostly, I think, out of    a sense of desperation over our eventual parting and not in any    real faith in our future, Sheila explained to Garrow. At the    time, she was heading to Seoul for dissertation research, and    she resented his assumption she would automatically postpone    her career for his. More arguments ensued, and each went their    way, although not for good.  <\/p>\n<p>    ***  <\/p>\n<p>    At Harvard, the Obama the world has come to know took clearer    form. In his late 20s now and slightly older than most    classmates, he had a compulsion to orate in class and summarize    other peoples arguments for them. In law school the only    thing I would have voted for Obama to do would have been to    shut up, one student told Garrow. Classmates created a    Obamanometer, ranking how pretentious someones remarks are in    class.  <\/p>\n<p>        [A literary guide to hating Barack Obama]  <\/p>\n<p>    Such complaints aside, he was generally admired, including by    his professors, one of whom wrote a final exam question around    comments Obama had made in class. And his elevation to the    presidency of the Harvard Law Review, the first time for an    African American, signaled the respect the schools elite    students had for him  even if some liberal classmates later    regretted their choice, finding Obama too conciliatory toward    conservatives in their midst. Garrow re-creates the drama    around the election, with Law Review colleagues debating the    candidates legal acumen and leadership skills, as well as the    possible history-making aspect of the selection. It is an    unexpectedly riveting part of the book. The black editors on    the staff began crying and running and hugging when the final    choice was made  and with the national news coverage that    followed, Obamas star was on the rise.  <\/p>\n<p>    Law school also provided Obama one of his most important    intellectual interlocutors: classmate and economist Rob Fisher.    They took multiple classes together and co-wrote a    never-published book on public policy, titled Transformative    Politics or Promises of Democracy: Hopeful Critiques of    American Ideology. The manuscript explored the political    failures of the left and right and expounded on markets, race    and democratic dialogue, showing glimmers of the political    philosophy and rhetoric that Obama would come to embrace. A few    years later, Fisher helped Obama rethink Dreams From My    Father (originally titled Journeys in Black and White),    making it less a policy book and more a personal one.  <\/p>\n<p>    Obama had met Michelle Robinson at the Chicago law firm where    she worked  and where he was a summer associate  after his    first year of law school, and the couple quickly became    serious. However, Jager, who soon arrived at Harvard on a    teaching fellowship, was not entirely out of his life.  <\/p>\n<p>    Barack and Sheila had continued to see each other irregularly    throughout the 1990-91 academic year, notwithstanding the    deepening of Baracks relationship with Michelle Robinson,    Garrow writes. (I always felt bad about it, Sheila told the    author more than two decades later. Once Barack and Michelle    were married, his personal ties to Sheila was reduced to the    occasional letter (such as after the 9\/11 attacks) and phone    call (when he reached out to ask whether a biographer had    contacted her).  <\/p>\n<p>    If Garrow is correct in concluding that Obamas romantic    choices were influenced by his political ambitions, it is no    small irony that Michelle Obama became one of those most    skeptical about Obamas political prospects, and most dubious    about his will to rise. She constantly discourages his efforts    toward elective office and resents the time he spends away from    her and their two young daughters. Obama vented to a friend how    often Michelle would talk about money. Why dont you go out    and get a good job? Youre a lawyer  you can make all the    money we need, she would tell him, as the couple struggled    with student loans and the demands of family and political    life. (Garrow sides with Michelle, highlighting how, on the day    after Sasha was born, Barack went downtown for a meeting.)  <\/p>\n<p>        [The self-referential presidency of Barack Obama]  <\/p>\n<p>    As he considered a U.S. Senate bid, Obamas team commissioned a    poll that covered, among other questions, his name. Barry, as    he was known from childhood into his early college years,    polled better than Barack, but Obama never considered    resurrecting the old name. He had made his choice, of identity    and image, long ago. Sheila recalls that one of the few times    Obama became genuinely angry with her was in Hawaii, when she    heard relatives calling him Barry, and she did so as well, just    for fun. He became irrationally furious, she said. He told    me that under no circumstances was I ever to use that name with    him.  <\/p>\n<p>    There was no going back.  <\/p>\n<p>    ***  <\/p>\n<p>    Rising Star is exhaustive, but only occasionally exhausting.    Garrow zooms his lens out far, for instance when he recounts    the evisceration of Chicagos steel industry in the early    1980s, providing useful context for Obamas subsequent work.    And he goes deliciously small-bore, too, delving into the    culture of the Illinois statehouse, where poker was intense and    infidelity was rampant. Theres a lot of people who fed in    Springfield, a female lobbyist tells Garrow. What else is    there to do? Obama, however, did not. Michelle would kick my    butt, he told a colleague there. At times Garrow delivers    information simply because he has it; I did not need a detailed    readout of all of Obamas course evaluations from his years    teaching at the University of Chicagos law school. (Turns out    his students liked him.)  <\/p>\n<p>    The books title seems chosen with a sense of irony. Garrow    shows how media organizations invariably described Obama as a    rising star, in almost self-fulfilling fashion. Yet, after    nine years of research and reporting, Garrow does not appear    too impressed by his subject, even if he recognizes Obamas    historical importance.  <\/p>\n<p>    The author is harsh but persuasive in his reading of Dreams    From My Father, for instance, calling it not a memoir but a    work of historical fiction, one in which the most important    composite character was the narrator himself. (Reviewers were    impressed by it, but few who knew Obama well seemed to    recognize the man in its pages.) He points out that Obamas        cocaine use extended into his post-college years, longer    than Obama had previously acknowledged. And he suggests Obama    deployed religion for political purposes; while campaigning for    the U.S. Senate, Garrow notes, Obama began toting around a    Bible and exhibited a greater religious faith than close    acquaintances had ever previously sensed.  <\/p>\n<p>    Throughout the book, Obama displays an almost petulant    dissatisfaction with each step he took to reach the Oval    Office. Community organizing is not ambitious enough, he    decides, so he goes to law school. But then he moves into    politics because I saw the law as being inadequate to the task    of achieving social change, Obama explains. In Springfield,    he is again disillusioned by the realization that politics is    a business . . . an activity thats designed to advance ones    career, accumulate resources and help ones friends, as    opposed to a mission.And upon reaching the U.S. Senate,    he tells National Journal that he is surprised by the lack of    deliberation in the worlds greatest deliberative body.    Nothing measures up.  <\/p>\n<p>    Rising Star concludes with Obama announcing his presidential    campaign, and Garrow speeds through the Obama presidency in a    clunky and tacky epilogue, in which he recaps the growing media    disenchantment with Obama and goes out of his way to cite    unfavorable reviews of earlier Obama biographies. (Come on,    David. Other books can be good.) In his acknowledgments,    Garrow says that Obama granted him eight hours of    off-the-record conversations and even read the bulk of the    manuscript. His understandable remaining disagreements  some    strong indeed  with multiple characterizations and    interpretations contained herein do not lessen my deep    thankfulness for his appreciation of the scholarly seriousness    with which I have pursued this project, Garrow writes.  <\/p>\n<p>    That is Obama now: a scholarly project, a figure of history.    After the eight years of his presidency, it is odd to consider    him in the past tense. Yes, he remains a public figure, as the    mini-controversy over his speaking fees shows, and he is not    going away, and certainly not with a post-presidential memoir    still coming. But now he is fighting for history and legacy,    and one of those battles is against another figure whose ascent    is even more bizarre, yet perhaps no less personally    preordained.  <\/p>\n<p>    Obama had considered Donald Trump long before either man won    the presidency, and brushed off his existence as a misguided    national fantasy. Americans have a continuing normative    commitment to the ideals of individual freedom and mobility,    Obama wrote in the old Harvard book manuscript, now more than    25 years old. The depth of this commitment may be summarily    dismissed as the unfounded optimism of the average American  I    may not be Donald Trump now, but just you wait; if I dont make    it, my children will.  <\/p>\n<p>    Follow Carlos Lozada on    Twitter and read his     latest reviews, including:  <\/p>\n<p>        The liberal war over the Obama legacy has already begun  <\/p>\n<p>        How Clinton and Obama tried to run the world  while trying to    manage each other  <\/p>\n<p>        The case for impeaching President Donald J. Trump. 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