Increasing numbers of peoplein the United States, and in many other countries around the globe, are living child-free, either because they are delaying having children or forgoing parenthood altogether. Census data from 2015, the latest numbers available, shows that nearly half of women ages15 to 44 dont have kids, which is the highest its been since the Census Bureau started recording these statistics. <\/p>\n
And while the percentage of women who make it into their 40s without having childrenhas fallen some since a high in 2006, a Pew Research review of government datashows that15 percent of American women in their 40s have never had a baby. <\/p>\n
But while being childless is more common than ever, the social stigma attached to childlessness is still going strong, according to research done by LeslieAshburn-Nardo, an associate professor of psychology at Indiana University-Purdue University Indianapolis. Ashburn-Nardo recently published a study in the journal Sex Rolesthat shows that the shifts in social norms have not significantly reduced negative attitudes toward the deliberately child-free. <\/p>\n
Sheargued in an interview byphone that when we encounter people who violate, in some way, these strongly prescribed roles or norms, like interest in having children, then theres great potential for social backlash. She added, We feel like people are morally defective in their decision or behavior, and were motivated to punish them in some way, usually social sanction. <\/p>\n
Ashburn-Nardo was curious to see if the increasingly high rates of childlessness in our culture werereducing the amount of social judgment against the deliberately child-free. To test this, she brought in a group of 204 undergraduate psychology students, under the pretense of testing their ability to predict the future, and had them read a short vignette about a former student who had married his or her college sweetheart.Half the students read about someone who had chosen to have two children, and half read about a personwho had electedto have none. They were then asked to fill out a survey to measure their attitudes about the former student. <\/p>\n
Despite living in the 21st century and being, as college students, mostly childless themselves the survey takers were just as disapproving and disgusted with those who had decided against having children as similar survey takers were in the 1970s and 80s. <\/p>\n
Those who were voluntarily child-free elicited greater moral outrage and were also seen as being less psychologically fulfilled, Ashburn-Nardo explained.To me, that really is indicative not just of a descriptive norm of whats happening in the world, but more of a prescriptive, like this is an expectation that people should want to have children. <\/p>\n
What was particularly interesting, Ashburn-Nardo pointed out, wasthat survey takerspredicted that this choice to be childless would make the hypothetical couple unhappy.She pointed out that other studies have repeatedly shown the opposite to be true. Research shows that child-free people are just as satisfied with their lives as parentsare. In fact, childfree people tend to be happier on a day-to-day basis, and significantly more satisfied with their marriages. <\/p>\n
Backlash theory, however, might explain whats going on here. As Ashburn-Nardo pointed out, when we feel moral outrage toward someone, as the surveytakers did toward the deliberately childless, we want to see them punished. Perhaps the prediction that the childless couple would be unhappy wasa kind of wishful thinking. People want to believe that those who dont have children will suffer because they believe, on some level, that the child-freeshould suffer. <\/p>\n
Anti-choice activistscan safely be seen as the most ardent believers inthe notion that parenthood is a duty, not a choice, and therefore the most invested in the idea that those who defy social expectations byrejecting the opportunity to have a baby should suffer for their choices. Sure enough, the anti-choice movement is permeated with the myth of abortion regret, the idea that women who choose to have abortions will suffer from depression and even suicidal thoughts afterward. <\/p>\n
There is no evidence whatsoever that women who have abortionshave regret, never mindserious mental health problems. On the contrary, repeated research has shown that womenwho have abortions do just fine compared withwomen who dont.But anti-choice activists so desperately want women who have abortions to suffer that they have convinced themselves that abortion regret is a real thing.The surveytakers who believed it was wrong to be child-free and who thought that those who choose it will suffer may be expressing a more muted variation of the same impulse. <\/p>\n
One interesting finding from Ashburn-Nardos study was that the surveytakers didnot differentiate between men and women when passing judgment on those who are voluntarily childless. The students had beendivided into four groups: One group read about a childless man, the second set read about a childless woman, the third cluster about a woman with two children and the final group read about a man with two children. <\/p>\n
Ashburn-Nardo had expected, she said, that the childless woman would elicit more moral outrage than the childless man. That wasnt the case. Both men and women were negatively judged for choosing not to have children. Women may be expected to invest more heavily in parenthood, butpeople still think theres something wrong with a man who doesnt want to have kids. <\/p>\n
These findings are particularly interesting in light of polling data, collected by Gallup, that shows thatAmericans increasingly rate premarital sex, birth control and abortion as morally acceptable. But Ashburn-Nardos research suggests that while Americans might be more comfortable with separating sex fromchildbearing, there is still a lot of discomfort aboutpeople who refuse to become parents at all. <\/p>\n
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